A Dirty Little Secret: The Story of Richard, a Victim of Fetal Alcohol Syndrome
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Richard appeared to be an ordinary, active adolescent. He had been attending public school, with some difficulty, even though his intelligence was in the average range. At a glance, no one would suspect he had any problems. But Richard was not normal. He had Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS).
When the brother of Sherry T. Ford suddenly died, she became the legal guardian of his two sons, ages eleven and thirteen. This is her story about the older nephew, Richard, and how his mother's prenatal alcohol consumption permanently damaged his brain.
Despite that there is a wealth of information on Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS), Fetal Alcohol Effect (FAE), and Alcohol Related Neurological Disorders (ARND), false claims about the effect of prenatal drinking continue, and the danger of prenatal alcohol exposure remains a threat to the baby in utero.
Because the symptoms of FAS are not always easily identifiable to physicians and psychologists, misdiagnosis is frequent. Richard had significant physical and behavioral manifestations, yet FAS was never even considered.
Sherry hopes that her journey and search for answers will help other families in both identifying and averting the syndrome. Every day, children are born with FAS through no fault of their own--a condition that is permanent and 100 percent preventable.
This story is true and tragic. Sherry is optimistic that it will trigger awareness about the consequences of prenatal drinking. She believes that every child born should have a chance to reach their full life potential.
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A Dirty Little Secret - Sherry T. Ford
Table of Contents
Title
Copyright
Introduction
CHAPTER 1: Husband and Wives
CHAPTER 2: Self-Destruction by Alcohol
CHAPTER 3: The Single Dad
CHAPTER 4: Self-Destruction
CHAPTER 5: Guardianship
CHAPTER 6: Unraveling the Mystery
CHAPTER 7: Family Impact
CHAPTER 8: A Manageable Path
CHAPTER 9: Driver's Ed
CHAPTER 10: Coming of Age
CHAPTER 11: Lives Cut Short
CHAPTER 12: Lessons Learned
ADDENDUM
Eulogy for Richard: March 2, 2006
About the Author
cover.jpgA Dirty Little Secret
The Story of Richard, a Victim of Fetal Alcohol Syndrome
Sherry T. Ford
Copyright © 2022 Sherry T. Ford
All rights reserved
First Edition
NEWMAN SPRINGS PUBLISHING
320 Broad Street
Red Bank, NJ 07701
First originally published by Newman Springs Publishing 2022
ISBN 979-8-88763-236-0 (Paperback)
ISBN 979-8-88763-237-7 (Digital)
Printed in the United States of America
In loving memory of my brother, Steven, who endured more than his share.
Introduction
This memoir is a true story about the very short and tragic life of my nephew, Richard. Sadly, Richard's mother consumed alcohol during her pregnancy, and as a result of this prenatal exposure to alcohol, he sustained irreversible, life-challenging deficits, which ultimately lead to his death and that of another. These deficits included poor judgment, insight, social skills, oppositional behavior, and difficulty in learning. Unfortunately, his shortcomings were not easily recognizable to those who did not know him well. In fact, Richard appeared quite normal to most who knew and worked with him for short periods of time. Educators, for example, believed he was a sweet, adolescent, and budding young man with some emotional and attention deficit problems. But those of us who knew him very well feared for his future and his ability to make his way in the world safely.
This is a story that must be written because every day, children are born with some degree of prenatal, alcohol-induced brain damage. This damage is permanent and totally preventable. It may not be initially visible, but as the child develops, the deficits in judgment, awareness, and behavior become increasingly more apparent. One might ask, Why is this happening?
Certainly, in a world where the facts are widely known by professionals, you would expect people to have an awareness and understanding of the consequences of drinking during pregnancy. But far too many people do not understand the consequences of prenatal drinking.
For reasons I do not fully understand, public education about Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders (FASD) or Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) is inadequate and possibly why the condition remains underdiagnosed. The link between prenatal alcohol use and brain damage has been noted during the earliest of times, dating back to the Bible. Yet false claims that tout the safety of modest alcohol consumption during pregnancy continue to circulate among our society, promoting a false sense of safety for this behavior. One day, I decided to make random visits to six OB-GYN practices in my hometown of Baltimore, Maryland, and not one office had brochures sitting out or posters hanging about the risks of prenatal alcohol consumption. There is no excuse for this since the Center for Disease Control (CDC) offers brochures and posters free of charge!
Embarrassingly, even I must admit, as a nurse, that I was unaware of the full consequences of prenatal drinking until I took over the care of my nephew. The fact that alcohol is a teratogen (neurotoxin) that can interfere with human development at any stage of pregnancy and cause damage to the fetus was not stressed in my professional training. As a result, I was left believing the myth that drinking a small amount of alcohol during pregnancy is acceptable, safe behavior. Despite the overwhelming amount of FASD facts documented in medical journals, the commendable efforts of the National Organization on Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (NOFAS) to educate the public, the CDC's wealth of information available at no cost and easily downloaded from their website, and the Surgeon General's Advisory Report, knowledge about the full impact and danger of prenatal alcohol exposure continues to escape much of the population.
It is my hope