I Want You Back

By Rita King

I Want You Back is an epic story of a woman who was seduced out of her husbands loving arms by modernization as materialism and acquisitiveness became her bedfellows. She was raised up in a mans world and unwittingly built walls of independence and self-sufficiency about her. She discovers through different bouts of emotional storms, when the scales fall out, that she had been wrong all along. It co-opts classic oratories of passion to crystallize the moral of the story. The husband has paid the price and given her the liberty to come to her senses. Will she realize, in due season, that his love is all that she wants and needs? Will she realize and believe that in spite of all her errors, he wants her back?

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse UK
• Release date: May 18, 2018
• ISBN: 9781546292784

Rita King

Rita King Omofuma is married to King Omofuma and a mother of three: Jesse, Jerimiah and Jemimah. She has been a banker for ten years before dedication to her writing ministry. She is an ordained minister in the Redeemed Christian Church of God, a seasoned Conference Speaker and a Provincial Facilitator on relationship matters. She and her husband are marriage counselors. She holds BSc. in Industrial Chemistry and MSc. in Corporate Governance from Leeds Beckitt University, United Kingdom. She is a Certified Consultant and a member of the Chartered Management Institute of United Kingdom. For her Global Corporate Governance, starts from Self Governance. She has a passion for re-structuring relationships on all fronts of life, the family, church and state. She is the author of Whirlwind of Desire, Framed by Love, and 250 Great Quotes n Notes.

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Foreword

I Want You Back is a book uniquely written to remind us of God’s love and faithfulness for the family. God the author of marriage gives room for forgiveness and reconciliation in marriage by demonstrating it in His relationship with the people of Israel (His Bride).

Just as the Israelites were lured into the sin of idolatry and disobedience during the time of Hosea, is exactly what is happening in some homes today, wives disobeying their husbands, husbands pursuing other women, women liberation movements and worldliness to mention but a few.

Rita King, through the help of the Holy Spirit has identified some of the causes of unfaithfulness and conflict in marriage and proffered solution through godly counsel as contained in this book. I humbly recommend this book to every family and especially to women who want to have a godly home. God bless you all.

Pastor (Mrs.) Bunmi Obasa| Wife of Pastor-in-Charge of Province, RCCG, Lagos Province12

Lagos, Nigeria.

Authenticative Commentaries

I Want You Back, is not just a fiction but a true life narration. It depicts and has a strong reflection of the society we live in. The writing is flawless. It was quite captivating that it became very difficult to resist reading it immediately it was received. After the first two paragraphs, I imagined a deeper thought of the insights and recovery model it presents in our contemporary society. A useful take away is where and when to draw a line, in balancing the burning issue and central message of the book, to avoid the pitfalls that potentially stand on our way.

The logical nature of its presentation and drawing paradigms is un-paralleled. For those intending to go into a relationship, "I Want You Back," is second to none in your quest for the list of specifications to be by your side. For those who are already there, it is a daily-guide. For those, who are stuck in a career and need to maintain a healthy home, it is a simple pendulum that aids the second-by-second balancing for stability. To all, it is a book that you will always love to read and share as you progress the journey of life.

Mike Aigbe | Deputy Managing Director, Fleet Technologies Limited, Subsidiary Company of Enterprise Bank Ltd.

The daily struggles and challenges of living in the 21st century take its toll on the spirit, mind and flesh of every man. We all are like jugglers tasked with the arduous responsibility of maintaining several crystal balls in the air, while making sure we drop none to the ground. This at the best of times would be a difficult task, without the stress and distractions of daily living thrown in to make it even more difficult.

I Want you back is unfortunately the reality of many women and families today and it speaks a quiet yet strong message to return our hearts and reorder our priorities; not every ball that we let fall can be mended.

Ronke Jibodu | Vice President, Lagos Island Zone, First City Monument Bank (FCMB)

Once you understand how God relates with the church then it becomes easy to relate with your spouse. Rita King’s creative ability to communicate with deep meaning and clarity the biblical teachings in a contemporary style underscores her passion to see the modern day Christian home become heaven on earth. In this book, she paints the picture of, there being no better substitute to God, your first love and there’s no better husband/wife than the husband/wife of your youth.

