Spirituality and Sexuality Within Marriage: A Bond Designed and Created by God!

By Linda M. Horne and Victor C. Horne

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• Language: English
• Publisher: Trilogy Christian Publishing
• Release date: Nov 29, 2023
• ISBN: 9798887380285

Linda M. Horne

Linda was single and celibate for twenty-one years, and Victor was married for thirty-nine years until his former wife passed away. They're elated recipients of God's revelations and are anointed to help! Due to God's grace, they have heard His voice, had multiple discussions, and gained wisdom and understanding! They're educated naturally and spiritually and write poetry from both perspectives as well! Victor ran for public office, and Linda (under "Randle") has copy-righted spiritual songs and published poetry.

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Spirituality

AND

Sexuality

WITHIN

Marriage

A Bond Designed &

Created by God

Linda M. & Victor C. Horne

Spirituality and Sexuality within Marriage, A Bond Designed & Created by God

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Copyright © 2023 by Linda & Victor Horne

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Preface

Travailing in the Spirit for the revelations of God to be established, this writing is like a pregnancy where Linda and I were as happy as a new mother would be upon learning that a new baby is on the way.

We began to rejoice as God spoke revelations to us concerning marriage, and as we began experiencing the move of God in our dating and into marriage, we began to record and write as God revealed. As the book began to grow, our excitement grew, God continued to speak to us about marriage, and we listened and wrote.

Soon we began to experience some bumps in our new marriage that made us live out how the Lord was leading us by His Spirit and Word. Yes, in some instances, we had to fight through and implement what we were writing about! However, during it all, we were still very happy. As the revelations kept coming, we kept writing. Yet, the bumps increased. Then came some pushing, pulling, and heated disagreements at times. As the years went by, to survive, we had to remember our commitment to keep fighting for our relationship even though we still experienced happiness in between the bumps.

As God continued to talk to us, we rejoiced with happiness and pain. At some point, the pain became too much to bear, and we started to question if God had called us to write this book and whether we should finish it. We loved what God was doing. However, our different writing styles, disagreements, arguments at times, and, therefore, the pain were tearing us apart. We—that is, mostly Linda—just wanted it to be over.

Finally, after five years of writing, it was time to give birth to what God had bestowed upon us to share with the world at large. At least, we decree that it is so. Amen, and thank You, Lord!

Now all the pain is gone, and there is joy and happiness like that of a new mother who has given birth. We have brought forth and have established, with the awesome help of the Lord, what the Word says concerning marriage.

Amen.

Introduction

This book is revealed to assist with understanding, to a greater degree, the pearl of great price—that hidden treasure in the spirit that informs the soul and its connection to romance in the body.

As we embarked upon a new wedding, we also walked into a new spiritual awakening, or what would normally be labeled as awareness or a revelation. However, how many of us can testify that there is nothing normal, non-intentional, or surprising to Jesus? Therefore, in the same vein of His awesomeness, God began to guide us through our inner man to reveal this new oneness. He showed us just how intricately He designed the natural and spiritual to work together simultaneously.

God spoke to us through the Holy Spirit that works from within, and He did so as He used His Word to lead us from without. He covered all areas when He revealed, by His Spirit, to lead us through His Word and then worked with us by His power. As a result, we were compelled to write the vision in order to share it with you. The Word says, Write the vision and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that readeth it (Habakkuk 2:2, KJV). So, we were excited to do so not only because the Word says to do so but also because our spiritual and natural impulses came together as one to honor, worship, and glorify the deity of God through this medium. That’s why we are excited to shed some good light as the city [of God] that is set on an hill that cannot be hid (Matthew 5:14, KJV) in this area for married couples’ interest and for engaged couples who want to gain some knowledge prior to marriage.

Going forward, we were awakened by God to see and understand that we were actively living out some of the visions of this book while writing it. And that awakening caused us to pay closer attention to experiencing His Word in action even more so. Initially, we were challenged to receive and to walk out the wisdom of God’s Word in this way because of our flesh sometimes and because of the enemy at other times. In other words, we experienced some challenges while writing this book, but God! Hallelujah! Therefore, we continued listening to the voice of the Lord, and once again, He proved Himself to be more than enough within our lives as a couple. For example, God revealed the power of marriage and how through Him, it can overpower any weakness that may come to challenge it. In addition, God has also caused us to realize that romance in marriage is vital, as it was while courting or dating. We learned how important it is to submit to it through God and to maintain the marriage as a whole.

