We sat down with BDSM & rope bondage superstars, Graydancer & Naiia, to talk about the BDSM “scene”. Some assume this group is ripe with open communication, ethical behavior, and clearly negotiated consent because those concepts are cornerstones of BDSM. It turns out kink communities have their fair share of toxicity and inequity too-- just like most other social groups. Gray & Naiia share some innovative perspectives on these issues and discuss possible solutions. They’ve even implemented some themselves, namely popularizing an “open source” style conference model that is revolutionizing the way the rope and kink communities operate. Interestingly, this conversation doesn’t just apply to kink-- most communities (yoga, theater, work groups, bowling leagues-- you name it!) can benefit from this episode. Appropriately we recorded this live at the COPE BDSM conference which was the perfect backdrop! (Original photo used in our episode art by Mistress Mayhem) Call in your BDSM & sex advice questions to our voicemail line 773-MUFF-TOY (we may play your message on air) or by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, blooper reels, stuff in the mail & more!) Enter our monthly sex toy giveaway at sunnymegatron.com/prettyloveford Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com Join our mailing list by texting MEGATRON to 444999 Sunny & Ken, xo! ____________________________________ Episode 52 Links Graydancer Website  http://graydancer.com Naiia Website  http://naiiabound.com Grue Website http://GRUE.space Ropecraft Website  http://ROPECRAFT.net $10 off Ropecraft Austin, TX in October 2018 with code SUNNY Graydancer “kinky sketchnotes” Patreon http://patreon.com/graydancer Graydancer Twitter https://twitter.com/Graydancer Naiia Twitter https://twitter.com/naiia Kink Academy online learning video library  http://bit.ly/kinkacademy Uberrime Dildos https://www.peepshowtoys.com/collections/uberrime-handmade-dildos Sunny Megatron Instagram/IGTV (please help us get to 10k to unlock more business features!) instagram.com/sunnymegatron $100 off Midori’s Forte Femme  August (San Fransisco) - use code sunny http://www.fortefemme.com/ Episode 52 Sponsor & Giveaway Info 10% off your entire peepshowtoys.com order with code SUNNY. Pretty Love Ford clitoral silicone stimulator giveaway ($69 value) provided by Castle Megastore. Entrants must be over 18, US resident, no purchase necessary. Visit the giveaway page for details and to enter: http://sunnymegatron.com/prettyloveford 20% off your order at http://castlemegastore.com when you use code SUNNY at checkout (limited restrictions apply)