Heartfelt Goodbye: How to Write and Deliver the Eulogy Your Loved One Deserves
By Bruce Rule
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This manual is for you if want to pay your loved one the proper tribute at a memorial service but you don't know what to say. Or maybe you aren't comfortable with public speaking. Then this simple guide is for you.
Inside you will learn how to:
* Collect memories that show what made your loved one special
* Decide on the main points you want to make
* Organize the memories
* Write the eulogy in a clear and meaningful way
* Practice giving the speech
* Deliver the eulogy in a way helps through their grief
This concise manual includes the author's complete eulogy for his mother with a detailed breakdown of each paragraph explaining why it was included in the tribute. You will find this example to be very useful when compiling the tribute you are putting together for your loved one.
"While this is a difficult time, look at a eulogy as an opportunity to pay tribute to your loved one, an occasion for you and those close to you to deal with the grief together.
Instead, you should see the eulogy as an opportunity to share what made your loved one special. This is a time when you can speak from your heart and remind those who have gathered about your loved one's unique qualities, and why he or she will be missed."
-- From the introduction of Heartfelt Goodbye
Bruce Rule
Bruce Rule is an award-winning public speaker and veteran editor with decades of writing experience in print, radio and social media. His 19 years of editorial experience at Bloomberg News and five years at The Associated Press turned him into an exceptional storyteller with the ability to distill complex ideas into compelling narratives. As a journalist with experience on three continents, he enjoys learning about other cultures and meeting a wide variety of people. He owns and runs Rule Communications, which helps a wide range of clients communicate their message in reports, press releases, and columns as well as on websites and social media. He also coaches public speaking. Details can be found at rulecommunications.com. He lives in Delaware with his wife, Pamela. They have two grown children.
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Heartfelt Goodbye - Bruce Rule
How to Use This Book
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f you have been chosen to give a eulogy, let me first say I am sorry for your loss. I did not know your loved one, but I know this must be a difficult time for you. Not only are you grieving, you may feel a heavy weight for having taken on the responsibility of writing and delivering the eulogy.
While this is a difficult time, look at a eulogy as an opportunity to pay tribute to your loved one, an occasion for you and those close to you to deal with the grief together.
Keep in mind that you are not being asked to detail your loved one’s entire life in a eulogy. Nor should you feel the need to include any negative events or to justify what the person did while alive.
Instead, you should see the eulogy as an opportunity to share what made your loved one special. This is a time when you can speak from your heart and remind those who have gathered about your loved one’s unique qualities, and why he or she will be missed.
A loved one’s death can spur a wide variety of emotions. Grief and sadness, of course, but some people just go numb. Others may feel anger at the unjustness of the world, while some feel relief that the loved one’s suffering is over.
While it’s impossible for me to know exactly how you feel at this moment, I can tell you that I have been in your situation.
My mother, Mary Bunny
Rule, passed away in October 2021. I felt it was my duty to give her a proper eulogy at the memorial service that we held (a memorial service that she had planned in a letter she entrusted to me years earlier). Because my father had died when I was a little child, my mother was the only parent I really knew. She was very special to me.
She was also very special to a lot of other people because of her big heart, her outgoing personality and her love for others. Even though she wasn’t famous and she won’t ever be profiled in a history book, she deserved a proper and heartfelt farewell.
Writing a eulogy that explained how special my mother was while coping with my grief turned out to be difficult. It was hard even though I am a journalist with decades of writing experience, as well as an award-winning public speaker.
As I worked through what I wanted to say about her I came to realize that the process of putting together a eulogy was helping me deal with my grief. I also came to realize that sharing what I felt would help me deal with my loss.
I began to see the eulogy as a way for those who gathered at her memorial service to share our love and our grief in a way that would be healing.
In the following chapters I will walk you through the process of putting together and writing a fitting eulogy for your loved one.
I will show you how