The Problem with Being Goal-Oriented

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The Problem with Being Goal-Oriented

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Nov 27, 2018

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The problem with being goal-oriented and future-focused is that at no given point are you where you want to be. When one eye is fixed upon the destination, only one eye is left with which to find the way.

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Nov 27, 2018

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The Problem with Being Goal-Oriented

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