Coaching Leadership Families: Using the Leadership Family Model to Coach, Mentor and Multiply Healthy Families

By Ulf Spears

This book examines the leadership family model as a key coaching and mentoring tool for the multiplication of healthy, strong families in the twenty-first century. This book introduces the leadership family model as a four-step process: individual male and female leadership, leadership couples, leadership families, mentor-coach other leadership families. In addition, this book highlights the third and fourth steps of the leadership family modelleadership families, mentoring-coaching leadership familiesby defining, explaining, and suggesting ways to coach and mentor families locally and globally. Primary and secondary research was used in this book as well as life experience. The results indicate there is evidence leadership families do exist, and the leadership family model should be considered as a viable coaching and mentoring tool for multiplying healthy, strong families in the twenty-first century. In addition, the results suggest families need a roadmap to health, strength, and growth. The leadership family model can provide that roadmap.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Nov 6, 2012
• ISBN: 9781479739325

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Contents

Dedication

Acknowledgments

Preface

Chapter 1 THE LEADERSHIP FAMILY MODEL PROCESS

Introduction to Coaching Model

Leadership Families

Leadership Family Model

Summary

Chapter 2 RESEARCH AND INTERVIEWS WITH EXPERTS ON LEADERSHIP FAMILIES AND MODEL

Coaching Model Research Discoveries

Interviews with Experts

Summary

Chapter 3 GOING GLOBAL WITH COACHING LEADERSHIP FAMILIES

Globalization of Coaching Model

What is Coaching?

Coaching versus Mentoring

Why Coach Leadership Families?

How to Coach Leadership Families

Coaching Questions and Leadership Families

Coaching Context and Leadership Families

Going Global with Coaching Leadership Families

Chapter 4 CROSS-CULTURAL ISSUES AND LEADERSHIP FAMILIES

Cross-Cultural Coaching Model

Monochronic and Polychronic Cultures

Low-and High-Context Cultures

Cross-Cultural Communication: A Win-Win Situation!

The Forgotten Soft Skill

Breaking Down the Mental Barriers

Improving Cross-Cultural Communication

Active Listening

Identify Cultural Blind Spots and Belief Systems

Leadership Families and Global Mindsets

Cross-Cultural Conflict Management and Leadership Families

Chapter 5 CULTURAL METAPHORS AND LEADERSHIP FAMILIES

Cultural Metaphors’ Effect Coaching Model

Metaphors

Metaphors in Culture

Summary

Chapter 6 SUMMARIZING THE RESEARCH FINDINGS

Coaching Model Summary

Chapter 7 CONCLUSION

Coaching Model Wrap-Up

Appendix A SPEARS MENTORING LEADERSHIP FAMILY STORY

Dedication

I want to dedicate this book to my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ for giving me the strength, wisdom, endurance, and desire to write on the subject of leadership families. In addition, I want to dedicate this book to my wife, Carrie, and my daughters, Adreanna, Atarah, and Annaka, for the unending support they gave me during my writing. Finally, I want to dedicate this book to the young people and their families who have allowed me to speak into their lives and impart the knowledge God has given me.

Acknowledgments

T his book would not be possible unless my late mother, Mattie Spears, had not encouraged me to do all the Lord has told me to do and not hold anything back. Those words echoed in my mind as I wrote this book. Mattie was a single mother of four children and a gospel and opera singer throughout the region in which we lived. Her influence on my life will never be forgotten as seen in the Christian values and beliefs embodied not only in me but also in my family. I am grateful to my family for allowing me to pursue my lifelong goal of writing a book that will touch people’s lives.

I owe my deep gratitude to my fellow classmates who struggled through a long four years of coursework with me at Regent University. You all mean the world to me, and I can say I would not have been able to accomplish this without your encouragement and support. I wish to thank all my professors (including Dr. Wiater, Dr. Winston, Dr. Oster) who challenged me to dig deeper into my heart, spirit, and mind for quality assignments, projects, papers, and reports. I want to thank Rosalind Blunt and Rosalinde Bethard for the God-given gifts you possess as editors.