As you take this journey with us, you will also see how God has revealed the significance of music and how it can enhance the quality of your marriage. You will notice its role in worship and within our lives unto the move of God that is designed to help others. Lastly, this book talks about the covenant bed that is reflective of the Word of God and blesses us both spiritually and naturally. For it is God who has proclaimed a blessing on our covenant marriage that will be fruitful and will multiply.

We believe that because of reading this book and implementing the contents thereof, your marriage will be blessed!

Chapter One

INTIMACY WITH GOD

The relationship between God, spirituality, romance, and sex is intertwined. Therefore, we are called to pin as a receptive married couple the Lord’s multiple revelations, bringing God into our bedroom, and how taboo that seems to be to some. With that said, we have been listening to the voice of God in order to discuss and bring into the light by the Light Himself how we can be intimate with our spouse and praise God at the same time.

Scripture confirms this initial revelation further by saying, In all thy ways acknowledge God, and He shall direct thy paths (Proverbs 3:6, KJV). Therefore, one way to bring God into our bedrooms is to first acknowledge that He’s already there because He’s already within us. Hence the scripture states, For where two or more are joined together in my name, there am I in the midst of them (Matthew 18:20, KJV). Through this, we understand that God is the author of marriage. And we should decree His mighty power over our marriage as designed for our way of life in Him and to enhance intimacy within the relationship through Him.

As a result, we are admonishing you not to close the door on God within your bedroom but invite Him in through His Word. Make statements about God’s perfect love that can cast out all kinds of fear; as stated in 1 John 4:18, perfect love casts out fear. And 1 Corinthians 16:14 says to do all that you do with love. Here we learn that it’s important to make the decision to love and to take that love into your bedroom. This makes clear that we should not only initiate being intimate out of obligation, duty, or urgency but out of love. According to 1 Corinthians 13:4 (NIV), Love is patient, love is kind…it is not self-seeking…

Another way to bring God into our bedroom is to exemplify patience, which means taking the time to minister to one another. For us husbands, that also means to give to them, our wives, pleasure and fulfillment so that they will be left with no lack or wanting anything. We are also expected to exemplify kindness, which encompasses indulgence, consideration, and being helpful. And we are to do as the Bible states because Jesus took upon Himself, For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. (John 3:16, KJV). And this is where God-fearing husbands are obliged to mimic God and love their wives as Christ loves the church and gave Himself for it. And even though we know that these ideas might be new and different to many, nothing is new to God! His revelations are purposeful to initiate change or enhance the marriage. This giving must be selfless and full of sensitivity.

As we love our wives, we will be demonstrating expressions of love through compassion, and then the passion we have for them will cause the romance to overflow. So, as we give and fulfill, we experience true intimacy. However, we do want to reiterate that these expressions of concern are the very ones that husbands run from. Attention, husbands, it’s not only about giving but also about fulfilling. And this fulfilling requires your undivided attention towards your wife to meet the need. Of course, your actions will cause a reciprocal fulfillment from your wife when you initiate giving, and she receives and, in turn, gives back to you. Giving is part of our love-making experience because when we make love, our objective is to give and fulfill. Through this very attentive practice, a successful and loving marriage will develop.

Now, we know that God created spirituality and sexuality, but are they connected, or are they separate? According to Scripture teachings and the knowledge that we gain from being within the believer’s lifestyle, we understand that God created man as a trichotomy of Himself in Christ Jesus. Consequently, we are a spirit that has a soul and lives within a body! Yes, we were born in His image and after His likeness, after the similitude of the Trinity of God the Father (our spiritual connection-creation), Jesus the Son (the Savior of our souls, redemption), and the Holy Spirit (who lives within our bodies—our sanctification).

In other words, we understand that God created every part of our being to remain in a consistent flow or mode of operating and for those parts to function simultaneously through Him. This means that we cannot turn off or depart from either part of us at any given time. In addition, we also cannot turn off the actual activities that are associated with or are a result of our spirit, soul, and body being in existence because things are birthed through those entities.

For starters, let’s look at the separation between God and sex. In this scenario, we can praise God, pray, study the Bible, and listen to Gospel music. However, on the other hand, we can also have intimate dialogue, caress, listen to romantic music, and make love to our spouse. Now here we have the two main aspects of life (spiritual and natural) separate. And this is the very myth that we are trying to dispel because God requires both, as outlined in the scripture following, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth (Genesis 1:28, KJV).

And since God requires, encourages, and promotes both aspects of life within the believer’s marriage, what if we could indulge in spirituality and sexuality at the same time? Together, not separately, could we talk sexy to our