Modern Relationships

By Vladimir Živković

Men and women evolve. Their love relationships evolve, too. In every new era, there are different behavioral norms. In the modern age there is no more interesting subject for people than love and sexual relationships, and achieving happiness in them.The main subject of this book is bad behavioral patterns of modern people in love relationships, as well as unavoidable attaining of self-satisfaction and satisfaction with one’s life. This book consists of three parts. The first part deals with generalities on men, women and their dispositions. Because of the inevitable question that arises related to any human being when it comes to luck, love, and meaning of life, spirituality and God had to be a mandatory subject of this book. Thus, the first part is named “Return to God: Men and Women” and it consists of texts which unite search for the meaning and spirituality of the modern man with its own wishes, wants, and fallacies of the modern men and women.The second part of the book is, even more, intriguing for the mind of the modern man because it deals with sexuality, games of seduction and sexual relationships of both sexes. It is called “Sexuality and Seduction” and the title itself reveals that it’s the endeavor of living positive sexuality, as well as about the truth that’s hidden between people playing games of seduction and manipulation.The third part of the book is named “Return to God: Love Relationships” and it is the pinnacle of this delicacy because it reveals many secrets, but also mistakes that people nurture in the love relationships and due to them they cannot reach happiness and fulfillment. All in all, this book carries authenticity, originality, but also the positive experience, because it reveals answers to a very big number of troubling and important questions of the modern people to which other books don’t offer answers, and if they do, they are incomplete or wrong in the most of the cases. This can already be reckoned by the incidence of misery and loneliness, as well as broken marriages of people of both sexes.Even if this book revolts the reader, it is also useful for reading in that case. Good luck!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Publishdrive
• Release date: Nov 19, 2023
• ISBN: 198359296X

Vladimir Živković

Vladimir’s work consists in helping people to settle in love and sex life, to progress in spirituality, to become happy, to achieve themselves and their own value, and to return to themselves dignity and self-esteem.Vladimir Živković is born in Belgrade, on 20th of April, 1970. He has spent his childhood and adolescence in Nis, where he finished the high-school. At 26, he went to live and work in Novi Sad where he has begun to practice spirituality and various spiritual disciplines, the most emphasized was meditation. Next 20 years, insights and spiritual experiences followed, that changed his life and his relation to God. The outcomes were inner changes and desire to share the truth with everyone (with the aim of self-healing).The practical technique that he has learned as an aid in his spiritual journey is Japanese Divine massage. Also, he has become Reiki master in 2004.-so he often helps people and students to facilitate their spiritual journey by practicing Reiki-healing techniques. Most part of his time he is dedicating to improving his knowledge of a man’s psyche, so he is acquainted with techniques of self-healing, as well as techniques of releasing negativity.Vladimir Živković says: -When I gained spiritual experiences and knowledge of Divine Self, I wanted to help people. Working with individuals did not satisfy me because it was not productive and it took me a lot of time and effort. An additional problem was that many people who come for help do not want to try to change dark side of personality. That’s why I came to the conclusion that it is best to put my knowledge and experience on paper. When the reader reads my book then he/she decides what to accept from the book and what he/she will doing through life. In that way I save time and effort, and my knowledge and help are available to everyone.Soon I came to the conclusion that I have to publish 3 books. The first book I published in English is called “Modern Relationships”. The book is made up of 3 parts and represents the integration of spiritual and worldly life. How to reconcile the marital and, therefore, the love life, the sexual and the spiritual life. The second book is a classic spiritual. The title of the book is “The Book about Divine Self”. It presents the essence of spiritual knowledge and it is necessary to be read by the members of all faiths, races, nations and religions. The last book is a "SELF- HELP: The Understanding of Life". This book contains practical lessons in the field of reaching love for oneself, strengthening self-esteem, achieving gratitude and satisfaction.Vladimir Živković je rođen 20.4.1970. u Beogradu. Svoje detinjstvo i ranu mladost proveo je u Nišu gde je završio srednju školu. Sa 26 godina je otišao u Novi Sad da živi i radi gde je i počeo da se bavi duhovnošću i raznim duhovnim disciplinama, od kojih se najviše isticala meditacija. Tokom sledećih 20 godina usledile su spoznaje i duhovna iskustva koje menjaju njegov život i odnos prema Bogu. Dolazi i do unutrašnjih promena i do želje da se istina podeli svim ljudima.Od praktičnih tehnika koje je izučio kao pomagalo na svom duhovnom putu je japanska božanstvena masaža. Takođe, 2004. godine postao je i reiki–učitelj pa vrlo često pomaže ljudima i učenicima da ubrzaju svoj duhovni put praktikovanjem reiki–tehnike isceljenja. Veći deo vremena posvetio je i usavršavanju psihe čoveka, pa mu nisu strane ni tehnike samoisceljenja, kao ni tehnike oslobađanja od negativnosti.Trenutno živi i radi u Niškoj Banji.

