Sacred Conversation: Exploring the Seven Gifts of Spiritual Direction
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Some of these fellow pilgrims—spiritual directors—are called to walk the spiritual path with others. The spiritual director, however, does not seek to tell their counterpart how to live out the faith. Instead, the spiritual director accompanies others on their spiritual journey and helps them discover how God may be working in their lives. The spiritual director listens, notices, encourages, asks questions, and prays for the person receiving spiritual direction.
In Sacred Conversation, readers will learn what spiritual direction is and what it isn’t. They will explore spiritual practices that have helped people for hundreds of years develop a closer relationship with God through Jesus Christ. Marsha Crockett introduces readers to seven gifts of spiritual direction: awakening, hospitality, story, pilgrimage, silence, meditation, and belonging.
Each chapter contains reflection questions for individuals to use in conversation with their spiritual director, as prompts for journaling, or for sharing with small groups.
Marsha Crockett
Marsha Crockett is a certified Spiritual Director and an award-winning author of seven books focused on prayer, spiritual formation, and God-given identity. She resides with her husband in Port Orchard, Washington, and is actively involved in her local faith community. Learn more about her work at www.marshacrockett.org.
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Sacred Conversation - Marsha Crockett
SACRED CONVERSATION: Exploring the Seven Gifts of Spiritual Direction
Copyright © 2021 by Marsha Crockett
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Title: Sacred conversation : exploring the seven gifts of spiritual direction / Marsha Crockett.
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To my sister, Linda McQuinn Carlblom,
my life-long companion on this
amazing journey through life.
CONTENTS
Acknowledgments
Introduction
1. The Gift of Awakening
2. The Gift of Hospitality
3. The Gift of Story
4. The Gift of Pilgrimage
5. The Gift of Silence
6. The Gift of Meditation
7. The Gift of Belonging
Epilogue
Appendixes
1. A Message to Spiritual Directors
2. The Seven Gifts on Retreat
3. A Message to the Church
4. Resources for Further Exploration
5. Resources for Finding a Spiritual Director and Training in Spiritual Direction
Notes
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
Many individuals have contributed their skill, support, time, and encouragement to me during my work on this project. In the most literal sense, you would not be reading this book if it were not for the efforts and partnership of the following people.
My one and only sister, Linda Carlblom, to whom this book is dedicated. She was my first reader and greatest cheerleader. She not only helped me envision it but allowed the words to speak to her as a representative of the target audience. My friend Kim DeBeus, CSD, was a valuable contributor in helping to refine some of my thoughts and concepts and to challenge my thinking about formation and transformation. Thank you.
The editorial team at Upper Room Books, especially the editorial director, Joanna Bradley Kennedy, who first saw the possibility of a great partnership in this project. Thank you for opening the door and graciously walking me through the process. And to Michael Stephens, my editor, who used eyes and heart to edit and bring clarity, cohesion, and grace to areas that needed a second look. Thank you.
I also must thank those women who have been my spiritual companions through the years, serving as my spiritual directors through every season of life: Carol Travilla, Sharon Taszarek, Amanda Peterson, Terry Tripp, and Mary Hartrich. The gifts I have discovered through your presence to me are outlined in these chapters and are a direct result of your generous spirits of hospitable companionship. Thank you.
My faith community, Port Orchard United Methodist Church, beginning with Pastor Shirley DeLarme, who opened the door to the possibility of doing something different
through small listening groups. Two groups were willing to spend eight weeks with me opening each of the gifts in this book and helping me refine the way individuals might interact with the material. Donna, Julie, and Phyllis, thank you for taking the risk to join me in listening to the movement of the Spirit at work in your world. And Curt, George, Lane, Shamus, and Terry, brave souls who were willing to step into a new model of listening and learning on the spiritual journey. Thank you.
Finally, to my husband, Ernesto, you’ve kept me grounded as we have learned to share life during a most unusual season of sheltering in place and working from home. You never fail to bring joy, laughter, and love into my life even during the most challenging days, and I love you for that. Thank you for your faithful companionship through it all.
INTRODUCTION
Since you’ve picked up this book you likely are curious about a few things. You may have heard about spiritual direction and want to know what it’s all about. Or you may be wondering about your own spiritual journey and the shifts you have experienced in your faith. You may be wondering if you are the only one experiencing these changes or if everyone deals with this kind of shift. And what do you do with these realities? Is there someone to talk with about any of it, or does everyone just figure this stuff out on their own?
No one should be left alone on the journey through life, especially on the journey we call spiritual.
We are created to connect, to know others and to be known. Be assured, you are not alone even when the path feels lonely. Many fellow pilgrims walk with you. Some are living, breathing people you already know, hold dear, and may turn to for support. Other pilgrims have gone before you throughout the centuries; their voices resonate through the lives they’ve lived and the writings they have left as their faith legacy. And there are fellow journey-ers who are specifically called to travel this path with others—not to tell you how to walk but to walk alongside you as observers, encouragers, and people of prayer. They are known as spiritual directors or spiritual companions.
In these pages you will learn more about what spiritual direction is and what it isn’t. You will explore some of the practices that have for centuries aided pilgrims in drawing closer to Jesus. But above all, beyond any new information, you will be invited to experience the possibility of transformation as you stop to ponder the gifts that are offered by the grace of God to us all. Take your time. Go slow. But if you are hungry for this content and want to rush through the reading in a hurry, do so but then take time to return to the slow work of transformation as you open your heart, mind, body, and soul to the ongoing work of God within.
You will see that my perspective is from the Christian tradition, but I have written with the hope that all who read this book will be comfortable with the language, regardless of where their faith experiences have led them. The seven gifts I identify are based purely on my own experiences and reflections in working with my own spiritual director and working as a spiritual director. References in this book to individuals are based on true interactions; however, details have been changed to protect their identities and the privacy of these holy conversations. As you work through the seven gifts presented here, be open to the limitless number of gifts available to you, perfectly suited to your own journey as you work with a spiritual director.
THE GIFT OF A SPIRITUAL DIRECTOR
Spiritual direction is a gift. But before unwrapping that gift, it’s important to know what a spiritual director is not.
A director is not a therapist.