Hope for the Lonely: Trusting God for Your Mate

By Jacqui Moore

In Hope For The Lonely, Jacqui Moore shares the wisdom and knowledge
God has given her about what it means to wait and how to wait
on God for your mate. God longs to be gracious to us and grant us the
desires of our hearts but there are lessons we need to learn in life fi rst.
If you are lonely, frustrated, and tired of waiting this book will reveals
mysteries concerning.
What it means to seek God fi rst and foremost
Your purpose living single and purpose in a relationship
How to spend your time waiting
How to cover your relationship once God has answered your
prayers for a mate
What it means to have hope and faith in a God who is faithful
If you desire answers to the questions why do I have to wait, how do
I wait, and how do I handle my relationship once the wait is over you
will appreciate this book.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Xlibris US
• Release date: Apr 29, 2011
• ISBN: 9781462852307

Jacqui Moore

Jacqui Moore desires to share the wisdom and knowledge God has given her as she has lived the single life. Jacqui knows how it feels to be lonely, frustrated, and tired with waiting. Jacqui hopes this encourages you and gives you a hope as you grow in knowing that God has not forsaken you.

Book preview

PART 1: SEED

The word of God is like a seed that is planted in our hearts. Just like any other seed it needs water, sunlight, and oxygen to grow. The word that God plants in our hearts needs more word, prayer, and faith in order to grow. Matthew 13:1-23 talks about the seed (word of God) and how it needs to grow. We need to know what the word says about being in a relationship, about desiring a relationship, about the specific plan God has for our lives individually and then as a couple; this section of the book will address all of these things.

CHAPTER ONE

HOPE WILL NOT DISAPPOINT

I wait for the Lord, my soul waits, and in his word I put my HOPE. My soul waits for the Lord more than watchmen wait for the morning, more than watchmen wait for the morning. O Israel put your HOPE in the Lord… Psalms 130:5-7

MEANING OF HOPE

Hope means to wait for something with confident expectation. The word tells us to have confident expectation in the Lord and in His word. His word says in the morning, O Lord, you hear my voice; in the morning I lay my requests before you and wait in expectation (Psalms 5:3). This tells me that we are to pray daily and then wait and expect the Lord to show up in our lives daily. Confident expectation is to know the Lord and to know that he is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine according to the power that works within us (Ephesians 3:20). To know the Lord means to spend time in his word. His word is where our hope comes from. We have to spend time reading, studying, and praying the word, so that we can have a hope that builds our faith. We are unable to receive anything from God without faith. Ephesians 3:20 clearly shows us that the Lord reacts to our faith, so if we first do not have hope we do not have faith. Spend time in the word, fellowshipping with God, eating at his table, and laying at his feet so your faith can grow. It is there we are able to have a hope and a faith in God that is unshakeable. Do not feel hopeless and start to think that there is no one out there for you, God has created a suitable helper for you (Genesis 2:18). Know that your mate has been created, tailor made, just for you. Do not give up on believing the promise, be encouraged through fellowship with God and through his word.

HOPE AND FAITH

The basis for our faith, which is needed to see God’s promises come to pass in our life, is hope. Hope begets faith. Having hope first starts with our thinking and then with our talk. We first have to think and know that God is a good God and that His word is true when it says that He will grant us the desires of our hearts (Psalms 37:4). Many of us have faith but no hope, so you have to ask yourself do I really have faith because you cannot have one without the other. I thought I had faith I was acting on the word, praying the word, and declaring it to others but in the back of my mind I would tell myself not to think positive so I would not be disappointed when nothing happened. I was not expecting the Lord to come through on his promises; I was actually expecting him to fail. We must know without a doubt that God can never fail. I was casting down thoughts that were in expectation of the Lord showing up in my life which is total opposite from what the words tells us to do. I was casting down thoughts of being in a relationship, thoughts of marriage, and thoughts of a family. Second Corinthians 10:5 says to cast down every thought that sets itself up against the word of God. It is God’s will for all those who desire to be in a relationship, to be in a relationship. I knew this to be true as I read stories of how God blessed Issac with a wife (Genesis 24), Ruth with a husband (Ruth 2-4) and Adam with Eve (Genesis 2). God is the same God He was back then, He can never change. If He blessed those back then with a mate, He will surely bless me. The word clearly tells us to expect and hope so I know that if I have thoughts of hope and expectations I am in line with the word. It is okay to imagine your prayers as answered and I had to realize that I could imagine myself with someone, imagine myself married, and imagine myself with a family. The enemy will attack your thinking and attempt to steal your hope. The enemy knows that if you do not have any hope, you will not have any faith, and you will not see the Lord’s promise come to pass in any area of your life. Our thinking is where our hope originates and I had to learn that it was okay to have hope and to expect the blessing of a mate. I had to learn to trust in His word when He said that my hope will not be disappointed (Romans 5:5). This scripture is a guarantee that God will come through if you choose to put your hope in Him. A guarantee means that it will without a doubt happen for you. No more wondering if it will happen but know that it is going to happen.

Not only do we have to have the right thinking in order to have hope that produces faith but we have to have the right talk. You must realize that angels moving on our behalf according to the words that we speak. In Hebrews 1:14 it states that angels are ministering spirits that are sent to serve us. Just like being at a restaurant we tell our server what it is that we want and they take our request to the cook and then bring it back to us. It is the same with the angels, as we speak Gods word they take what it is we have ordered back to the Father, the Father moves on our behalf, and the Lord returns to us what it is that we have spoken. We give assignment to the angels surrounding us. If we are not speaking the right words the angels are not moving on our behalf. Common mistakes we make with our talk are saying I do not want to get my hopes up, I do not know, I’ll never be married, I’m done with love, Nobody wants me, I’m too old, or I have a child among other things. Speaking those phrases will not put angels into flight to help you see the Lord’s word come to pass in your life. You have to change you talk. Romans 4:17 says that we are to call things that are not as though they were. Speak of being married, speak of having a family, and blessing others who desire the same is the talk you must have. You might not be able to see how it is going to happen with your eyes but there should be a tugging you your spirit that allows you to speak of the hope that you have in Christ. We have to train our flesh to take after the things of the spirit. Part of that training is speaking and believing even though you cannot see it. Ask yourself are you speaking right? Are you thinking right? If not start now it is where our hope begins.

YOU HAVE NOT BECAUSE YOU ASK NOT

As the revelation of having hope and faith transformed my thinking I had to ask myself have I even asked for a mate. You have to open your mouth and ask for it. It is not enough to just think it but you have to ask for it. As single men and women we spend a lot of time thinking about having a love and we spend a lot of time desiring to be in a long lasting relationship with the one God created for us. Know that God wants the very same thing for you so it is okay to ask for it. I have felt fear of asking God to bless me with a relationship because it just seemed like something you did not ask for. You ask God for peace, joy, health, and provision but not for a man! I realized that not asking him was not giving him the opportunity to bless me in that area of my life. I realized that if I wanted the best person for me, I had to surrender that part of my life to the Lord and give Him permission to bless me in that area. You are not giving him permission to bless you if you do not ask. Another reason to ask God for a mate is because if we do not ask him we will never receive the healthy, long, lasting relationship we truly deserve. Now take notice that you might get into a relationship but it will not be the healthy, long lasting relationship with the person that God created just for you. I believe the