I want to thank Bishop Probasco for never giving up on my dream and reminding me about how important it was for me to finish strong. I am truly indebted and thankful to New Song Church for allowing me to apply much of what I learned during my doctorate program within its church walls and ministry. I owe sincere and earnest thankfulness to my current place of employment, Portland Housing Center, for allowing me to take off two weeks for residency during my three years of study and for allowing me the freedom to work abbreviated workweeks in order to accomplish my dream. I am obliged to many of my colleagues who supported me during the writing of this book: Art, Patricia, and Olivia Williams; Steven and Elvira Davis; Jeffery, Irena, and Victoria Scott; and Ahmed, Adrienne, Solomon, Selah, and Simone Armstraun.

In addition, my thanks go out to PPM Global Resources; their advisers and career coaches, Dr. Price and Tala Price; and the team for helping me to see my true calling and how the attainment of a doctoral degree was in God’s plan for my life and would catapult me into new levels of success and confidence.

Preface

T his book is a practical version of my doctoral project at Regent University which introduces the leadership family model as a key coaching and mentoring tool for the multiplication of healthy, strong families in the twenty-first century. The leadership family model process is a new way to look at coaching and mentoring families and, thus, lays a solid foundation for future research. The book explains the leadership family model as a four-step process: (1) individual male and female leadership, (2) leadership couples, (3) leadership families, and (4) mentoring/coaching of other leadership families. In addition, the book focuses on the third and fourth components of the leadership family model—leadership families and mentoring/coaching of leadership families—by defining, explaining, and suggesting ways to coach and mentor other families locally and globally. The research tools used in this book include academic journals, popular press articles, online questionnaires, interviews, manuals, textbooks, and life experiences. The research conducted in the book provides evidence that leadership families do exist and that the leadership family model should be considered as a viable tool for multiplying healthy, strong families in the twenty-first century. The conclusion drawn from this book is that families need a road map to health, strength, and growth. The leadership family model provides that road map to coaching these families.

This book was written in response to the countless young families my wife, children, and I have assisted through mentoring and coaching. Second, this book was inspired by a certificate that was given to my wife and me for the commitment we made to a family during a twenty-seven-week mentoring and coaching session. Following is a sketch of the certificate given to us:

This is Good Mentorship Award

Presented to

Ulf and Carrie Spears

On the sixth day of February 2010

For always telling us the truth, even when we did not want to hear it, and for your ability to be transparent with us so we could experience growth in every aspect of our lives.

________________________________________

Husband (name withheld at request of client)

____________________________________

Wife (name withheld at request of client)

Third, this book was written to nuclear families that are empowered and inspired to help other families become successful for nothing in return. You are the unsung heroes behind the scene who keep the institution of marriage and family going when no one is looking. Fourth, this book was written for single men and women who want to marry for the reproduction of healthy values, ethics, and principles. Fifth, this book was written to challenge all families to reach for more than the current culture is reaching for and to expect more from the institution of marriage and family than the current culture is expecting. Sixth, this book was written to highlight the need for parents to be seen as leaders and their children as followers and potential future leaders. Seventh, this book was written to challenge married couples to reproduce their visions through mentoring and coaching other couples. Eighth, this book was written to advance the movement of merging leadership and family theory pioneered by Stephen Covey and other theorists. Ninth, this book was written to tell my story of going from a broken home to being a part of a role model family. Tenth, this book was written to give a road map to other role model families who simply need direction. Eleventh, this book was written to give identity and motivation to a group of people (i.e., leadership families) who up to this point have been nameless, stagnant, directionless, and powerless.

Finally, this book was written in response to the real-life tragedy of divorce, which 50 percent of marriages in the United States experience, and its effect on families throughout the world (Your City Lawyer 2010). A statistical expert suggests that traditional families should be placed on the rare-species directory because of their shrinking existence and the growing frailty of the tradition (Lounds-Culp 2010). With these thoughts in mind, I have committed this book to the strengthening of traditional families (one married man and one married woman with at least one child) throughout the world, the amplification of the new concept of leadership families and the leadership family model process, and the coaching of leadership families throughout the world.

Chapter 1

THE LEADERSHIP FAMILY MODEL PROCESS

Introduction to Coaching Model

T he leadership family model was born in me years ago as a boy in the inner city of Portland, Oregon. I was the product of a broken family with a strong single mother who raised us with a Christian foundation and a hope for the future. I remember when my father said he was leaving to pick up some milk from