Vision for Your Future to Prosperity & Romance: Building Marriage for the Future by Educating Couples to Flourish

By Willie Grimes

Sexual emotion and sexual pleasure in the marriage.

Sexual temptations are difficult to withstand because they appeal to the normal and natural desires that God has given us. Marriage provides God's way to satisfy our natural sexual desires and to strengthen us against temptation. As married couples, we have the responsibility to care for

• Language: English
• Publisher: Trilogy Christian Publishing
• Release date: Sep 9, 2021
• ISBN: 9781647738839

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Introduction

Welcome to your vision for your future! This is a joint effort of elder Willie E. Grimes Sr. and evangelist Temple Ann Grimes. We not only created this business that’s called Building Marriage Fellowship Organization, but this is also personal, by having different events and ideas for married couples. This is dedicated to producing material for married couples who want to grow in their relationship and those who are planning to be wedded one day. This is not only for the black community; it’s for all races. God created us for a purpose; it is His goal for us to grow and prosper as a family. With many goals, this will allow us to sustain a healthy marriage in our relationship that gives us the ability to do what we are called to do. Every marriage should be healthy and strong in a relationship; we are working toward motivating couples to be countless as God’s people. This will renew your mind, change your future, change your lives—if you want to see more changes, partner with us! We have talked to so many married couples during the years of serving, and we noticed that those who are married want more out of a relationship, and those that are planning to be married one day want to see a better and prosperous future for their marriage, or, should I say, for their lives. We both shrugged with so many suggestions of taking on such a monumental task for years. The voices of many married and unmarried couples got louder, and we began to feel compelled to make many things happen. We responded to the needs of our community. This was designed to be use by God’s people; this is a setting designed for numerous couples who are looking for growth and spiritual guidance as they flourish in their relationship and their marriage.

Just the thought of doing something liked this is great, but some couples gave mixed reviews, stating how they wanted to be served. There were couples who sat on the sidelines, wondering if we would sink or swim. Of course, you know we all have to learn how to swim; if we don’t, we will sink. There were the cheerers that said, It’s about time or We really need this. There were many married couples who enjoyed themselves when we had many events during the years of serving.

The good news is, wow, we’ve finally continued to a start a new chapter. It’s time to grow as we flourish through the Word of God. We consider this as an effort to strengthen marriages, reduce divorces, and give more children the gift of a two-parent family. But unfortunately, the world as we know is far from equal. From different cultures, in so many marriages, the rate is falling to the bottom, while those of divorces and unmarried couples having children out of wedlock are leading the pack. A forty-year spiral is just starting to turn around. We need something that makes our future look good for next-generation families and so other cultures who want to prosper can.

This is our future to do what we are called to, and we welcome your thoughts and suggestions on making a better future for all of us. We’re working on strengthening our ability so others may have faith based on God’s Word that married couples and newlyweds may have goals that would build and create prosperity in their lives for their families.

How to Use This Information as a Guide

This information was created to strengthen marriages all over the world by giving you, as married couples, an understanding of the importance of how God values all our lives He wants to develop a way that we can solve many conflicts in our marriage and our relationship. God wants to enhance us in many ways; He wants our marriage to flourish like we could never imagine. How do you want to grow? Are you both ready for change? How do you want to prosper? How do you want to be romanced? Do you want to be romantic? Do you want to be loved? Do you want to be understood? Do you want to communicate better in your relationship? Do you want your finance to flourish? Do you both want a better life for your families? Do you both want an increase in your ability to make love? What do you both want to see in your future for you to prosper? We are looking to open many doors to success for your future; it’s all up to both of you if you want it. What’s the desire you have for your lives together? What keeps you both going? What’s your strength and desire for your future? God gave us all these abilities to help not only ourselves but also others who need this kind of information too.

When you both was dating how did you keep your relationship strong that kept you together?

Was it sex?

Was it romance?

Was it love?

Was it friendship?

Was it companionship?

