A Life Altering Scar: How Family, Faith, and Laughter Helped
By June LaRose
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That is what compelled me to capture it and then write about my experience. That desire was to help others as well as myself. By telling you what I went through “in detail,” this story places me in a very vulnerable position. Yet, I am willing to subject myself to that knowing it could possibly benefit others.
Throughout parts of this memoir, I needed to take my life back from the grips of death, and you will see how family, faith, and laughter helped me to do that.
June LaRose
June grew up in the small town of East Rochester, in New York. Her home now is in Gananda / Walworth, NY, where she enjoys her Koi pond, gardens, and the warmth of small town living. She is not one to give up on her dreams. At the age of 56, she fulfilled her lifelong dream to obtain a degree. The Finger Lakes Community College is where she achieved that dream. She earned an AAS in Business Administration with high honors. In fact, she is recognized twice in the 95th edition of The Phi Theta Kappa Honor Society book. As a lifetime member of the Ladies Auxiliary, at the VFW post 8495, she volunteers and enjoys the camaraderie of the veterans and their spouses. She also volunteers two to three days a week at the local hospital.
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A Life Altering Scar - June LaRose
© 2020 June LaRose. All rights reserved.
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Published by AuthorHouse 02/28/2020
ISBN: 978-1-7283-4874-2 (sc)
ISBN: 978-1-7283-4875-9 (e)
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The beautiful part of writing is that you don’t have to get it right the first time. You can revise and rewrite until you are satisfied. Unlike brain surgery.
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INTRODUCTION
All of us have or will have struggles in our lives that end up causing scars we could never imagine we would accumulate. I am no exception. In fact, I have earned many altering marks in my lifetime. This story is how I handled, a larger-than-life, altering scar I obtained when I found out I had a brain tumor and needed a craniotomy.
Since I did not want this to devastate me, I needed to find a way to turn it into something constructive. Fully aware this would be problematic at best and perhaps even fatal, I felt compelled to capture it, then write about the experience. That desire became a quest for knowledge, so I could share it knowing this could help others. This story is all true with one exception. The names of individuals in this memoir, (that are not my family) have been changed.
With personal experience being my teacher, I learned what it felt like to be on the other side of unyielding insanity, and my family had to learn how to deal with that person. Some of the situations we went through were extremely terrifying and emotionally painful. Some of the episodes for me included: horrifying hallucinations, looming death, and all the resulting turmoil the family had to deal with. Relearning how to talk, walk, and find my new normal became my challenges. Much of what transpired was a struggle, yet parts of it were truly remarkable.
CONTENTS
1 What the Hell Just Happened?
2 The Reflection in the Mirror!
3 Voices Threw Me Over the Edge
4 The Mystery is Partially Revealed
5 The Full Reveal
6 Reminiscing Turns into Mental Gymnastics
7 In an Emotional Washing Machine
8 Research Tiptoed in Like a Herd of Elephants
9 Signs I Had Ignored
10 The Surgery Could NOT be Stopped
11 The Light of God
12 On the Trip
to Recovery
13 Drainage Tube is Removed
14 Brain Dead
15 Russell’s Turn to Experience the Nightmare
16 I Tried to be Strong
17 The Fight
to Go Home
18 Lack of Physical Coordination
19 The Adventure of Recovery
20 A New Me
21 New Hairstyle Brings Emotional Wellness
22 I Never Gave Up
Acknowledgements and Gratitude
Appendix A–-Pictures
Works Cited
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45018.pngWhat the Hell Just Happened?
Life being what it is and never perfect, I had been laid off in the fall of 2009. Since the world continued recovering from the Great Recession of ’08, I was now on a career detour. There I was at the age of 56, needing to make yet another life changing decision. Should I take this opportunity to go back to college, to finish my lifelong dream to attain a degree, then obtain a better occupation or retire from work completely? I found it easier to make the decision when I realized I could use my husband’s VA plan to help finance the cost. When I finished (with high honors) in December of 2011, I felt confident it would take no time at all to obtain employment. How wrong I was. Five months later, I still had not heard back from any of the jobs I had applied to. After reviewing my paperwork, I discovered several résumés and cover letters that had gone out, had errors in them. I now lived with shame and humiliation. What would be revealed to me very soon was…my processing ability had been compromised.
Around that same time, my daughter Mindy came to me and her stepfather Roy with tears in her eyes, asking if she and Michael (her 12-year-old son) could move back in with us. Without hesitation we agreed to help them. Michael could be good company for me especially since my husband, worked a lot of hours. Roy is a facility manager plus he volunteers. He is the VFW vice commander at our local post and he volunteers as a ranger two days a week at a golf course.
Roy and Mindy would leave the house early and I would be there for Michael in-between him catching the bus to and from school. It was fun watching him and the boys in the neighborhood as they enjoyed their friendships. I became the stay at home Nana bringing them cookies and treats. A couple of weeks into our new routine everything seemed to be settling down nicely. That is until Michael called out, Nana, there’s some lady on the phone asking to talk with you. She said something about the employment agency.
That all-essential call I had been waiting for had arrived. They called to let me know I had been hired at a phone company. I just needed to fill out paperwork so I could start work on Monday. Finally, we will be back on track. I will pick up the medical insurance and Roy would finally be able to retire.
Thursday, June 7, 2012, the very next day, after everyone returned to work and school. Bizarre events began to occur causing me to realize life really does have more dimensions than I ever imagined possible. In a flash, my once familiar world was no longer real. As I stood by the kitchen island an unexpected sense of dread engulfed my whole body. My kitchen became obscured and unfamiliar. While attempting to clear the fog in my head an extremely urgent pressure to vomit arose. Now struggling to prevent having this all over my floor, I needed to rush towards the powder room. Although the room is only three steps away, I still had that automatic reaction to slap my mouth closed. With my mind now whirling, I am not going to make it, the spew exploded into the porcelain bowl. With one very large heave it was out. It was obvious to me that was no ordinary vomit. It was a violent projectile. This happened so quickly it left me with no time to even think, yet one thought emerged crystal clear, I’m not even sick, what fresh misery was that?
Still very confused, the possible causes kept swimming in my head, but they were more to excuse the behavior away than to comprehend it. Maybe an extreme sinus infection or food poisoning? Yet, none of that made any sense nor mattered, because what happened next threw me into agonizing pain and terrifying fear.
With extreme fatigue pushing me, my disoriented focus was now trying to steer me in the correct direction to our couch. Even though it stood less than eight steps away, I found it exceptionally hard to reach. When I laid down, the exhaustion was so abrupt it left me feeling pinned to the couch. As I lay there an invisible force began beating me in the face with two steel beams. The intensity was so vivid I actually visualized them smashing onto my face. Each beam was ½ inch thick, twice as wide and approximately eight inches long. They were using my face like a drum, pounding in a rhythmic fashion as though