I therefore highly recommend it to everyone wanting to deepen his understanding of the fellowship between God and the church and see it reflect in his own life and family. A great and lovely book, life-transforming, spirit-enriching, with eternal truths set out in our times, easy to understand and tasty to devour, you can’t stop until you have gobbled all of its contents.

Victor John Udo | Associate Director, Finance and Admin: Tie Communications Ltd, Lagos.

I Want You Back is a book that has grown out of Rita’s love for a Christ like home. She is especially sensitive to the questions and yearnings of both young and old that approach her for counsel. Love compels her to be specific, and I am grateful that she has written such an impressive book. I pray this book finds its way into the hands of couples that are experiencing pain, sadness and regret in their marriages.

This isn’t just a book for the married alone. Given the rising tide of relationship problems all around us, singles and intending couples too can learn a great deal from listening in on the discernment that is happening on every page of the book. Because, Rita is not only a mother, she is an advocate of true love, she sees clearly that riding safely in this storm of life requires a peaceful, happy and God fearing home where God reigns.

One of my favorite studies from the book of Revelation is the picture of the heavenly city, filled with the light of God, with a river of life flowing through it. The river is lined with trees that bear fruit in every season, and their leaves are for the healing of the nations. So, relationships and marriages are supposed to be enjoyed eternally like the trees in eternity that has a permanent supply of water. As we yearn for genuine love, may we learn to trust ourselves completely to the end of life’s journey.

Favour Ogunyemi |Co-Founder: Royal Diamond Orphanage Home

I Want You Back is an epic story of a young woman who, lured by today’s crave for fame, fortune, self-achievement and self-sufficiency, sacrificed her love for her husband and family. She only realizes much later and after much harm, the vanity in such pursuit; a clear case of, if you get what you want, will you want what you get?

The book is a remarkable discourse on the subject of marriage: a mastery blend of the essence of the spiritual marriage between God and His church with the physical marriage between man and woman. It is a powerful recipe and a must-read for all married women and men, singles and intending couples.

Julius Okhueleigbe |Chartered Accountant: Regional Manager Keystone Bank.

Acknowledgements

I give all glory to God for His love, mercy and grace. Every day one sees that without Him we are just empty, worthless vessels. I thank Him for His excellency that is at work in and through me. He has given me beautiful, outstanding, awesome, inspiring biological and brain children. Of a truth I can say, me and the children you have given unto me we are for signs and wonders.

I would also like to acknowledge the divine supply of God’s unfailing support through the lives of these people.

My husband and mortal King, in ever increasing glory I see the love of Jesus breaking through that mortal frame to reach out to me in love. You are a reflection of my Heavenly King, thank you for creating comfort and love so I can nurture these glorious children the lord has given us.

My father in the Lord and mother in Israel, Pastor and Pastor (Mrs.) Enoch Adejare Adeboye, for their love, support and prayers. I could actually feel the impact of your prayers as I completed this book. Daddy and mummy, thank you from the depths of my heart, words alone are not enough to express my appreciation of your worth in my life, and in all your children especially the first born family of the Redeemed Christian Church of God, in our country and the world at large.

My mother, Philo Jukpor for her unfailing persistence in carrying this vision through the length and breath of her world. Members of the Mordi family who have supported me, thank you, especially my aunt Mrs. Mary Omo, who is eighty years but has ceaselessly evangelized the message and the books of Almondbooks.

Bishop T.D. Jakes for his inspirational teachings in expounding the height and depth of the passion Christ has for us.

My Provincial Mentors:

Pastor and Pastor (Mrs.) Johnson Ashaolu for their kind support.

Pastor and Pastor (Mrs.) CAF Obasa, in their own way being forerunners in their support of the vision.

Pastor Debo Akande for his fatherly understanding and acceptance in support of the vision.

