The Three-Martini Playdate: A Practical Guide to Happy Parenting
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Parents were here first! How did the kids suddenly take control? Sure the world has changed from the days when children were supposed to be seen and not heard but things have gotten a little out of hand. What about some quality time for the grownups? Author Christie Mellor’s hilarious, personal, refreshing, and actually quite useful advice delightfully rights the balance between parent and child. In dozens of short, wickedly funny chapters, she skewers today’s parental absurdities and reminds us how to make child-rearing a kick. With recipes, helpful hints, and illustrations, this high-spirited book is the only book parents will really need—and enjoy.
Includes chapters on:
- Screaming: Is It Necessary?
- Bedtime: Is Five-Thirty Too Early?
- Child Labor: Not Just for the Third World!
- “Children’s Music”: Why?
- . . . and much, much more
“Harried mothers who have given over their lives to their adorable little angels, beware: This book is the equivalent of a cocktail in the face . . . The book details the glories of saying no to your children, explains when you’ve gone too far in childproofing your home, laments our over-reliance on camcorders (‘a disease’) and suggests that the Tooth Fairy is getting robbed. Best of all, there’s a recipe for teaching your tot how to mix a simple martini just the way you like it—with lots of alcohol.” —Chicago Sun-Times
Christie Mellor
Christie Mellor is the bestselling author of The Three-Martini Playdate, The Three-Martini Family Vacation, and You Look Fine, Really. She lives with her husband and almost-always-pleasant children in Los Angeles.
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Reviews for The Three-Martini Playdate
40 ratings4 reviews
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Quick read and hilarious!
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Love her way of parenting. She is funny but also gives great advice.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5A hilarious tongue-in-cheek look at modern parenting practices with a great message: Children should not be led to believe that they are the center of the universe. (Bonus: fun illustrations and recipes throughout.)
- Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5Some of the parenting advice is sensible. Children should ot be over indulged. However, I cannot agree with some of her suggestions, like the suggestion to actually have children learn how to make and serve alcoholic drinks. As with most parenting books, I'll take what I I agree with and leave what I don't.
Book preview
The Three-Martini Playdate - Christie Mellor
- INTRODUCTION -
IN PRAISE OF GROWN-UP TIME
IT HAS COME TO MY ATTENTION THAT CHILDREN HAVE become the center of our universe.
Gone are the days when a small person of tender age would do as he or she was asked, good-naturedly and obediently, and the rest of the time would sit quietly reading or practicing a simple cross-stitch. The child was able to carry on a lively and friendly conversation with a grown-up, when asked; but with equal good nature the youngster would disport himself to a quiet corner when it appeared that the grown-ups were converging. He might be trotted out to say his hellos, perhaps to recite, possibly to help serve drinks or pass cocktail peanuts. He might sit on a lap, but only if requested by a familiar grownup. He never presumed.
One wasn’t required to transport the little children hither and thither, here to T-ball practice, there to a playdate,
may the chipper mommy who coined that particular term forever rot in a hell of eternally colicky babies.
One wasn’t required to endure swarms of youngsters teeming over the hors d’oeuvres, begging for refreshment just as one was about to take that first heady sip of one’s ice-cold martini. There was water, and they knew how to retrieve it.
Let us be perfectly frank. You were here first. You are sharing your house with them, your food, your time, your books. Somewhere, in fairly recent memory, we have lost sight of that fact. Somehow a pint-sized velvet revolution was waged right under our very noses, and the grown-ups quietly handed over the reins. We have made concession after concession, until it appears that well-educated, otherwise intelligent adults have abdicated their rightful place in the world, and the littlest inmates have taken over the asylum. Remember when we couldn’t wait to grow up so we could be in charge?
