Me and My OCD: My Road to Recovery
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Lily Françoise Millet
Lily Françoise Millet is a writer and emeritus professor. She wrote the book Me and My OCD, from the perspective of one who has the disorder and whose child has the disorder. She writes of her life with this mental illness, her marriage, her parenting, her faith, and most important of all, her recovery.
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Me and My OCD - Lily Françoise Millet
Me and My OCD
My Road to Recovery
Lily Françoise Millet
Me and My OCD
My Road to Recovery
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Lily Françoise Millet. All rights reserved. Except for brief quotations in critical publications or reviews, no part of this book may be reproduced in any manner without prior written permission from the publisher. Write: Permissions, Wipf and Stock Publishers,
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Table of Contents
Title Page
Dedication
Abbreviations
Preface
Acknowledgements
Introduction
She
Chapter 1. She
College
Chapter 2. Leaving Home
Chapter 3. Vietnam
Chapter 4. The World Food Crisis
Chapter 5. An Escape
Chapter 6. Paul
Chapter 7. That First Night
Chapter 8. Happiness Ended
Chapter 9. The Counsellors
Chapter 10. The Homecoming
My Childhood
Chapter 11. The Family We Lived With
Chapter 12. The Family We Were Related To
Chapter 13. Waiting for my Mother
Chapter 14. Waiting for my Father
Chapter 15. Good Times with My Dad
Chapter 16. Good Times with My Mom
Chapter 17. The Parties
Chapter 18. Laughing at Me
Chapter 19. Jodie
Chapter 20. Our Mom’s Denial
Teenhood and Adulthood
Chapter 21. Politics and Noise
Chapter 22. What Happened to Our Mother
Chapter 23. The Crazy Part
Chapter 24. A Memory of my Mother
Chapter 25. My Dad
Chapter 26. A Dream
Chapter 27. A Memory of my Dad
Chapter 28. A Resolution for my Grandma
Chapter 29. Time Spent with my Mother’s Sister
Dear Paul
Chapter 30. My OCD
Chapter 31. The Rules
Chapter 32. Hell
Chapter 33. Reassurance
Chapter 34. The Professionals
Chapter 35. The Road Trips
Chapter 36. Food
Chapter 37. Mortal Sin
Chapter 38. Fixing the Rules
Chapter 39. It Just Got Worse
Dear Paul, Again
Chapter 40. College
Chapter 41. Church
Chapter 42. Graduate School
Chapter 43. Graduate Work
Chapter 44. Meeting People
Chapter 45. The Farmhouse
Chapter 46. The Country House
Chapter 47. Those Who Escaped
Chapter 48. The Other Deaths
Chapter 49. The Invasion of Iraq
Chapter 50. My Dad Died
Chapter 51. I Nearly Died
Chapter 52. My Mom
Chapter 53. The Depth of my Pain
Recovery
Chapter 54. The Need for Certainty
Chapter 55. The Need for Decisions
Chapter 56. The First Day of the Rest of my Life
Chapter 57. A Vicious Malevolent Thing
Chapter 58. My Work Helped Me
Chapter 59. If You Have OCD
Chapter 60. A Few More Thoughts
Chapter 61. One More Thing
Chapter 62. If Your Child has OCD
Chapter 63. If You’re in an Unhealthy Romantic Relationship
Chapter 64. An Optimistic Note
Chapter 65. Notes on my Writing
Chapter 66. My Theology
Chapter 67. Musicians and Music Titles
Bibliography
Dedication
This book is dedicated to Sinéad O’Connor, who was like a little sister or a younger version of myself. We were conflicted about the same things—the Irish Republican Army, the hierarchy of the Church. Like me, she didn’t always know what she was doing. But—she was brave, she was beautiful, and she was broken. She used her angelic voice to evoke pride in the word Mandinka, to condemn a Famine that wasn’t a famine, and to presage Black Lives Matter with Black Boys on Mopeds. She died at age 56 on July 26, 2023. I wish you had persevered, little sister, but a part of you is still within me. If you or someone you know is considering suicide, please call the national suicide hotline at 988. I really do care about you. We are survivors.
Abbreviations
ADHD Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder
AIDS Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome
ANTIFA anti-fascist
CNN Cable News Network.
COVID-19 Coronavirus Disease 2019
DACA Deferred Action on Childhood Arrivals
ESPN Entertainment and Sports Programming Network
ICE Immigration and Customs Enforcement
LGBTQ lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (or questioning).
MSNBC Microsoft National Broadcasting Company
NATO North Atlantic Treaty Organization
OCD Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
TPS Temporary Protected Status
USA or US United States of America
UN United Nations
Preface
This book was painful for me to write because it brought back memories and forced me to admit embarrassing parts of my life. Yet it some ways it helped me. It was somewhat like writing in a journal. It helps record and clarify things. If you or a loved one suffers from OCD, there is help. Please contact International OCD Foundation at http://www/iocdfoundation.org. If you or a loved one is contemplating suicide, please contact the suicide hotline at 988. I hope this book is useful to the lay public, to those who suffer or have loved ones who suffer with OCD, for those who practice psychiatry and therapy, and for those who teach psychiatry or abnormal psychology and their students. If you suffer from OCD, I hope this book can also give you some comfort, some hope, and a means to recovery. I care about you.
Acknowledgements
Thank you to the kind, wise, and empathetic priest who helped me get through all this. You know who you are. I am eternally grateful.
Introduction
The book begins with my childhood and college years; then returns back to my childhood, teen hood, and adulthood. Then, in the form of a letter to the man I married in college, I return to my childhood, the onset of my OCD and my family environment, my college and graduate school days, and our lives together after graduate school. The book ends with my recovery and my thoughts about recovery for those who bear the debilitating hopelessness and helplessness of OCD. There is truly hope!
She
Chapter 1. She
She was a lonely child.
It was better that way.
Then people didn’t know how stupid she was . . .
Or how much she hated herself . . .
It’s not that she really was stupid. In fact, she was smart. But she didn’t have a word for what she was, so she chose stupid.
She did things no one else did. She had thoughts no one else had. And she hurt in ways no one else did.
She had two friends, but she never told them about herself. She didn’t tell them why she was there sometimes, and sometimes she wasn’t.
She had one sister. They were close. She loved her more than anyone else. She told her very little.
At night, she cried. She cried herself to sleep. No one knew she was crying. No one even knew she was sad.
College
Chapter 2. Leaving Home
There was something about leaving home for college that was a good thing. There was a sense of freedom. I was never really free, but this was different. It felt a little better. I did some things. Some normal things.
No one knew me here—no one knew what I was or what I had done. I could be whoever I wanted to be. No one knew I