Pastor Joseph Olagbadegun for his deep appreciation for my ministry.

Pastor and Pastor (Mrs.) Ola Adejube for their belief of God’s unction upon my life and ministry.

Pastor and Assistant Pastor (Mrs.) Wale Felix Dideoluwa for being loving mentors and inspiring certain portions of this book.

Members of Leeds Beckitt University in my Masterclass, who have on countless occasions given me their unwavering support.

Mrs. Elsie Ofili who has been a sister in deed, quite morally supportive in my low tides.

Author’s Drive

I have passion for restoration in our relationships. Marriages are under attack and this is aided by our ignorance on the issue. Our lackluster attitudes make us out as our own greatest enemies. As a corporate woman of this age Bidemi’s story catches us all at different points. At a point in time we become married to our jobs and lose sight of our first love, we misplace our priorities and serve our loyalty to our Corporate identity at the expense of our marriages. Writing this book has helped me crystallize the life lessons that calls me to retrace my steps first in my relationship with God and with my husband and children.

The best gifts are not the ones money can buy but ultimately giving the gift of the best version of yourself to those that matter most. Giving your time, emotional and spiritual energy to God and members of your family so that the divine destinies entrusted to us on our watch will hit their target. I pray that what I’ve been inspired to capture here in this story serves the purpose of recovery and ultimately restoration as it has for me.

Happy sailing,

Rita King.

Contents

The Overture

Chapter 1 - The Oratory of the Best Song

Classical Portraits of Passion

Stabilizing Influence of Classic Love

Controversial Twists and Turns

Modern Controversial Marriages

The Powerful Influence of Modernization

Modernization: Symptom Not Cause

Chapter 2 - The Perfection of Beauty

The Beauty of Wholesomeness

Symbolic Descriptions

Cherished Beyond Description

Love Unquenchable

Pearls or Pawns

Royal Tower of Ivory

Exclusivity of Marriage

My Friend: Altogether Lovely

Heavenly and Earthly Overtures

Emotional and Sexual Starvation

Sexual Communion

Zion: A Continuing Perfection

Chapter 3 - Celebrate Yourself

Your Emotional Universe

Stir Not Love Before its Time

Illegitimate Celebrations

Give No Uncertain Sound

You Are Peculiar

Destructive Synergy

Surrender Funds Wholeness

The Pursuit of Rarity

Intimacy: God’s Unique Design

Chapter 4 - The Contradiction

The Rejection

Open Your Door

The Monster of Familiarity

Break the Backbone of Familiarity

The Ambiguity of the Sexes

Looking Through His Eyes

Build a Throne of Admiration

Chapter 5 - The Royal Heartbreak

The Heartbroken Prophet

Typological Inferences

The Imagery of Unfailing Love

The Portrait of Grace

The Divine Controversy

Self Delusion

Ahab’s Delusion

Distortive Mechanisms

The Error of Religion

Religious Counterfeits

Chapter 6 - Gomer’s Strange Desires.

The Backslidden Beauty

Disqualified By Self

Delusive Understanding

Key Indicators of Spiritual Prostitution

Crafted For Worship

The Vicious Cycle of Rejection

Being Reinstated

Chapter 7 - Identifying the Ashes

Foundations of Rejection

The Ashes of Overachievement

Divine Engineering

The Encounter

The Moment of Truth

The Discontent of Modernization

Corporate Intoxication

Trademarks of Error

Church Prostitution

Beautiful Inside?

Chapter 8 - Hosea: The Aura of a Perfect Gentleman

Who Are You Behind the Wraps?

The Flaw on the Portrait

Defining Aura

Synergy Equals Focused Energy

Classic Portrait of a Gentleman

The Focal of Aura

Chapter 9 - Bona-Fide Temptation

Wrong Foundations

The Power of Brokenness

The Look Beyond the Look

The Flood of Dissipation

Emotional Storms

The Unguarded Moment

Analyzing The Affair

Launch Pads of an Unwholesome Edifice

Psychological Violation

No Street Overflows

Mind Management

Selective Intake of Media

Zip -Up Opportunistic Tendencies

Focus on the Big Picture

Chapter 10 - The Wounded Lion.

