The Art of Giving Up: An Unconventional Spiritual Discipline
By Kai Eilert
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Jesus said,
"If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me. For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will save it."
The Art of Giving Up teaches an important spiritual discipline that has been lost in modern times. Where surr
Kai Eilert
Kai Eilert received his undergraduate degree from the University of Arizona in Creative Nonfiction Writing. He and his wife, Annette, are pastors in Tucson, AZ and have a passion for teaching the Bible and helping people see their purpose in the Kingdom of God. Kai is not ashamed of the gospel or of being a millennial.
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The Art of Giving Up - Kai Eilert
The Art
of
Giving Up
An Unconventional
Spiritual Discipline
Kai Eilert
The Art
of
Giving Up
An Unconventional
Spiritual Discipline
© Kai Eilert 2023
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Dedication
This book is dedicated to my wife and children.
To my wife: Next to Jesus, you have been one of the greatest examples of giving up I’ve had the privilege of learning from. It’s an honor to live a life of sacrifice with you.
To my children: My hope is that you would follow me as I learn to follow Christ. May the blessings of giving up in Jesus’ name follow you all the days of your life.
Acknowledgments
Thank you, my King Jesus, for giving up everything so I can gain all that God desires for me.
Thank you, my church family (Central City Assembly), for allowing me to test the material in this book on you first in sermon form.
Thank you, Dad and Mom, for being my first model of giving up for the sake of others. Without your sacrifice as exceptional parents I wouldn’t be the husband, father, or pastor I am today.
Introduction
I’m not sure the hour, but early one morning before the sun started to peak over the mountain sky, I woke up to the startling thought that I needed to give up in my marriage. What’s more startling is that I believed that it was God who gave me this thought. For whatever reason God likes to deposit profound thoughts and ideas in my mind when I’m not fully awake.
All day after the thought entered my mind, I couldn’t stop thinking about it. Give up in my marriage? What kind of marriage advice is that, God? But the more I thought about it, the more I realized how true it is. The more we give up and sacrifice in our marriages, in our parenting, in our careers, the more we gain of God. Jesus gave up everything for the sake of the world and look how glorious his giving up turned out for him and for humanity.
I realized that God was revealing to me a foundational truth that is central to Christ’s life but also Christian living. A spiritual discipline if you will. I also realized I had never read a book or heard a sermon, let alone a series of sermons all on the topic of giving up. Again, this was startling because if Jesus lived a life of total surrender and if Jesus is our perfect model for how we should live today, then why hadn’t I heard more about it.
It felt like this thought of giving up quickly turned into a mandate from God to speak on a topic that the greater Church needed to hear and learn from. And thus The Art of Giving Up was born. What started out as an idea, turned into a series of sermons, and now has turned into the book you hold in your hands now.
My prayer for you as you read this book is that you would be moved like I was, from feeling startled to understanding your need for surrender. And as you grow in mastering the art of giving up you’ll experience the blessed life that God has for you in a life of surrender.
Much Love and Many Blessings,
Kai
1: Raise Your Flag
This might sound like a silly question, but do you enjoy giving up? Do you just love throwing in the towel? I must admit that there is only one area in my life where I actually enjoy calling it a day: running. I might have the body type of a runner, but my spirit is in open rebellion. I loathe running. Still, I was required to do a lot of it while in the Air Force. We did some serious training, and parts of it were bearable. Make me do pushups, sit-ups, pull-ups, or planks. Fine! But running? Just don’t.
Despite my aversion to sprinting and racing, one of my greatest achievements in the Air Force happened while I was running. I was required to complete a 5K. I was proud of it partly because I finished it in about twenty-three minutes, which averages out to less than five minutes per mile. I was also thrilled to finish second only to this guy who was built like an Olympian. What really made it feel like an achievement, however, is that I had walked about a third of the distance and still got a great time.
When I run, it’s definitely a mind-over-matter scenario. My mind tells me that running doesn’t really matter, and I respond, You know what, mind? You’re right! You win!
I am totally okay with giving up. I feel so much better when I stop running. I have holy peace of mind. When it comes to running, I have undoubtedly mastered the art of giving up.
We all have things we don’t mind giving up on. Maybe you have a deep sense of tranquility about relinquishing vegetables, extra paperwork, or your old car. When it comes to things that matter, though, I don’t think anyone truly likes giving up. We don’t take great pride in quitting our jobs or forgetting about our weight-loss goals, which is because we live in a society that places high value on perseverance. The ability to keep on keepin’ on
often leads to success in the categories the world values.
Think about all the fireworks that your neighbors launch into the sky on Independence Day. We wouldn’t be celebrating if our Founding Fathers had given up. A glance at US history shows you that they had plenty of opportunities to surrender. The thirteen colonies were outmatched by Great Britain in all the critical arenas: resources, manpower, strategy, and training. It’s miraculous that we won and remain a country to this day. Because of our forefathers’ vision, bravery, and unwillingness to give up, the US became independent. Even in modern times, a flag fluttering in the breeze lets us know that we don’t answer to any other nation.
Everywhere you look in the world, the gospel of perseverance is preached. We are told that the worst thing you can do in life is give up. We are coached that we can do anything we put our minds to. We must keep going. We can’t let go. The best people hustle and grind until their dreams come true. Persistence is viewed as the highest of virtues. By contrast, giving up is seen as a sign of weakness, a transparent excuse to be lazy. The progress that matters doesn’t happen if you stop trying. It won’t result in anything but lack.
I think we can all agree on the value of persistence when it comes to our professional and personal endeavors. Yet there are some drawbacks to the kind of perseverance that the world preaches. This brand of unrelenting effort has led to heightened stress, increased fatigue, and mental and physical illness. It has resulted in the dismantling of relationships and the absence of parents. Many believe that if they take a break from work, they are going to fall behind on their tasks. Someone else is going to get ahead of them in the rat race, and their goals will never be reached.
Is that kind of perseverance compatible with the Gospel of the Kingdom of God, though? Does our heavenly Father value determination over surrender? Which of these two will lead to the success and blessing you’re hoping to look back on when the sun sets, and you’re sitting in your rocking chair at the end of your life?
I believe that God absolutely values persistence. I think blessing and success in the Kingdom of God do come as a result of hard work. Yet what we see time and again in scripture is that perseverance itself is never enough. There is, in fact, an art and a reward when we surrender, but it’s not the kind of surrender you might think it is.
Start with Self-Surrender
In