It is time to set this madly spinning orb back on its axis. This book is for parents; for parents-to-be who have assumed that the world as they know it must necessarily change with the imminent introduction of a small child into their life; and for the newlywed couple who contemplate conception but fear that sharing hearth and home with a young tot will only lead to sleeplessness, high-pitched fits of screaming, and the dearth of adult companionship for the remainder of their days. This book is meant for all the grown-ups who have, against all reason, decided to welcome a tiny bundle of joy into their home, but who rightly feel that a complete lifestyle makeover is too high a price to pay.
It is also a chance for me, as a parent, to get an awful lot off my chest regarding what I consider to be a great many silly parents out there, doing a great many very silly things.
Simply put, you deserve a little time of your own, a little grown-up time, time to do whatever it is you like to do by yourself, or with friends. I don’t mean stealing a guilty moment to scan the headlines while you gulp down half a cup of scalding coffee, accompanied by the persistent whine of a petulant four-year-old. It is not that you would be stealing this time from your precious child. It is not your child’s time you are stealing; it is your time, and you get to have some of it for yourself.
There is no guilt in craving social situations that aren’t wholly centered around everyone’s children. There is no shame in explaining to your children that they should go and find Something to Do, that the grown-ups are having grown-up talk, that they, the little children, need to go somewhere and be little children. Whether you would like to share a portion of your time with one grown-up or a party of them, or simply enjoy a moment alone, it is time to exert a little autonomy and encourage some in your child. This book explains how. It’s time to warm up the ice cubes, curl up on the sofa, and send darling Spencer into the other room to play by himself. Mummy and Daddy need a little break.
A Helpful Hint!
ETIQUETTE FOR FIRST-TIME PARENTS
Image 3SOME PARENTS BELIEVE THAT THEIR OFFSPRING ARE channeling the very angels, and who can blame them, as little Josefina and young Mylar are such dolls? Please, I encourage you to keep this information to yourself. Your darling Buster may wear a golden halo, and I know the temptation is great to point it out to friends and strangers alike, but you must not. Just as it would be bad form to discuss one’s personal savior at a dinner party full of atheists, it would be wise to assume that even many fellow parents will stare with frozen smiles when the serene first-timer says in that smug, knowing way, Having Hayley has just changed my life. Wow. I am learning so much from her.
If by this you mean you are learning to stay up all night crying, to squirt poo out through your pants leg, and to vomit at random on people’s shoulders, then you will certainly have a sympathetic audience. If, however, you would like us to infer that you have embarked upon some kind of Spiritual Journey after giving birth, then I would urge you to explore your journey silently, or with other like-minded adults. Also, refrain from announcing in a room full of new parents, Oh, little Lola has been sleeping through the night since she was three weeks old!
Do not share this joyful news, for your own safety.
- CHAPTER 1 -
SAYING NO TO YOUR CHILD:
IT’S A KICK!
ONCE MY SON WAS PLAYING WITH ANOTHER BOY, WHOM I will call Butchie.
Butchie thought it would be a good idea to punch my son repeatedly in the arm until my son cried. Butchie’s father, who witnessed the event, pulled his son aside and told him that it was inappropriate
for Butchie to hit his friend repeatedly in the arm. He said it very calmly and reasonably. It was just not appropriate to beat up his friend.
I wanted to put in my two cents and say that I thought it was inappropriate to mince words when speaking to a four-year-old. Butchie had hurt his friend and that was a bad thing to do, and he should say he’s sorry. Being excessively polite, I didn’t say anything, but I ask you, why is it so difficult for an intelligent grown-up man to tell his son that his son did something bad?
If you’re four years old, pulling your pants down at the dinner table is inappropriate
; making farting noises at a tea party is inappropriate.
If you’re six years old, making farting noises at a tea party is very rude. If I might be so judgmental, punching your friend in the arm is mean. It’s bad. You hurt your friend, and you shouldn’t hurt people. What is so awful about letting your children know this? Should we keep it a big secret and hope they find out someday by accident? Running your friend down with a toy tractor and trying to choke him is also a bad thing to do, if I may be so bold, which is what happened to my son with another child. (My son hung with some rough trade at the age of four.) In that particular instance, the child ran to his mother, who