Summary of Susan Campbell Ph.D. & John Grey Ph.D.'s Five-Minute Relationship Repair

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#1 The human brain has a primitive warning system that was built to protect us from predators. It alerts us to potential threats to our survival, including a disturbance in our connection to our partner.

#2 The process of falling in love is not always smooth, and can lead to the couple feeling as if they are pulling in opposite directions. Over time, this can lead to the couple feeling as if they are not safe in their relationship.

#3 The pair experienced their first notable upset three months into their relationship. Eric arrived at Donna’s house to take her out for a romantic evening. She seemed tense, and when he asked her what was wrong, she began recounting how her boss had unfairly overloaded her with work that afternoon.

#4 When someone triggers you, your body reacts before your mind does. Your body gets tense, and your mind races with thoughts or wants to do something - like run away. This is the flight response. When you are triggered, your stomach gets tight, and your breathing becomes shallow. You stop listening to the hurtful input and start defending yourself.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: May 16, 2022
• ISBN: 9798822516755

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Insights on Susan Campbell Ph.D. & John Grey Ph.D.'s Five-Minute Relationship Repair

Contents

Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 4

Insights from Chapter 5

Insights from Chapter 6

Insights from Chapter 7

Insights from Chapter 8

Insights from Chapter 9

Insights from Chapter 10

Insights from Chapter 11

Insights from Chapter 12

Insights from Chapter 13

Insights from Chapter 14

Insights from Chapter 15

Insights from Chapter 16

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

The human brain has a primitive warning system that was built to protect us from predators. It alerts us to potential threats to our survival, including a disturbance in our connection to our partner.

#2

The process of falling in love is not always smooth, and can lead to the couple feeling as if they are pulling in opposite directions. Over time, this can lead to the couple feeling as if they are not safe in their relationship.

#3

The pair experienced their first notable upset three months into their relationship. Eric arrived at Donna’s house to take her out for a romantic evening. She seemed tense, and when he asked her what was wrong, she began recounting how her boss had unfairly overloaded her with work that afternoon.

#4

When someone triggers you, your body reacts before your mind does. Your body gets tense, and your mind races with thoughts or wants to do something - like run away. This is the flight response. When you are triggered, your stomach gets tight, and your breathing becomes shallow. You stop listening to the hurtful input and start defending yourself.

#5

We all have experienced such upsets. Unhealed experiences from our past programmed our survival alarms to scan for similar cues in the present, and when our alarms go off, we are catapulted into offensive, defensive, or numbed-out reactions.

#6

The brain’s survival alarm is located in the amygdala, and it is responsible for keeping you alive. If it detects even the slightest sign of danger, it quickly takes control and changes your body chemistry to support immediate self-preservation.

#7

If you or your partner are in a triggered state, you can take steps to get your higher brains back online. Remember, your alarms take over without your conscious awareness or permission.

#8

When we are in the fight-flight-freeze state,