The Threefold Focus of God’s Love

The Power to Make Wealth

Beauty for Ashes

The Wounded Lioness

Daunting Repercussions of Unresolved Anger

Chapter 11 - Lamentations of the Daughter of Zion

The Deceitfulness of Error

The Beauty of Mourning

Tracing Back Her Steps

The Scales Fall Off

The Captive is Redeemed.

Focusing On Her King.

Reflections From the Past.

Bidemi’s Prayer

Chapter 12 - Restorative Strategies from Solomon

Accept Your Partner’s Emotional Uniqueness

Celebrate Each Other

Care Enough to Listen

Celebration of Likeness and Differences

Weed Out Defensiveness

Don’t Let Anger Simmer

Haven of Love

Chapter 13 - Restorative Strategies from Hosea

What is the Power of Submission?

Marriage: Divine Mini-Drama

Reception of Love

Finale

References

About the Author

The Overture

Chico and Bidemi had a marriage that almost everyone who knew them envied. Then Bidemi’s job got the better of her and slowly drew her out of her husband’s loving arms, leaving Chico at the mercy of a strange woman. One of their family friends Ejiro had come around, and he had gone on a stroll with Bidemi in the garden, while he tried to encourage her to let bygones be bygones. While speaking, in the foray of his words he cracked a joke to break the tension and Bidemi for the first time through the course of their conversation finally allowed a cackle of laughter to break through her lips. Chico looking at them through the lattice of the glass window hears her laughter and begins to reminisce.

Chico: There she is laughing so happily, or so it seems. But is she happy? Could she really be happy? Bidemi’s laughter had struck a chord of jealousy because for some weeks now, she hadn’t even so much as smiled while he was around her. What he did not take cognizance of was that:

Pro 14:13 Even in laughter the heart is sorrowful;

and the end of that mirth is heaviness.

She sounded just like those good old days when he first met her, but this time she was laughing with another guy. His jealous inclinations were piqued. What was it that had happened between them? What happened between him and Bidemi, his wife? All of a sudden, whenever he came into the room where she was, she seemed to freeze and retreat into herself, like she couldn’t bear to breathe the same air with him. Had he become that repugnant and repulsive? Had he become a masquerade, to the all time love of his life? What had he done to make her shrivel anytime she saw him? With a cry in his heart, he moaned Bidemi! Oh Bidemi! I hope I haven’t lost you for good. He had tried to speak these words to her countless times, but he always seemed to choke on them. He remembered the words she spoke to him when she found out that he had an affair with Linda. She had screamed with tears in her eyes.

Bidemi: Chico! Chico!! How could you do this to me? After all we have been through, you actually had the guts to cheat on me, and with that slut you call a business partner!! He retorted, She’s not a slut, the truth is when the desirable is not available, the available becomes the desirable. That sentence dealt a death blow on her already ravaged emotions and she did what she had never done to her husband ever before through the past eight years of their marriage, she slapped him.

Chico put his hand on his face and said: "Yes Bidemi slap me, hit me, and do all you can to inflict your pain on me, the pain you’ve been putting me through over the past few years. I was your first love. Our love was like love at first sight, like the love Solomon shared with his bride. Our union was fraught with great passion, that I actually feared if this could continue forever. I disvirgined you, but somewhere along the line, that first love and passion was channeled somewhere else. Somewhere along the line your focus shifted and you got married to your job. You were seduced by your profession, prominence and position that I became a makeshift in your life. Materialism became your driving force for existence and acquisition became your lifestyle. While I trust that you haven’t broken your marital vows, greed and avariciousness have become your bedfellows. Countless nights you left my bed cold and lonely, while you were off on a trip to Jamaica, Philadelphia or the Philippines. When you came back, you were always too tired to fill up the gaps you left, while you were away. So many times, I have lain beside you in bed while you slept with tears in my eyes, just wondering how I could really make you see reason for what