My Wife Wants to Swing: The Ultimate Guide to Swinging for Couples
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This book is a primer for couples interested in exploring "The Lifestyle" known as swinging. You'll learn great tips for throwing your own swinger parties, how to meet and attract other swingers, as well how to avoid some of the common pitfalls that happen while swinging.
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My Wife Wants to Swing - Derrick Monnie
Introduction
Swinging is a lifestyle choice that is becoming more and more popular these days. Before we made our first venture into what is known as the lifestyle
, we read a few books and magazine articles to try and prepare us for what lied ahead. Most books all told us how exciting it is, how it enhances your sex life, and how fun it can be.
While a lot of that is true, one thing a lot of the books failed to mention are some of the negative aspects and pitfalls of swinging. I’ve seen a lot of married couples get divorced because they didn’t safeguard their relationship while swinging.
I’m not a professional writer by any means, but I wrote this book to help as many couples as possible make an informed decision before exploring the world of swinging.
Sit back, keep an open mind, and enjoy.
Logo Description automatically generatedDerrick Monnie
The Lifestyle Dating Coach
www.derrickmonnie.com
Chapter 1 - What is Swinging?
Swinging is often known as partner swapping, partner sharing, or wife swapping in some social circles. A lot of people have the misconception that swinging is a new phenomenon but swinging (also known as the lifestyle
) has been around for centuries. In ancient times, most rulers had wives as well as concubines. There are multiple references to concubines in the Bible, in Judaism, and in the Muslim world.
Ancient Greece and Rome were both well known for throwing lavish parties for the purposes of sexual pleasure which would include voyeurism, bisexuality, threesomes, and orgies. Group sex and orgies are commonly depicted in Greek and Roman drawings. Benjamin Franklin was known to be a nudist and swinger. Marie Antoinette of France was also rumored to throw orgies during her time.
Modern day swinging supposedly owes its origins to US Air Force pilots back during World War II. Among the many urban legends is that a close camaraderie arose between pilots during this time, and pilots were called upon to take care
of each other’s wives both sexually and emotionally if something happened to the husband.
In 1963, the Sexual Freedom League was formed, which was the precursor to what is now the North American Swing Club Association (NASCA - www.nasca.com). The purpose of this organization is to make sure that people have accurate information about swinging, since swingers are often portrayed in a negative light by the media.
The 1970’s are referred to as The Swinging 70’s
as swinging started to become more mainstream and prevalent. Swinging really began to take off during the 1990’s when the internet made it easier for couples in the lifestyle to find each other. Today there are numerous websites, international vacation resorts, cruises, and night clubs all over the world solely devoted to people who are interested in the swinging lifestyle.
Types of Swinging
This list is by no means exhaustive, but here some of the more common types of swinging
Voyeurism
The dictionary describes voyeurism as the compulsion to seek sexual gratification by secretly looking at sexual objects or acts; such as the actions of a Peeping Tom
has a negative connotation that makes voyeurism seem as if it’s something lewd and unnatural.
Voyeurism for most people is a natural gateway into the world of swinging. Those just dipping their toes into the hedonistic pool for the first time often start out as voyeurs. Voyeurs love to watch others engage in sex, and sometimes enjoy being watched themselves. I can tell you from first-hand experience that watching sex in person is 10 times more arousing that watching it on your cellphone or TV. I’ve had women and couples tell me that it’s a major turn on to know you’re being watched by strangers and know that later that night people will fantasize about what they saw.
Soft Swapping
This usually involves two or more couples getting together sexually, however no one exchanges partners. Some females may start off having sex with each other, and each male participates only with his own partner. A lot of couples that are new to swinging will start off with soft swapping, as they aren’t quite prepared to watch their partner have sex with someone of the opposite sex.
For some, soft swapping can also include other non-penetrating activities such as oral sex, rimming (licking around of in the anus) and passionate kissing. This type of fun usually takes place in the same room or area.
Full Swapping
Full swapping consists of two or more couples getting together, and each male has sex has sex with someone else’s spouse or partner. It may also involve the females engaging in sex with each other as well.
Cuckolding
By definition, a cuckold is the husband of a cheating wife or partner. In this category, it refers to a man who enjoys watching