Safe Haven

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Safe Haven

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Nov 10, 2023

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Your home and your friendships, relationships, or marriage, are to be your safe haven and happy place, not another battle you have to fight. May we all Live In Peace.

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Nov 10, 2023

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The intention is to awaken, enlighten, enrich and inspire. Timber Hawkeye, bestselling author of Buddhist Boot Camp and Faithfully Religionless, offers a secular approach to being at peace with the world, both within and around us. As the Dalai Lama says, "Don't try to use what you learn from Buddhism to be a Buddhist, use it to be a better whatever-you-already-are."

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September 2017 Q&A: A couple of questions from this month's live stream. The first is about boundaries with an estranged family member, and the other is about the two ways in which we get our sense of self-worth and value. Prepare questions in advance for next month's... by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
6 min listen
Labels: I am a lot of things and not one of them defines me. You are also many things, so don't limit yourself to just a few. Do you enjoy these podcasts? Please show your support on http://www.patreon.com/buddhistbootcamp by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
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The Origin of Anger: Anger is a mask that covers hurt feelings or fear. If we learn to explain our anger instead of expressing it, we will immediately move away from hatred and rage, and gently open the door to solutions and understanding. by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
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Introduction: What Buddhist Boot Camp is All About: This episode is about the back story of Buddhist Boot Camp, and how the blog to book to podcast came to be. by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
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Healthy Relationships: Growing away from possessiveness toward a collaboration and co-creation of transformative relationships. by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
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Hurt Feelings: If you regularly blame other people for something that is not their fault, then you also make it their job to fix what is your own responsibility to maintain, like your inner peace. Do you enjoy these podcasts? Please show your support on... by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
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Pray, Meditate, or Both?: The differences and similarities between prayer and meditation, and how each supports the other. by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
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Less is More: Mindful money and time management, raising awareness of our habits, value assessments, enjoying the freedom that accompanies having less instead of more, and introducing joy to generosity. Do you have spending habits or investment habits? Your... by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
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Don't Play the Blame Game: If you respond to any situation in life by saying, “This shouldn’t be happening,” you will experience anger, anxiety, despair, and hopelessness, which are significantly worse than the situation itself. We have a choice: we can either resist... by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
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Bad Mood: There is a difference between always being happy and always being in a good mood. Do you enjoy these podcasts? Please show your support on http://www.patreon.com/buddhistbootcamp You can also listen on iTunes: http://tinyurl.com/BBCPodcast-Apple ... by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
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Decision Fatigue: Simplify your life even more, and avoid decision fatigue, by setting certain standards for yourself in advance. This way almost every decision would already be made for you, by you, ahead of time. by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
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Zoom Out: If we focus on everything that's wrong in the world or in our lives, then we're overlooking everything that's right. The trick is to zoom out and look at the big picture. by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
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Faithfully Religionless: On a slightly more serious note, in this podcast episode, I explain why I'm "Faithfully Religionless." Not against religion, just don't think we need one in order to be ethical or to have faith. The next episode will be shorter and more lighthearted,... by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
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Grasping and Letting Go: The way we do one thing is the way we do everything. If we practice letting go of the little things, we exercise the same muscle with which we can then let go of the big stuff in life (from old opinions, beliefs, judgments, and resentments). by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
6 min listen
Relax? What's That?: We can only use the problem-solving tools we've got, which is why it's best to have a wide selection instead of just one. Those with only a hammer try to solve everything by beating it to death (not an ideal solution in circumstances that call for a... by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
6 min listen
Life is a Piece of Cake: Before adding stuff to your life in an ongoing effort to make it better, contemplate what you can take out that's making it less than ideal in the first place. It could be a person, a job, a closely-held belief, perspective, attitude, opinion, etc. by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
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Part 2 of Understanding Hatred: Summary of comments from the live online discussion about the previous podcast episode regarding understanding hatred. by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
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Letting Go of Judgment: Replacing the habit of comparing with accepting. by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
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Forgiveness: Forgiveness is a gift that you give to yourself. by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
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Life as an Experiment: Everything is subject to time, place, and circumstance, so stay flexible, fluid, and open-minded. Celebrate Impermanence! by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
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Family: The important difference between Family and Relatives. by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
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Are you behind the wheel?: If life is a road trip in the car, who is driving and deciding which path to take? Are you behind the wheel, or did you get on a bus with millions of other people, all living the same life, heading in the same direction, just sitting there...... by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
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Core Values: You can't be happy if you're not living in line with your own core values. And you can't live in line with your values if you don't even know what they are. Companies have a vision statement, code of conduct, and ethics that they strive to operate by.... by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
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A Christmas Story (Kind of): The first chapter from Faithfully Religionless. by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
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Let Go Or Be Dragged: Is it the load that breaks our backs or the way we carry it? by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
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Perspective, Progress, Purpose: We either enjoy the ebb and flow of the tide, or we try to fight the ocean. Pain is inevitable; suffering is optional. by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
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Training the Mind: Ever want to focus on something but your mind keeps drifting away to whatever IT wants to think about, or really want to stop thinking about something but your mind "can't help it?" That's because you've never trained your mind to listen to you, and... by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
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Is It True Love?: If true love is unconditional, then if you only love someone because they love you back (or with the expectation that they always will), is it love at all? by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
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August 2017 Q&A: This month's recording of the live Q&A hosted on Facebook was about breakups, death, jealousy, kids, marriage, and unreasonable expectations. To find out when the next live Q&A will take place, subscribe to our monthly email at... by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
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Sample Chapters from Buddhist Boot Camp: A couple of sample chapters from Buddhist Boot Camp. Each chapter is only a page or two long and can be read in any order. Keep a copy of the book on your nightstand and read just one chapter each day. by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
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Ceasefire: As long as I think there is a war inside of me, the battle will continue, but struggle is not a requirement. We can call a truce, enter a peace agreement, and stop fighting. If we want inner-peace, we must be peaceful. by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
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Pace: My nose was congested when recording this on the first day I finally felt well enough to tape this episode. If you don't make time for your wellness, you will be forced to take time for your illness. Case in point! Life is not a race. People say they... by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
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What Else?: This is a coping skill when we are overwhelmed by a strong feeling that overshadows everything else. My takeaway: if it's not time to hit the Panic Button, don't hit the Panic Button! :) by Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast
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