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MODERN RELATIONSHIPS

Author:

Živković Vladimir

Smashwords Edition

Copyright 2017

All Rights Reserved

Translator:

Maja Đolović

TABLE OF CONTENT

ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

Short cautionary tales by Vladimir Zivkovic

Vladimir Zivkovic is the man of the soul

ABOUT THE BOOK

BOOK NO.1: "RETURN TO GOD: MEN AND WOMEN

INTRODUCTION

Chapter I – MY WORKS

A PREDESTINED WINNER

THE AGE OF EVIL AND OBSCENITY

THE FREEDOM OF THOUGHT

THE EXPERIENCE OF GOD

DESTROYING DEMONS

THE YOUNG PASS IT ON

Chapter II –NEGATIVITY OF MEN AND WOMEN

WOMAN–SAMURAI

WAR

THE WALL OF PRIDE

TIME EATERS (Aka soul crushers)

A MALE HELPLESSNESS

LUST

MALE UNAVAILABILITY

IMPORTANCE OF FEELINGS

IRRATIONALITY (Aka short-sightedness)

NOT LISTENING

ABOUT EXPECTATIONS (Aka, evil man – flexible exploiter of women)

FAKING, UNDERMINING, DEPRAVING (Aka, universal example to take with you)

Chapter III – UPBRINGING

A LOVED WOMAN

NON-BELIEVERS MATERIALISTS

PROVINCIALISM

A FALSE UPBRINGING

AN INSATIABLE APPETITE (Aka, voracity)

IN BED WITH THE ENEMY

ADULTERY IS DISRESPECT OF ONESELF

THIS IS MY GIRLFRIEND (Aka, a cautionary tale to reflect on)

SUPPORT

THE FALL OF THE FORT

BRAVERY – MADNESS (Aka, terrible abyss)

Chapter IV – GENDER MISCONCEPTIONS

ATHEISM

FAILURE

FASTING

CONSCIENCE

CHOICE

THE POWER OF LOVE

HATRED AND CONTEMPT

INDECISION

SUPERSTITION

THE ROAD TO DOWNFALL

THE BELIEVER’S VANITY – INQUISITION

LACK OF SELF-ESTEEM

EGOISM

THE MYTH OF POVERTY

THE CONSEQUENCES OF ACTION

THE GLORY AND MAGNIFICENCE OF GOD

THE TRIP TO NEVERLAND

SEDUCERS – FORNICATORS

THE PAST

THE CREATION OF POWER

ROADS OF DAMNATION = HUNGRY CROCODILES

THE OLD AND THE YOUNG

GURU (also known as Messiah, Avatar)

AN ASSUMED PERFECTION

SELF-REALIZATION

LABIRYNTH (Or so-called, plot)

