Checking the Widow Box
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I wrote the book that would have been useful to me in my first year of widowhood, a handbook to guide you through the emotions and hurdles unique to losing a husband. Checking the Widow Box is my journey through the changes of cooking for one, the empty chair, the empty side of the bed, the empty birthday, the one whose picture will never again be in your photo albums. I want this book to walk alongside you in the ache you think will never end, the changes you think you will never adjust to, checking the widow box you never wanted to be your identity, at least not yet. Checking the Widow Box will walk you through creating a new rhythm when you have lost a big part of your identity, making major decisions, firsts, asking for help, and dreaming again. Checking the Widow Box does not leave you without hope. In your darkest place, God wants to shine His light. You can laugh and remember even in the pain when His comfort embraces your sorrow.
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Checking the Widow Box - Carol Longenecker
Checking the
Widow Box
Carol Longenecker
Art by Monique Cronk
ISBN 978-1-64003-465-5 (Paperback)
ISBN 978-1-64003-466-2 (Digital)
Copyright © 2017 Carol Longenecker
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Table of Contents
Introduction
My Story
Gordon ’s Story
My Story
God’s Story
A Widow
Loss of Identity
The Wedding Ring
New Normal: Creating a New Rhythm
Loneliness
Major Decisions and Firsts
Tears
Sacred Spaces, Sacred Things
Ask!
Dream Again
Journal the Journey
It’s Time to Move On
Isaiah 61:2–3
The Second Year
Prayer
About the Author
To Gordon Eugene Longenecker, my husband of almost twenty-five years—born January 6, 1956, died November 8, 2005:
Christ-follower
Storyteller
Giver of second chances
Thinker
Loyal
Painter extraordinaire
Friend to everyone
Brother and son
Husband and father
Introduction
At first, I could hardly say He died
or call myself a widow. The first time I was faced with marking the widow box on an application just a few months after my husband, Gordon, died, I nearly fell apart. I was unprepared. My sister-in-law told me her then three-year-old grandson called his other widowed grandmother a window.
I thought, I can say that! I’m a window! Yet as unprepared as I was for that and many other single moments in my journey through widowhood, I was as prepared as anyone can be for the single crisis of loss. I recently heard, You can’t prepare for a crisis in the middle of a crisis,
and that was my saving grace, that I had spent years growing my spiritual roots deep into God’s Word. Here is Gordon’s story and my story, followed by God’s story, helping it all make as much sense as it possibly can.
My Story
My walk into widowhood began on a Sunday night, November 6, 2005, with the words Gordon’s missing.
I was driving home alone from a four-day trip, seeing our children in college, when my ringing cell phone interrupted my happy thoughts with those words that were to change my life and