2-Men-N-1: The Real Man and The Impostor

By Shasity Brumfield

What happened to my Cinderella marriage? Why is my reality crumbling before my very eyes? What happened to my Prince Charming? Why does the enemy think he can wreak havoc in my marriage? I'm tired!

Before you throw in the towel and quit due to disappointment, lies, embarrassment, anxiety, unforgiveness, and being totally sick o

• Language: English
• Publisher: Purity
• Release date: Nov 1, 2020
• ISBN: 9780578786988

Shasity Brumfield

Shasity Brumfield has been married since 2010 to the love of her life, Scotty Brumfield. She is the mother of one amazing biological son and the stepmother of four other amazing children. Her main goal is to be used by God as his mouthpiece to let his kingdom come here on earth as it is in heaven while leaving a legacy her children and her children's children can follow.

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Introduction

In today’s society, marriage has become one of the most misunderstood ministries plus the most talked about topic. Marriages are the number one thing the enemy has tried to attack and destroy. Much of the talk of marriage is negative and mostly pointed at the husband because, since the beginning of time, the enemy has always been after the male seed.

In this book, 2-Men-N-1: The Real Man and the Impostor, I provide information to help wives identify the real man inside our husbands versus the impostor (the enemy). It is critical that we as wives, or future wives, learn the tactics of the enemy and how the enemy deceives our husbands and sometimes causes us as wives to walk in deception due to a lack of knowledge of God’s Word.

I also talk about how to trust God and how to recover from the storms of life. This book will provide information to help wives build their homes and not tear it down as well as make us more knowledgeable of the power of God that’s on the inside of us while birthing out our purpose and unveiling our destiny.

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Destiny Awaits

At some point in every young girl’s life, she desires to meet her Prince Charming, her knight in shining armor, her perfect king, her Boaz. Being married becomes the thing that consumes her thoughts. Day after day, night after night, all she can think about is how wonderful it would be to spend the rest of her life with the man of her dreams. Then one day her reality, her heart’s desire, the very thing she has dreamed about unfolds in her life. That is exactly what happened to me in the summer of 1997.

I saw this tall, dark, handsome six-foot-three black stallion, about 196 pounds of pure solid, built foundation, walking by. Matter of fact, he was more than anything I could have imagined my king to look like. He had a smile that could light up any dark room as he showcased his beautiful pearly-white teeth.

Back then, if a man did not come talk to you, you didn’t take it upon yourself to go talk to them. So, the first time I saw him, I stood there, knowing my worth, knowing I was far more precious than any ruby or authentic diamond, to see if he would approach me. If he wanted to talk to this queen, he had to be able to not only talk a good game but walk it out too. To be honest, not only was he fine and charming, but I liked his swag and his conversation.

My Prince Charming loved everything about me as much as I loved him. He treated me like a queen. He made me feel like nothing else mattered besides making me happy. He would often say, Seeing you happy means the world to me. I would gaze back into his glossy black eyes and say, Being with you is amazing. What girl wouldn’t be happy? His voice sent chills down my body every time he said my name.

Although Scotty was seven years older than I was, we had so much in common. Day in and day out, we spent uncountable hours talking and laughing on the phone. We enjoyed talking on the phone so much that we would wait for one of us to fall asleep before the other would hang up. I remember going to school the next day and daydreaming about how our life would be together. I would take my notebook out and write Shasity loves Scotty, Scotty loves Shasity, Shasity and Scotty forever. Little did I know I was writing my vision and making it plain. (Habakkuk 2:2)

After I graduated from high school, we decided to get our own place. Yes, SHACKING! We moved into a small one-bedroom apartment. We were both excited to be living together. You may be thinking—how can you be excited about willfully living in sin? My answer is that I really did not know any better. I had been in church all my life and no one, not one person, said it was wrong to shack up. Back then the traditional church seemed to be more concerned about what a person was wearing instead of letting one know that, if you live with a man you are not married to, both of you are committing fornication, which is a sin. That is why knowledge of the Word of God is so powerful and important.

Scotty and I enjoyed every day together. We were inseparable. Sometimes he caught me staring at him. Baby, what is it? What’s wrong?

Nothing is wrong. I blushed because little did he know I was in awe because the day had finally come where we would spend the rest of our lives together.

One Sunday morning we decided to go to church. When we arrived at the small wooden church located in the woods, I quickly folded down the sun visor mirror to take one last look at my hair and makeup. I wanted to make sure I was looking my best for my king. We entered the church and took our seat on the fourth row. Scotty took his muscular left arm and put it around me as the mistress of the ceremony opened the service with a song of praise.

After a devotional and one last song by the choir, the guest man of God stood up to minister the Word. While he was preaching, all I could see was a clear image of Scotty’s face on the preacher’s body. The image of Scotty’s face remained on the man of God’s face for so long that I began to glance back and forth between the minister and Scotty. I even tried to blink my eyes several times in order to make myself believe I was not seeing the image, but it was undeniable. I knew then God was showing me the calling he had on Scotty’s life. I did not tell Scotty what I had experienced right away. After a few days went by, I decided I had enough courage to tell him about it. Scotty simply smiled and confirmed that he knew God had a calling on his life to preach his Word.

Life was good. We continued to build what we called our empire together. While having dinner one evening with his coworkers and bosses, we heard some life-changing words. A select few of the company’s bosses began to introduce their wives and share how long they had been married and with the company. One couple stood up and said they had been married for ten years. Another couple said five years. When the last boss stood up, he caught our attention. He