Relationship brake up for so many reason including marriages.

We all have weakness in our lives. Temptation is part of our weakness; men are not the only ones who fell because of sin. It started from the beginning of time with Adam and Eve. One thing I have learned, not every pastor teaches on this subject, but if we work on ourselves, we can strengthen our ability to get over this weakness we all have. We can fool ourselves if we think we do not have any type of weakness in our lives; it all depends on what it is.

Let’s talk about growth. What does growth mean to both of you as a family? This covers all areas. This is a stage of development, or maturity reached in growing. The meaning of growth in the Webster’s Dictionary is, There is an increase in size and in numbers. Let’s talk about growth and strength. What does growth mean to both of you as a family? To increase in size by assimilation of nourishment, or a natural process. We grow in progress toward maturity. We have to sprout and develop. To flourish, we must thrive. To increase in size, quantity, intensity, etc. To come to be is to develop. If we want to become fixed, we must be attached to by growth. To cause to grow, raise by cultivation. We must produce or develop by a nature process. To cover with growth (used in the passive). Grow on. To become gradually more pleasing an important to each other. Grow up. To become an adult is good. Growth needs strength, knowledge, and skill. There is a strength in your beauty. Our lives should be fun, exciting, and engaging. It is important to have each other as husband and wife, to hold each other as lovers become one in unity. As a wife, you should make your husband feel important and welcome him by helping him get involved as you flourish with him and become one by being romantic and sexy in lovemaking. Men do the same so you can flourish with your wife as well. So many young and older married couples are missing this kind of teaching, so we need to start from the beginning. When God made man and woman, why do you think God made you both to become one? Everything has a reason and a purpose—the air you both breathe has a purpose. We have to inhale and exhale to live. What is your purpose, and what does it mean? Can you both grow and flourish with it? Can you both make love to one another the same time? As a man or woman can you romance your wife? As a wife can you romance your husband?

Everyone is different some have experience and some need experience to enhance thier relationship in their marrige. The whole thing is about learning as you change your lifestyle by putting God first in your relationship.

Part 1

Session 1

Why Did God Create Marriage?

Overview

This session here opens many doors to many questions, like why did we get married and what went wrong? Let’s start in Genesis. We can start learning from this passage, then we can go forward. There will be many questions and answers from couples who want to grow and flourish in their marriage.

Goals

We will discuss the historical importance of marriage and why it is important to us.

The benefits of being married to our wives come with a prize.

The benefits of our wives being married to us come with a prize and more.

The benefit of being married is about being in love, and being romantically in love comes with romances that help build our marriages.

Sex plays another role in our marriage. This is very important if we want to improve our ability in our relationship. And finance is another role we have to improve in our lives if we want to grow.

Let your imaginations grow as we talk on different subjects with how we can improve our relationship as we imagine how our future will be prosperous through the Word of God.

The benefit of having children is a blessing that comes with prosperity in their lives.

Understanding the value of marriage makes a difference in all our lives.

One issue that hinders or prevents so many couples from getting married is having intercourse before marriage. This can hurt you in the long run.

Why do many couples think marriage isn’t important?

Why do many couples think marriage is important to their lives now?

Why do many couples think marriage is just a piece of paper?

Why are there so many divorces in the churches, our homes, and our businesses?

What do you think went wrong with so many married couples who are getting divorces or those who are already divorced? There’s a solution to every problem we introduce to you why marriage is so important to all of us. When God created men and women, He had a purpose in mind for all of us. Why? God’s purpose was for us to grow. It was not for us to live poor; it was for us to learn how to grow and learn what poor is really all about. It was said that some married couples’ choice was poor. We can’t change that; they have to want it. If they desire to flourish in their marriage and their relationship, they can.

