Spark Back the Men in Them!: In Search of Our Boys

By Lilian W. Mathenge

In this groundbreaking book, Lilian outlines problems being faced by the boy-child and the underlying societal outcry in this era. She particularly uses close comparisons with current set environment attributing to more males in prisons, gun-violence indulgence, suicide, depression, drug use and substance use, and abuse among other things. She defines possible reasons for the dimmed light in boys.

The hypothesis in this book does not claim to have all answers to the setbacks on the boy-child or any gender controversy. Using her personal experiences as a single mother of a boy and interacting closely with male figures through family and work, she gives possible roots of the problems. But one thing for sure, you will connect with and relate with her thoughts and ideas toward igniting back the flame in our sons. And therefore, champion toward making them realize their positions and purpose in the society.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Sep 26, 2018
• ISBN: 9781984540447

Lilian W. Mathenge

Lilian is a graduate instructor from the African Nazarene University. She has interractively delt with students of diverse levels and backgrounds. She has taught for 17 years both as a trained teacher and untrained teacher. Lilian exhibited her enthusiasm in teaching at the Nairobi Primary school where she worked the longest. She also lectured at the Foundation Institute of Africa (FIA) before she relocated to the USA. Her passion in dealing with contemporary issues affecting the teens and youth was seen as she co-worked at Edupro Kenya, a teens /youth guidance and couselling organization under the presidency of Patrick Maina; one of her key mentors. Edupro Kenya has lately grown to Promentors Africa. Lilian currently is a co-facilitator of the teens group in the church where she worships(DCFC).And a live director of Men Impact Change; Washington chapter ,a global non-profit organization geared towards honoring men who are doing all they can to positively bring change and visible impact in the society. Lilian is a single mother of a 17 year old son, Vincent muturi, who has all along inspired her to carry on with the urge to writing this book. She is a strong defender and ambassador of the boy-child, who holds a strong believe in the voice of truth towards bringing back the boys back to course. In her own words she states, “ I may not have walked a single step in the shoes of a man ,but I foresee a thousand steps of a capable and well nurtured boy.”

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Copyright © 2018 by Lilian Mathenge.

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CONTENTS

Acknowledgment

Introduction

1   The End Of Men

Case Study 1

Boy-Child Misconception

2   Rethink And Restore

The Law And The 911 Phenomenon

3   Men In Boys’ Responsibility

Too Long Incubation Period

4   Lack Of Motivation

Case Study 2

Which Arenas Attract Our Men/Boys?

5   Women In Boys’/Men’s Responsibility

6   Collective Responsibility

Men Impact Change

7   Positive Affirmations As A Man

As I pen this book, I send special dedication to my son, Vincent Muturi. Son, you are and will always be one very special inspiration in my life. I want to speak greater things in your life and in all you do. May you live to be a great man of purpose, responsible enough to tap into the world’s goodies and, behold, enjoy them responsibly. Be an accountable person in life, courageous enough to tackle life’s uncertainties amicably. Be a dependable person whose decisions will be looked up to by many generations to come. In this, I bless you, son.

ACKNOWLEDGMENT

I extend my sincere, heartfelt gratitude to my God, the creator who revealed an open vision to me and enabled me to take courage to pen my ideas in this book.

I greatly appreciate my mom and dad, who have strongly believed in my abilities and potentials, for their spoken blessings over my life and great support through school. To my dad, who throughout my life has been very supportive to the whole family and has shown what it is to be a real father figure in the family life, thank you.

To my four brothers—James, Charles, Leornard, and Samuel—for being protective and great boys when we were growing up. I pass my sincere love to you all. And to my two sisters—Miriam and Mary—for making our family complete with