Salty Flames: Tales of Modern Dating Fails
By Tamar Tremaine and SPARK Publications
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ARE YOU FEELING ALONE IN THE LAND OF HAPPY COUPLES?
Afraid to download a dating app? Nervous to go on a first date? Curious what online dating is like? Upset that you're never "the one?" Too many duds and not enough studs? You are far from alone...
TAMAR TREMAINE has gone on hundreds of f
Tamar Tremaine
Tamar Tremaine is an architect with a side job as a professional online dater. She went to a few great universities, and won a few awards. In elementary school, she was selected out of hundreds of students for the "Optimist" award. This is her first book. She doesn't consider herself an author, but rather a normal person with a lot of great stories to tell.
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Salty Flames - Tamar Tremaine
Disclaimer
This book is a work of creative nonfiction based on true events. It reflects the author’s present recollections of experiences over time. Memories can be imperfect and fade over time. Names and characteristics have been changed, events have been compressed, and dialogue has been recreated. In a few instances, two stories have been compressed into one. The illustrations are based on real people. Characteristics have been changed, and characters have been shuffled around to help protect the identities of those in the stories. Real people on whom the characters depicted herein are based may have memories conflicting with the author’s recollections. This book was not intended to cause harm to any real person. This book is intended to inspire readers to keep trying, and no harm or embarrassment is directed or implied to those that simply were not a fit for the author.
Me (Tamar Tremaine)
A little about me:
I’m a successful architect who lives in the big city. You can typically find me in black leggings with a fitted shirt and fancy sneakers, trying to show off my body without showing off my body. I’m not photogenic, so everyone online thinks I look better in person. Or maybe that’s part of my strategy?
When I’m bored, I go on dates ... a lot of dates. I love meeting people, charming people, and imagining my future life with people. I’m optimistic, and I see the best in everyone. I’m looking for someone who:
Challenges me
Enhances my life
Makes me a priority
Smells good
Is at least OK in bed
Makes enough money to support himself
Is willing to go on adventures with me
Will let me steal his sweatpants
Is taller than 5’5"
Is at least a little attractive
Is willing to cuddle with me
I think my list of requirements is pretty reasonable, but time and again my expectations prove to be too high. Over the years, the stories I’ve shared about my bad dating life have made a lot of people feel better about theirs. I hope to make you feel better too or maybe even inspire you to put yourself out there. What’s the worst that could happen?
Chalk Boy
A rerun of the Keeping Up with the Kardashians premier flicks on the television screen. I switch it off immediately. I have no interest in watching rich kids complain about how hard their lives are. I’m halfway through my first year of college. School is a little lonely without my sister, and my best friend has really been there for me. I promised I would go to a party with her, but I have schoolwork to worry about. I need to focus so I can keep my commitment.
Meanwhile, Chalk Boy
and his friends are hanging out in a dorm across campus. They’ve had a few too many drinks, and have decided to start a fake revolution. They roam around campus writing Chalk Boy Revolution
on every surface in sight. There’s no story behind the revolution—just a bunch of drunk boys goofing around.
Later, my friend and I leave the party for some fresh air. We see Chalk Boy Revolution
graffitied on the Social Sciences building, and think it would be funny to cross out Chalk Boy
and change it to Tamar Tremaine.
My friend takes a photo of me posing in front of our masterpiece. Later that night, I make the photo my Facebook profile picture. Facebook is this new social networking site that requires you to sign up with a college email address.
A couple of weeks later, Chalk Boy himself adds me as a friend on Facebook. He messages me, Awesome profile picture, haha.
I had forgotten about my new picture. Funny that he found me on Facebook so many days later. He’s kind of cute. I don’t really have time for dating right now, but I wonder if he finds me attractive.
I message him back. He doesn’t respond.
My friend and I start an elaborate inside joke about the future romance between me and Chalk Boy. We get married, buy a house in Texas, and have four kids. We live in a small town, and he uses his campaign experience to successfully run for mayor. It would be pretty crazy to meet my soulmate by crossing out his chalk art and posting it online. He never responds to my Facebook message, and eventually the joke slips from our memories.
After graduation, I move to Los Angeles for grad school. Chalk Boy messages me on Facebook and says,
"Hey dude,