Marriage provides benefits of security in all relationships. For married couples, this can’t be duplicated in any way. There are so many marriages that want to prosper. This is not only by having benefits but also having the Word of God in you and your relationship—that’s what makes your marriage prosperous. But the benefit of having God in your relationship makes a huge difference. Think about it: there are so many marriages that need a different kind of excitement and entertainment on their date night with each other. Married couples can have different gender; it can be good and positive. That’s what makes our relationship prosperous and fruitful.

Marriage provides a healthy environment that gives us access to material things and the resources for couples who want to improve their lifestyle in their relationship. People are our resources for the material things that supply us with the ability to not only strengthen our relationship but also help build other marriages. That’s why it is important to learn everything you can to keep your body healthy and strong in a good environment.

As couples, we must work together and develop a mission statement, a vision and purpose for your marriage. The mission is, What goals do you have for your marriage? What kind of accomplishment are you looking for in your relationship? And what have you both accomplished in your lives together? Take time to write thoughtful answers down. With this class, we work on a different session that will make you both think and prepare you for your future.

As you both think about your lives together, make a journal of the experiences you encounter as a family. It is very important that you document your information honestly with the experience. This will help you grow by understanding how you both can flourish in your marriage as you develop each other, bringing you closer together as husband and wife. Prepare a future plan for prosperity.

Draw a family tree of the legacy of marriage in your family. Start with the oldest person in your family and document relatives and what happened with their marriages. Are strong marriages in your family? If so, whose are they? If no, why not?

Write a paragraph describing what you were thinking and/or how you were feeling when you decided to get married. Of all the people in this world, what made you choose your lady, encouraging you to consider her as your wife?

During this course, we would like for you to pick three songs that fit your wife. Be prepared why you chose those songs.

As married couples, we have to look at our new habits and make many changes in our lives to improve our ability as we serve each other. There are many couples looking for something different and exciting to improve their relationship and their marriage. What can you offer them to improve their marriage and their relationship? There’s a plan we have that would give us the ability to offer many services to married couples who are looking for growth with God’s blessing. Are you ready?

Why Build Our Marriage for the Future

What I learned about myself by building our marriage together for the future:

Things I should start doing:

Things I should change:

Things I should do more of:

Things I should consider doing:

Why Build Our Marriage for the Future

What I learned about my wife:

Things I should work to avoid doing:

Attitudes I should change toward my wife:

Ways I can better support and appreciate my wife:

I should start doing to show my love for my wife:

Journal

Why Build Our Marriage for the Future

Session 2

From Me to Us: Making Changes in Our Lives

Overview

As we address the issue that it’s not about me or I, that it’s about us, we have the advantage by using the word we as married couples. As we explore what it means to submit to each other by finding out the kindness that is in us of loving each other in our marriage and our relationship. To submit is the highest level in our relationship that gives us the ability to govern our marriage to the highest level that we never would have thought of.

Goals

What I or me will do to our relationship in our marriage.

As we transition from I or me to we or us, we can build from the word us in our marriage.

Have you ever thought about us or we in your marriage? Many couples have to learn how to use these words rather than using I or me in the marriage. What will you use?

What does surrender or submission mean in your marriage?

What does surrender or submission do for your relationship?

There’s a struggle moving from I or me to we. Can you do it?

As a married couple, you need to find time to discuss me as a behavior we use when we were single, or, should I say, unmarried, and how you can better use the word we in your marriage.

Every situation in our marriage, we handle it differently. Each problem is not the same.

Lessons to Learn

As married couples, we will go over this session together. We will share our homework assignment that is to be completed.

It’s not always good to be right all the time, but it’s always right to be good.

Let’s say, I want to marry you but I look at how many couples stop and change their mind, with some saying yes then, after a month or a few months, or a year or years later, ending up divorced. Marriage is easier said than done. It can be difficult to bring different personalities and spirits together and become one. That, however, is the goal, to create harmony between two people who are in love but are different. And those who have real love toward each other become lovers, then they are one. As children, we grow up thinking that the world revolves around us and our wishes and desires. Our parents try to teach us to share and to give of ourselves. It takes space and time to learn how to have