Building a Better Boomer: How to deal with bothersome bodies, exhausting exercise, memory missteps, terrifying technology, impossible insurance, retirement regrets, foreign foods, and, oh yeah, aging
By Neil Offen
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Building a Better Boomer offers laugh-out-loud advice for the generation caught between ChatGPT and Betamax VHS. Here's hilarious ways boomers can see better, eat better, exercise better, sleep better, retire better, and, maybe, even remember better-and still be around for the launch of the iPhone 211 Pro.
Neil Offen
Neil Offen has been a humor columnist over four decades and in two countries. He's interviewed Muhammad Ali, covered Apollo 11, ridden on the Orient Express, and once met Cary Grant. He's published more than a dozen books, been a sports reporter, a newspaper and magazine editor, a radio newsman, written a nationally syndicated funny comic strip, and most important, actually finished first in his age group in a recent 5K.
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Building a Better Boomer - Neil Offen
Neil Offen has become one of America's greatest humorists, embracing the lighter side of the aging process with charm and wit culled from personal experience. His columns, and now this book, have become must-read.
—Marty Appel, New York Times bestselling author of Pinstripe Empire and Munson
"Neil Offen’s timing is perfect. This is the moment when we need a book that is this funny—Offen makes us laugh at subjects that are not supposed to be funny, which may be the definition of the best humor. Building a Better Boomer never stops and never misfires."
—Mark Kurlansky, New York Times bestselling author of Salt; Cod; and The Importance of Not Being Ernest
Neil Offen offers laugh-out-loud—but still practical—advice about how to deal with the indignities of growing older, all the while trying to combat aging and aging stereotypes. This is a book for all boomers, and those who care for and love them.
—Steven Petrow, contributing columnist The Washington Post and author, Stupid Things I Won’t Do When I Get Old
"I have often heard it said that there is nothing funny about growing older. Well, as Neil Offen proves—hysterically—in Building a Better Boomer, that is wildly inaccurate. If laughter truly is the best medicine, this is a book that I heartily prescribe for my fellow boomers. Offen’s sharp—and unfortunately accurate—observations will make you laugh out loud, assuming of course you can remember where you left your reading glasses. Let me suggest that the nicest thing you can give to one of our peers is this gift of laughter."
— David Fisher, New York Times bestselling author
There’s no better source of smiles, laughs, even guffaws, as your body deteriorates and your role in society diminishes, than these essays by humor-writer-nonpareil Neil Offen.
—Mitchell Stephens, author of The Voice of America: Lowell Thomas and the Invention of 20th-Century Journalism
"Neil Offen’s hilarious Building a Better Boomer is a rare mix of laugh-out-loud and close-to-the-bone. Sure, it’s funny but it’s also insightful, sweet, and even provocative. You will read this book to laugh and keep from crying, because, as Neil so shrewdly observes, ‘there is a limit on how much better we can become.’"
—Frank Van Riper, author of Recovered Memory: New York & Paris 1960-1980
This is a great book. I know that because my husband, Neil Offen, told me so. (Also, he threatened to take away my top billing in the Acknowledgments if I didn’t write this.)
—Carol Offen (no relation to this book’s author other than by marriage)
Building a Better Boomer
How to deal with bothersome bodies, exhausting exercise, memory missteps, terrifying technology, impossible insurance, retirement regrets, foreign foods, and, oh yeah, aging
Neil Offen
The Paper HouseCopyright © 2023 by Neil Offen
All rights reserved.
No part of this book may be reproduced in any form or by any electronic or mechanical means, including information storage and retrieval systems, without written permission from the author, except for the use of brief quotations in a book review.
ISBN 13: 978-1-0879-1129-8
First Edition 2023
For Carol, Paul, and Nora,
who have put up with me since carbon paper days.
Contents
Aging: It’s Not for Everyone
Building a Better Body
The reign of pain
Dealing with it
Keeping an eye out
Falling into place
Building a Better Brain
A mind is a terrible thing
Forget about it
Achieving perfect recall
Don’t forget about it
Building a Better Patient
What’s up, doc?
Side-by-side effects
In case of emergency
Caring about Medicare
Choose your coverage
Building a Better Build
The shape of things
Exercising our demons
How to get started
Witness to fitness
Work those quads!
Run for your life
Last lap
Building a Better Sleeper
Losing our snoozing
Dreaming of dozing
Napping for dummies
Building a Better Diet
Food for thought
The nutrition condition
What you should eat
Weight, weight, don’t tell me
→ Update Alert ←
Building a Better Techie
Digital overload
Between two worlds
What’s the word?
Call for security
Terms of endearment
Anti-Social
Ask Mr. Techie
Building a Better Retirement
Is there life after work?
Laying the groundwork
Money matters
What makes a good retirement?
Together forever
You’ve got (to have) a friend
Frequently Asked Questions
In Closing
Acknowledgments
About the Author
Index
Aging: It’s Not for Everyone
Is sixty-five truly the new forty-five? Or could it be the new fifty in a certain kind of less-flattering light? On the other hand, wouldn’t all of us baby boomers really rather be the old forty-five or even fifty and not just plain, you know, old?
