Truth Shift: One Scared Girl’S Guide to Creating Mindful Change

By Tiffany Hawkins

Its scary to know that we have no control over anything except ourselves, and yet, this truth is our greatest strength. You see, everything changes as we change. We see, hear, understand and experience differently through new beginnings. When we choose knowing truth over illusions, we naturally accelerate our growth through the unconditional loving support which has been with us always. There is so much that our Universe wants us to know about who we really are and what we can achieve! Perhaps we have misunderstood the purpose of our pain and the many injustices we have experienced already. Truth easily brings correction and supports a natural balance. As our perspectives shift through what is truth, the love, compassion, empathy and patience within us expands outwards, creating new loving beginnings for our relationships and experiences.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Balboa Press
• Release date: Jul 31, 2017
• ISBN: 9781504385282

Tiffany Hawkins

Tiffany Hawkins wanted to change everything about herself. The gift of life had to mean more than enduring relentless lessons and stress. Outwardly, she changed everything she could, including becoming a Registered Nurse. When anxiety began threatening her hopes of ever finding the real peace she was seeking, she began questioning what wisdom she was missing. That is when the tools of Truth Shift began to take shape, and she used them as she felt guided to do so. She discovered that the real journey begins once we learn to think inside out. The enjoyable surprise is finding out how much easier this real journey is! Tiffany is married and the proud mother of three amazing children. Currently, she teaches nursing students and lives in California.

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Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1 Wanting Change

Chapter 2 Deciding to Change

Chapter 3 Truth

Chapter 4 Responsibility

Chapter 5 Unity

Chapter 6 Time

Chapter 7 Health

Chapter 8 Simplicity

Chapter 9 Habits

Chapter 10 Inspiration

Chapter 11 Forgiveness

Chapter 12 Truth

For James, Sarah, Jennifer, and for her.

Introduction

I t takes courage to live life fearlessly, to takes risks, to create change. Fear may motivate change, but it does little else to help us from there. For a long time, I had no idea what it would feel like to live without being afraid of something. Whenever I tried to invoke fearlessness into my life choices, it was never long before fear joined the party. Soon I would be wondering if I was naive or delusional about what I could realistically achieve.

Feelings do not define truth, but we behave as if they do. We use our feelings as barometers for truth’s presence in our lives or in the choices we make every day. If something makes us feel good, we judge that it must be right; if something makes us feel bad, then it must not be right. What is the difference between feelings, fear, and truthful intuitive guidance? Who exactly is doing all this talking, and which voice should we be listening to? How are we supposed to know the difference?

I became tired of being afraid of everyone and everything. I became tired of being hurt by the people I loved and cared for and by people projecting their pain on to me. I decided that I no longer wished to play the victim role in my life, so I set about making many willful changes. Within a period of about ten years, I divorced, I distanced myself from the people whom I believed were toxic, I received a college education, and I even married a wonderful man. Everything should have been as perfect as I hoped it would be after making so many changes.

However, after so much effort, I became frustrated and discouraged when I realized that even though I had worked so hard to change the circumstances in my life that I believed were the cause of my many fears and low self-esteem, I still felt pretty much the same on the inside. In fact, my anxieties, self-doubt, and fears were in some ways much worse. Why, after so much bravado, was I still having experiences where I would feel hurt, rejected, deceived, or bullied? Why wasn’t I stronger? Why did I still feel like that scared little girl from my youth?

I knew that I was missing something important. I had received enough spiritual guidance periodically throughout my life to know that there is always more going on than what I am aware of. There have also been times when I experienced what I call truth shifts.

Truth shifts happen when our perspectives change through some truth, and our entire being transforms through our new understandings. Our vision clears, and we suddenly just know, with complete clarity, what we did not understand before. We see an entire situation differently.

I believe that each time we experience one of these miraculous shifts, our progression toward knowing and being our truest selves quickens. Each shift corrects the previous perceptions that were hindering our growth, keeping us physically and emotionally stuck in one mental place. These truth shifts feel like a push from the universe, letting us know that the time for change is overdue. Truth shifts always demand our attention and action when they happen this way.

Many of my first truth shifts were painful experiences, because life as I knew it had to suddenly alter without my consent. They felt like rapid experiences that were ultimately making decisions about my life for me. It was like I had no choice but to quickly see and know what I did not want to know. I never believed that I was ready to deal with whatever the universe wanted me to deal with.

Truth shifts are different for everyone, but here are a few examples where suddenly becoming aware of an existing truth could be experienced as unwanted and painful:

• accidentally discovering that you were adopted as a baby

• finding out that your spouse or partner was cheating

• wrecking your vehicle and getting a DUI when you believed that you were sober enough to drive

• discovering any form of deception or lies

• getting caught on camera doing anything that you would prefer remained private

Okay, that last example was meant to be funny, and not all of these things have happened to me. However, whenever I did experience a truth shift, my life eventually improved after I finally dealt with the exposed truth. When I realized that I was pretty good at not seeing what I should be seeing, I began that ten-year journey of making all those changes before reality could come along and catch me off guard again. I believed that if I created my own truth shifts ahead of time, I could become someone other than the scared and naive girl I had always been. I tried to face the truth by divorcing, avoiding toxic people, moving, becoming educated, and changing jobs. However, when I found myself still feeling scared, anxious, and insecure, I knew that I was missing something very important.

When beliefs change through what is truth, that is when transformations happen.

When I first set about creating change in my life, I was acting with all the power of my half truths, stubbornness, and limited understandings about everything. What I had missed is that none of the core beliefs I held about myself had changed, and I could never truly transform until they did. What was worse was that I was wholly unaware of those core beliefs in the first place. I could always change what people saw of me on the outside, and I could even make some genuine improvements to my circumstances, but I could not create truth shifts because I am not the creator of what is truth. I do not have all the answers, and I am not aware of the entire plan. None of us have this complete comprehension or awareness. Sometimes we need help and guidance to make a difference. Sometimes we need tools for additional strength.

There is a distinct difference between genuine truth shifts and movements. Willful movements made without the strength and wisdom of truth eventually lead us to simply repeat negative patterns, and this happens even when we are trying very hard to improve ourselves or change our life circumstances. Negative patterns will always repeat until we get it, or until the universe decides to get involved and create rapid truth shifts for our immediate comprehension.

In hindsight, I could see that truth always improved my life and my circumstances, even when I resisted knowing it. I could see that after a truth shift, I never repeated a particular pattern again, even though the learning may have been painful or uncomfortable.

The goal of Truth Shift is to inspire and welcome truth shifts without so much pain. In this book, I do not define truths and attempt to prove them. I am still a student of truth myself and not an expert. Instead, I offer an easy method to facilitate bold changes and miraculous transformations without fear. Truth Shift is a workbook.

Mahatma Gandhi taught that truth and love are faces of the same coin. By welcoming truth into our daily perceptions and understandings, we are being open to love while resisting fear. Simply stated, we cannot and do not hold love and fear at the same time. It is always one or the other. By using the tools in Truth Shift, I began creating the changes I wanted (without the pain or fear) for so long with an acceleration that is hard to imagine until personally experienced. If you are willing to commit the next twenty-one days to creating mindful change without fear, you can experience this as well.

Shifting is changing, and we can choose to change at any time. The goal should always be to change through what is truth because truth facilitates the permanent transformations