THE SURVIVAL

FORGIVENESS

HAPPINESS

THE INFIDELITY OF AUTODESTRUCTIVE

DIGNITY

BOOK NO.2: SEXUALITY AND SEDUCTION

INTRODUCTION

Chapter I – Sexuality – A short guide for dummies

PERFECT AND POSITIVE

AN IMAGINARY PERFECTION

THE NEGLECTION OF THE PARTNER

CONTRACEPTION AND ABORTION

CONCLUSION

Chapter II – Lectures/Discourse on seduction

SEDUCTION = SELF-DOUBT

EXPERIENCE IN SEX

SEDUCTION AND MANIPULATION

THE ART OF SEDUCTION

Chapter III – The examples of seduction (Note: this examples can also be found in the other books)

SUBURB

DESPERATION IN LOVE

DRAMA

Chapter IV – Delusions on Sexuality

SEX WITH NO STRINGS ATTACHED

TANTRA

OEDIPAL COMPLEX

THE ABUSE OF HUMAN BEING

ONE NIGHT STANDS (aka, mutual raping/abuse)

BOOK NO.3:RETURN TO GOD: LOVE RELATIONSHIPS

NOTE TO THE READER

INTRODUCTION

ABOUT THE BOOK

Chapter I – PSYCHOLOGY OF LOVE RELATIONSHIPS

BROKEN HEART

GETTING MARRIED

ENGAGEMENT (betrothal)

TWO FACES/SIDES

AN UNHEALTHY JEALOUSY

HOW MUCH DO LOOKS MATTER?

MATERIALISM

UNFAITHFULNESS AND NEGLECT = RUTHLESSNESS

BEING LOYAL TO A PERSON

APPREHENSION (PREMONITION)

SUBTLE PROMISCUITY CALLED MISFORTUNE

Chapter II – RETURN TO FAITHFULNESS

CONQUERING

RESPECT FOR THE PARTNER

FEAR OF LOVE

CLOSENESS

Chapter III – RELATIONSHIPS AND KARMA

SPIRITUAL PARTNERS

PERMANENCE

ADAM AND EVE

HOW TO (NOT) /BE SUCCESSFUL IN LOVE

STORY ABOUT PAIN, SADNESS, AND MISFORTUNE

RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF

Chapter IV – DEVELOPING SYMPATHY

EVIL MEN

ABOUT ABUSE (or, to women)

SOMETHING ABOUT FAKE FRIENDSHIP

Chapter V – EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

ENLIGHTENMENT

WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND

MODERN MOTHERHOOD

ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

I am grateful both to good and bad people because they have helped me and they are still helping me defining my inner self and reaching the happiness within and around me.

Also, I would like to say thanks to my lifelong friends, Bratislav Jankovic and Aleksandar Petkovic, without their support and assistance this book would not be published.

Thanks to my deceased friend Vladimir Petrovic, artist and painter, and to his family for courtesy of painting ''Gold&Silver'' for the cover of this book.

Thanks to Biljana Obradovic and Jovan Kurbalija who have always believed in me and in my path, and to Maja Djolovic for translating this book into the English language.

Thanks to Supreme that is within me, who has never abandoned me, and that is my lifelong friend, protector, and companion.

Short cautionary tales by Vladimir Zivkovic

If you’ve just been searching for self-help reading and an easy and quick fix for your problems, there is no such advice in this book. Vladimir’s trilogy 'Return to God' is an authentic collection of real life stories and situations which were created by the author as the result of his personal spiritual journaling. His stories offer great insights into the modern life of man and women, their inner struggle, and problems they face in their search for meaning and true spirituality. The external influences of the corrupted individuals and society, as well as main reasons and internal sources of corruption, could be found in our closest surroundings. These stories, in a nutshell, deal with the current lack of morality, truth, and spiritual guidance in everyday life, as well in male-female relationships. Vladimir sheds the light on possible underlying problems and their true origin in human misconceptions, blurred moral vision, and false beliefs.

