Lessons from My Father: 77 Mini Life Lessons from Dear Old Dad and Historical Fathers
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Life isnt easy, and dealing with its challenges, setbacks, and pitfalls can drain us of energy. Even so, finding hope in the midst of it all is not only possible, but necessary.
Youll find short messages of encouragement and inspiration in Lessons from My Father, a compilation of seventy-seven, faith-based life lessons from clinical psychologist Dr. Allan G. Hedberg. Combining his more than forty years experience in helping people with their needs, Hedberg helps you face your problems and guides you in your personal enrichment.
Through the eyes of famous and everyday fathers, as well as our Heavenly Father, each thought-provoking meditation provides areas for growing and maturing as a believer in Christ. Hedberg teaches the value of self-acceptance, the importance of encouragement, the intimacy of relationships, the process of caring, and the unfolding of an active and vital faith. His vital life lessons include building self-esteem, learning self-control, developing social skills, improving interpersonal relationships, and many more.
Spend a few minutes each day with Lessons from My Father for messages of hope and inspiration.
Allan G. Hedberg Ph.D.
Dr. Allan G. Hedberg is a clinical psychologist and maintains a private practice in Fresno, California. He received his doctorate in 1969 from Queen’s University, Kingston, Ontario. Hedberg is the founding principal of Avante Health, a managed care health insurance company. He and his wife, Bernice, live in Fresno and have three children.
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Lessons from My Father - Allan G. Hedberg Ph.D.
Lessons from My
Father
77 Mini Life Lessons from Dear Old Dad and Historical Fathers
ALLAN G. HEDBERG, PH.D.
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Compiled and edited by Allan G. Hedberg
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CONTENTS
DEDICATION
PREFACE
CHAPTER 1: LESSONS ON BUILDING SELF-ESTEEM
1. You Can Succeed And Don’t Let Anyone Say You Can’t
2. Always Remember Who You Are, Where You Are And What You Represent
3. Every Man Puts On His Trousers The Same Way, One Leg At A Time
4. Don’t Let Anyone Tear You Down
5. You Weigh Just As Many Ounces To The Pound As She Does
6. Don’t Get Too Deep In The Hole
7. Who I Am Is What You Get
8. You’re The Man
9. Semper Fidelis
10. Stupid Is As Stupid Does
11. A Day’s Pay For A Day’s Work
12. Thumbs Up
13. Go Out And Do Your Chores; You Will Feel Better.
CHAPTER 2: LESSONS ON IMPROVING INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
