The Darkness and the Stars: A Story of Loss and Hope
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What do you do when the impossible happens, reality frays, and your entire world falls apart? That’s what happens to author Dawn Anderson when she loses her husband in a tragic farming accident, and the darkness of grief threatens her very identity.
In The Darkness and the Stars, Anderson provides a verbal snapshot of her life before losing her husband, Mike; followed by the story of the tragedy that took him away; and then explores the dark days that follow the accident as she navigates the dim tunnel of grief, but eventually finds some light on the other side.
In this memoir, Anderson shares her experience with others walking the path of grief. She communicates the message that no one can take your grief away, but there can be real comfort in knowing you aren’t alone.
Dawn Anderson
Dawn Anderson is a widow, a writer, and a seeker of all things beautiful. This is her second book. She lost her husband, Mike, in a farming accident. Dawn is donating her proceeds from this book to The Mike Anderson Foundation, a charitable organization that was created in her late husband Mike’s honor, to extend his light and help others in need. Please visit mikecharitablefund.org to learn more.
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The Darkness and the Stars - Dawn Anderson
The DARKNESS
and the STARS
A Story of Loss and Hope
Dawn Anderson
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ISBN: 978-1-6657-2752-5 (sc)
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Archway Publishing rev. date: 10/12/2022
For Mike. Forever the brightest star.
58850.pngI have loved the stars too fondly to be fearful of the night.
—Sarah Williams
CONTENTS
Foreword
Introduction
The Backstory
The Accident
The Aftermath
The Nuclear Winter
Can’t Compute
The Visions
The Pain
God
Africa
Reflections on Grief
The Things People Say
Fire and Ash
Loneliness
Memories
Homesick
Ridiculous
Panic
Devastation
Grieving Two Things
Sole Keeper of the Memories
Photographs
The Fallout
The Dreams
Coping
The Gifts: A Conclusion and a Continuation of Grief
FOREWORD
The first time I met Dawn Anderson, I knew she was a deep well of beauty and knowledge and that she had a book in her. Her heart overflows into this work of truth, vulnerability, and art, breathing experience and breath into the parts of being human we don’t always speak of.
Dawn infuses softness, mystery, questions, love, and death into her moving story of crushing loss—a story we as people will all experience in our own lives in different forms. This book is a healing journey—medicine and acceptance for the grieving soul, and hope for the weary.
Victoria Erickson
Author, Rhythms and Roads
INTRODUCTION
What do you do when the unthinkable happens? What do you do when your whole world comes crashing down all around you? What do you do when the most impossible, most unacceptable, most devastating thing occurs? What do you do when it happens to you?
Well. It happened to me. And this is my story.
58827.pngThe underlying premise of my story is as old as time. Tragedy. Loss. Grief.
I’m certainly not the first person in the world who has experienced great loss, and I won’t be the last. There is plenty of all that in the world. I am also not the first person to write about it. In fact, I’ve been humbled and inspired by the many talented writers who have lost loved ones before me, and who have shared their stories. Martha Whitmore Hickman, Michelle Steinke-Baumgard, Nora McInerny, and Anne Lamott, among so many other brilliant writers, are my true heroes. I marvel at their use of words and how they can harness the intangible and make it real for the rest of us. I sit in awe at their skill, as before me they weave a complex tapestry of human emotions from sheer words, nuanced and deep, and I celebrate how they give my mind a foothold on the slippery cliff of understanding what the hell happened to me. Sharing in their experience of great loss, I suddenly feel like I’m not alone. Here! Here is someone who has been burned to ashes in the same fire. Here is someone who has been lost in the same darkness. Someone who knows what lies past the line of the unthinkable. Someone who has traveled the same foreign landscapes as I and intimately knows every nuance of the long, winding, rocky path because they share the same bruising and scars that come from walking it. We share the same insights that can only be found by staring into the face of the terrible darkness, and now we know something deep in our bones that cannot be unknown. Our souls know each other now. And there is a real, genuine, authentic comfort in this, knowing we aren’t alone.
Great loss gives us a new capacity. It burrows itself deep into our very soul, generating excruciating pain during the process, but after the heat of the dig subsides, a new tunnel is left behind. Strong as steel forged in fire or magma that has cooled for years, it leaves us with a new depth and capacity for understanding. Or perhaps appreciation is a better word. An appreciation for light, for beauty, for kindness, for peace, and especially for love. Or perhaps gift is an even better word. More on that later. Regardless of what we