The first part of the book 'Man and Women' covers a current variety of moral issues in life and relationships and to the point. Author’s witty and sometimes satirical examples and comments from the real life and from his own experience offer valuable guidance in spiritual, moral and relationships matters. He points to the ego and lack of knowledge and faith in Self and God as main sources of human misery. His tone is in a role of provoking the readers’ thoughts on the capacity to grow spiritually and believe in Divine Self inside of every living being. In author’s mirror, you can see the reflection of all faces of humanity that we meet in everyday life. This ugly sneering face of reality is teasing all of us to revise our current relationships and true nature of our motives for acting. The stories help us realize the shortcomings and help us recognize our way out of the jungle of modern misconceptions and virtual reality that leads us only away from the true spiritual path of Self and Divinity discovery as well true human values in common everyday life.

So, it is not easy finding answers. It takes the time to spiritually grow and find your true purpose. This reading is just an author’s gift to help you on your way of discovery. Keep your eyes and your mind open and bear in mind that Not all who wander are lost.

Maja Djolovic, English language professional, freelance translator and writer.

Vladimir Zivkovic is the man of the soul

Biljana Obradovic, poetess and the writer of several novels from Valjevo will tell us more about the book: Vladimir Zivkovic is a man dedicated to the lifelong study of the soul. His writing reveals calmness, consistency in his path to God, as the only light that sustains the inner being. I really like his voice which pays special respect to everyone, especially to girls and women. By reading his works related to the faith in God, and therefore in you, I realized that the path of knowledge is difficult but fruitful. I realized that badly directed ego might destroy even the greatest minds, as well as biggest believers. Vladimir talks about the modesty life and balanced desires. Thus he shares his knowledge with others, to make them deeply think about the life they live nowadays, in the modern times.

I hope he will publish more books to shed light on the path of the just and truly believing men. With due respect of this writing, I wish you success and a large number of readers!

ABOUT THE BOOK

This book is the result of four years’ text writing. However, writing is a result of many years of spiritual practice and experience. Each text is a whole in itself. This text collection is made with the intention of helping people find the answers to questions that bother them, and still, this questions and answers define a teaching for each individual while following it, to improve their spirituality and achieve more happiness, love, joy and goodness.

I have never before wanted to publish a book. Recently, some events and experiences convinced me of the purpose of sharing my insights and experience with other people. I must say that I'm not a particularly gifted writer, and everyone must understand that this is more informative reading.

Many examples that I have presented in this book are truth, and many of them represent the state of a human soul. I leave the opportunity to the reader to determine the character of the examples represented. Also, there are many examples with the answer to the question or the problem itself. However, there are situations where it is the best for a reader to find the answers on its own.

This book deals with self-criticism, and further on with self-healing. Also, many sections focus on male and female love relationships. The main reason is that most of the people want to have a loving relationship, to be happy and grow spiritually. Therefore, questions about love relationships, self-healing and recovering one’s own values are important because they are closely related to the spirituality of the contemporary man.

I took part in many spiritual activities and had significant spiritual experiences. Still, this book is not dealing with those same experiences, in general, but with things that every person should and must know.

I want to point out that this book is a great everyday reading. Thus, generally, this book is meant for reading on a daily basis. It could also be used while praying to God, as a reference to the question that bothers you.

Experiences help you achieve comprehension. Each text in this book is based on the vision, the comprehension, or spiritual experience. Therefore, it takes the time to adopt the truth presented in every text of the book.

If anyone doubts the truthfulness of the revelations in this book, my advice is that the person should check first for the justification of its suspicion.

Words may lie, but actions will always tell the truth.

If I am telling the truth, the truth will reveal itself in the world. So, do not be hasty. Always check for the message of the story that you are reading, and to what extent it is manifested in the life itself and in the world.

BOOK NO.1: RETURN TO GOD: MEN AND WOMEN

INTRODUCTION

Divine Self is related to a universal soul which is inside all living beings.

Self is also Divine Self but it is the single entity inhabiting a particular individual.

The main characteristic of the Modern Era is that man has estranged himself from the God. Some contemporaries practice spirituality, but God doesn’t appear in their spiritual activities. Likewise, some psychiatrists treat their patients, without knowledge of the purpose of their living, and without a goal that will ensure their lasting happiness.