1. Don’t Let Anyone Take Your Peace Away
2. Misery Loves Company
3. What You Create With Your Hands You Erase With Your Feet
4. Good Kids Become Good Friends And Have Good Friends
5. You Cannot Reason With Somebody Who Is Unreasonable
6. Don’t Be Tafatt
7. You Don’t Get Harpooned Unless You Are Spouting
8. You Catch More Bees With Honey Than With Vinegar
9. Give And Live
10. Excuses Are Like Armpits, Everybody Has Two And They Always Stink
11. You Knew The Baby Needed A Diaper Change Before You Sat Down
12. Two Wrongs Don’t Make A Right
13. Don’t Run Up The Stairs And Don’t Run Down People
14. There Is No Such Thing As Bad Weather, Just Inappropriate Clothing
15. You Can Lead A Horse To Water, But You Can’t Make Him Drink
16. If They Are Going To Lie, Let Them Lie
17. If You Lie, You Are A Thief, If You Are A Thief, You Are A Liar
18. If They Hit You First, Hit Them Back
19. If They Jump Off The Bridge, Don’t You Jump Too
20. It Is Not What You Said, But How You Said It
CHAPTER 3: LESSONS ON LIVING WISELY AND WELL
1. Keep Your Ax Sharpened
2. Nothing Good Happens After Midnight
3. Taking Out The Trash Brings In The Respect
4. Curiosity Killed The Cat
5. Personal Growth Comes From Getting Up One More Time Than You Fall Down
6. Don’t Make Any Decisions At Night When You Are Tired; It Is Easier In The Morning When Your Mind Is Fresh
7. If You Can’t Work And Talk At The Same Time, Stop Talking
8. Poor People Have Money; Rich People Have Money And Problems.
9. There Is Nothing Worse Than A Lazy Man
10. No Home Should Be Run By A Two Year Old
11. Do What Your Mama Says
12. Thoroughness
13. Let’s Roll
14. You Will Never Know Until You Try
15. Give Me Something Of Thee And Something For Me
16. Keep Your Nose Clean
17. Money Is The Root Of All Evil
CHAPTER 4: LESSONS ON SEEING THE FUTURE IN PERSPECTIVE
1. When The Storms Of Life Come, It Is Too Late To Learn How To Swim
2. Rain Will Happen, But The Sun Will Always Shine Again
3. The Walk Of A Mile Starts With The First Step
4. Embrace The Journey
5. Truth Is An Absolute, The Rest Of Life Will Fall Together
6. Embrace The Unknown Future
7. What If…?
8. This Too Shall Pass
9. Childhood Is Preparation For Old Age
10. We Win Or Lose By The Way We Choose
11. Follow God…God Leads And We Follow
CHAPTER 5: LESSONS IN LIFE FROM OUR FOREFATHERS AND WORLD LEADERS
1. You Can Either Make A Mark With Your Life… Or You Can Make A Blur
2. You Never Know What Tomorrow Will Bring; The Trick Is To Be Ready When It Comes
3. Don’t Be Interesting, Be Interested
4. What Lies Behind You And What Lies Before You Pale In Significance When Compared To What Lies Within You
5. When The Wheat Is High Enough, Nobody Sees The Fences
6. England Expects That Every Man Will Do His Duty
7. Believe In Something Bigger Than Yourself
8. Miracles Don’t Happen Overnight, Sometimes They Take An Entire Weekend
9. A Little Science Estranges A Man From God; A Lot Of Science Brings Him Back
10. Determine Never To Stop Until You Have Come To The End And Achieved Your Purpose
11. Keep On Swinging
12. Do Not Forget The Customer Because Nothing Else Matters
13. He Who Says It, Does It
14. Unless You Love Your Work, You Won’t Find Balance
15. We Are All Servants In The Best Sense Of The Word
16. Go Forth And Preach The Gospel, And If Necessary Use Words
POSTSCRIPT
HOW BEST TO USE THIS BOOK
DEDICATION
Dedicated to all my patients in therapy for their ongoing personal growth and improvement.
A special thanks goes to all the patients who willingly shared with me their father’s mottos and their personal story. All names and a few of the details have been changed to protect their identity.
Kudos also goes to my office staff, Bernice, Gina and Kathy, who gave an extra effort to bring this devotional book to market.
Special recognition go to George Bragg, PhD, who invited me to write devotions for his weekly devotional blog with an online reading of approximately 2,000 people. His website is known as Journey Christian Fellowship, www.journeychristianfellowship.
TOUCHPOINT
Your statutes are my delight; they are my counselors.
(Psalm 119:24)
PREFACE
Devotional and instructional reading brings growth in one’s Christian faith and lifestyle. Devotional reading is one of the disciplines
for those believers that desire to mature in their Christian faith and walk. Through devotional reading we have fellowship with the Lord himself and learn to live and walk the Christian life more fully.
Devotional reading is more than casual reading or enjoyment; it is part of the process of learning to personally experience who God is, who my neighbor is, and how I impact others by my daily walk.
Devotional reading is a good way to learn to live the Christian life before others and personally gain from the experiences of others……from our fathers, to be sure. From a systematic reading of Lessons from my Father, we learn the value of self acceptance, the importance of encouragement, the intimacy of relationships, the process of caring, and the unfolding of an active and vital faith.
Devotional reading is a daily experience for the growing and maturing Believer. Lessons from my Father was written to assist you in your personal growth experience and walk with the Lord. Your family, friends, neighbors, colleagues, vendors, competitors, customers, clients, pew sitters, teachers, employers and business associates, to name a few, will all benefit from the impact these devotional readings will have on you. I pray that this devotional, Lessons from my Father, will help you have a worldwide impact on others for the cause of Christ
In summary, devotional reading is to be inspirational, motivational, informational, and impactful. An old proverb put it this way, Write down the advice of him who loves you, though you like it not at the present.
May you find such an experience as you read Lessons from my Fathers as a personal resource and spiritual guide book.
Allan G. Hedberg, Ph.D.
Clinical Psychologist
Fresno, California
CHAPTER 1
"…you shall teach them…talk of them…
when you walk by the way…"
Deuteronomy 6:7(KJV)
LESSONS ON BUILDING SELF-ESTEEM
Lessons in self-esteem are important to read and meditate upon, especially at times of discouragement and self-depreciation. As you read devotionals from this section, let God use the underlying message of the various devotionals to give you behavior-changing thoughts to mediate upon throughout the day. Read with a hope and purpose so you will gain confidence and achieve clear thinking. Learn how to take action steps to focus on the real value of God, faith, yourself, and those important to you. Make today’s devotional reading a confidence-building moment. Do whatever you can to share the message with others so they will have a life-changing experience likewise.
YOU CAN SUCCEED AND DON’T LET ANYONE
SAY YOU CAN’T
In everything he (David) did he had great success,
because the Lord was with him.
I Samuel 18:14
Jessica’s parents were both full time working parents. Her father was an executive with a major insurance company. While he was very active in his business and worked long hours, he also maintained an active involvement in her life, for which she has been very thankful. As Jessica and I talked during her therapy sessions, she recalled many occasions playing dolls and games with her father on the floor. He often took her along with him on some of his business calls. She valued these times with him. They helped her develop a special relationship with him even into her adult years. It was these special occasions together with him that left her with a fond and warm memory of her father after his untimely death, just one year earlier to our conversation.
In therapy, as we were processing her grief over the loss of her father, I asked her to reflect on the influence of her father on her life. She readily recalled the phrase that he frequently repeated, You can succeed and don’t let anyone say you can’t.
He stated it so many times that it became her own motto for her life.
While she never forgot the motto, unfortunately she did neglect to recall it at very important times in her life when she was undergoing a high degree of stress; most recently in her employment situation with her supervisor. She stated how her supervisor was a very demanding, demeaning and belittling person. She stated that she began to doubt herself when she was around him. Self doubt became a chronic battle for her.
As her therapy continued, I encouraged her to reclaim the motto of her father and apply it to the work situation in which she found herself. We practiced using it and applying it to various stressful situations in the workplace. Over the course of her therapy, the motto was frequently recalled. It served her well as a basis for her emotional recovery. She soon felt increased confidence, strength, determination and independence.
As she based her reliance on God’s presence in her life she ultimately grew in wisdom and maturity. She became a leader in her office just as David experienced in his encounters with Saul (I Samuel 18:14). Indeed, the Lord was with David, and he soon became a servant leader of a thousand men. Even Saul took close notice of David’s exemplary living and leadership style thereafter.
EXPERIENCING GOD
Lord, there are times when I get discouraged and doubt myself. There are times when the comments of other people lead me astray and create within me a sense of inadequacy and personal weakness. Today, I seek your help by asking for your presence in my