But here most of us are: gray haired, stiff backed, and still using a Hotmail email address, and we need to come to grips with the truth, as difficult as that may be. It’s difficult because many of us boomers not only don’t consider ourselves old, we keep trying so hard to be younger, even occasionally wistfully watching High School Musical 3: Senior Year. We are a generation lost in space (for those who don’t remember, that’s American Pie,
by Don McLean, born just three months too soon to be an official baby boomer).
It doesn’t matter if we can do several sets of burpees and check our ECG results on our Apple Watch. We still can’t think of ourselves as with it,
particularly since no one under the age of fifty says with it
anymore. The harsh reality is that movies and television still want us off their screens. Businesses want us off their payrolls. Our children want us off the dance floor.
Yes, TV commercials may occasionally use our music, from the fifties, sixties, and seventies, but the people partying and dancing and drinking beer on the beach are clearly not us. They have more hair, their skin is smoother despite being covered by tattoos, and they almost never call out that they’ve fallen and can’t get up.
We, on the other hand, are the ones in the occasional commercial for bladder control medications, Medicare supplement plans, and a drug—who knows what it does?—called Taltz (rhymes with schmaltz).
After screwing up the world for the last fifty years or so, baby boomers are clearly no longer lead players in our culture (except in government, of course). We have become generic character actors, comic relief, like Chester in Gunsmoke, a reference surely lost on people busy streaming Stranger Things and White Lotus and debating the end of Succession. We boomers rightly sense we may have become irrelevant to the central story, unconnected to the moment’s gestalt, which many of us believe may be a digestive disorder.
Is it surprising, then, that we have become the butt of ok, boomer
jokes? Yes, admittedly, we have ruined the planet, despoiled the oceans, and bear much of the responsibility for the success of Celebrity Apprentice. But does all that justify becoming the coronavirus’s target demographic, constantly referred to as the elderly, the fragile, the at-risk, and worst of all, the dead?
Not that long ago—when older people were just called old people before the word seniors was invented—age and maturity were revered. Youth was something to grow out of, like tie-dyed pants and Nehru jackets.
Older generations consequently weren’t obsessed with staying young forever. They were content to watch the world pass them by. They knew they had wisdom, perspective, and 5 percent off on senior day at the supermarket. They were okay with slowly fading away, as long as they could do it from their La-Z-Boy recliners.
Boomers, not so much.
No longer young, many of us continue wanting to seem young, trying to act young. And it’s not easy.
Inundated with how-to-stay-healthy advice, we use anti-aging face cream and regenerative moisturizer (SPF 132!) and drink bottled water from pristine springs rather than Mello Yello from God knows where. We eliminate gluten from our diet and try ingesting more antioxidants and fewer oxidants, if we could figure out which are which.
We hire a personal trainer, then check our target heart rate on a Fitbit as if we understood what’s a target heart rate. We play pickleball and are disappointed to learn no gherkins are involved. We go to yoga and Pilates and Zumba and Tai Chi and would do downward dog if we could figure out how to do upward dog immediately afterward.
We play brain games to ward off dementia and do Qi Gong to ward off osteoporosis. We get new knees, replace our hips, and swap out our rotator cuffs.
Awash in unfamiliar popular culture, we nevertheless think we can distinguish between Dua Lipa and Doja Cat before recognizing we have no idea who either of them is. We have a bunch of Spotify and Pandora playlists but also a stack of old 45s, Guess Who cassette tapes, and three nonambulatory Walkmans. We like to imagine we’d get all the references in Saturday Night Live skits, but of course we never watch it live because it’s on too late.
At sea in a high-tech storm, we Zoom with friends, Skype with former colleagues, and WhatsApp with family but still don’t know how to find those digital photos from that trip to Greece. We’re finally on Instagram when everyone has migrated over to TikTok. We now have so many gizmos and a bounty of complex thingamajigs, along with several completely unnecessary doohickeys, but still can’t figure out how the QR code works. And when something goes wrong with our iPhone 32, we have to find a nearby twelve-year-old to fix it.
We do all this trying to hold on to our youthful past, but it’s hard, especially when our past happened back before we were paying attention. Plus, when you get older, there’s a lot more past to remember. And now there’s a lot more complicated present to deal with.
In addition to the traditional problems involved with getting older—increasing bodily frailty, faulty memory, root canals—our generation also confronts some unique challenges, including maple almond butter Snickers bars, mounting LinkedIn requests from people we’ve never heard of, and receiving mail with an invitation to a complimentary dinner where you can learn about cremation (I chose the salmon entrée.).
We find ourselves living in a world where the print size of menus seems to have become smaller and restaurants appear to have become catastrophically louder, and frequently we feel much less capable of dealing with it all, particularly if there are acronyms involved. How do we navigate this scary world and make believe we really understand text messages that end with KMN? (I looked it up; it’s Kill Me Now.)
But FIHNI. (Frankly, I Have No Idea.)
HIGTTTSYHTA (However, I’m going to try to show you how to anyway.)
Building a Better Body
The reign of pain
The sobering news: Each year past the age of forty we lose 3.5 percent of our muscle mass. Without that