This is the age of false spirituality and mentally disordered psychiatrists. Still, this is the time to get free from misconception and prejudice. So, no matter how much people went astray, as much is better that they recover their spirituality. It is only essential to recognize misconceptions, adopt goodness, and return to God.

What’s the problem here?

Because of their grievances, not only do people not want to return to God, but they would also like to show that He doesn’t exist. That is the common malice, as an effect of being hurt. It is similar to a child that cries, and no matter which toy it gets, it keeps throwing it away and crying even louder. It doesn’t even bother taking a toy, playing with it or being pleased.

Thus, the spite is an act of betraying yourself, others and happiness.

This book offers many answers to questions that many other books may not offer. However, this book also encourages readers to search for some enlightened emotions, principles, and joys in themselves, as well as for some important answers on their own.

Returning to God is returning to oneself. Returning to oneself is recovering happiness and love which further implies regaining self-value and eternity.

I am aware that many people consider my philosophy disquieting. So, what does it matter if you have the opportunity to recover your principles? Is it really important that you have been troubled, and if it bothers you because your vanity or your ego has been hurt?

Current Modernity makes people believe in evil and ignorance, and associate them with freedom. There is no freedom without real connection with God. No man can be truly happy without the presence of God. Modernity doesn’t equal to constantly having new half-witted ideas. Modernity means to always re-create a new and simpler path to reunite with God.

In this book, the effort was made to make intelligible both the contemporariness of man and his quest for happiness and God. It means that the book is full of inconveniences for the common man who has lived egoistically since his childhood. Here lies the misfortune of the modern man. He evades inconveniences and overlooks that evading brings misfortune.

That is why I don’t bother to promote some particular spirituality. That is because I know that all people are one and the same God. That implies that each man is deep inside perfect and spiritual. This story is about common spiritual life, with the fulfillment of desires and in connection with God.

No one will fail to reach God, and no one will reach it by violence, sin, or hypocrisy.

Thus salvation is in joyful living and continual spiritual growing.

Therefore, the purpose of life is in finding Divine Self, which is the God inside you, and in the experience of Divine Self i.e. Self.

Now is the moment to disperse the first misconception. God isn’t revealed only by people who deal with spirituality, faith, and religion. God is mainly reached by people who initially live a common life, work for money, create families and fulfill their goals. Being focused on God, love and joy are growing, and everything false disappears on its own.

That is why you should know that the happiness is in your hands. It’s found in the quest for God, regardless of the way of your life.

Therefore, basically, the chosen ones don’t exist. The man has a choice of its own whether he will be chosen by God itself.

Chapter I – MY WORKS

A PREDESTINED WINNER

It happens that man fights a battle.

It happens that God knows that the man is going to win.

Furthermore, it happens that God has the intention of giving that man reap hook for weed.

What does that mean?

The ones that weed out are favored by God.

Why?

Because God knows that there are many people who grow weed even while sleeping.

Thus, God respects those who weed out. God makes such men invincible.

Keep this in mind.

Not all that glitters is gold and not every ''fool'' is looser.

THE AGE OF EVIL AND OBSCENITY

Many people are miserable and lonely in today’s world of evil and obscenity. Those who live for fame, power, wealth and sex, are about to discover how miserable they are.

What does that mean?

When a person discovers that he/she is unhappy, he/she needs help. No one can really help such kind of people. Many say that love heals. That is, mainly, the truth. Still, I have to mention, miserable man is a danger to himself because the love of others can’t heal him. Healing is found in discovering oneself. Even if the whole world loves you, that doesn’t mean anything to you, if you are unhappy, and you don’t love yourself.

This book is based on my personal experience. I have been through everything that I am writing about. So, I rarely preach someone else’s teaching, although something like that is possible if I consider it beneficial. I believe I could help many people because I have experienced revelations myself.

However, I’m not like many spiritualists who tie the people to themselves. My goal is to offer direction to each person to reach God and healing. Happiness and self-respect of the individual depend on the relationship with God. Thus my goal is to help people in the proper way. That means that everyone has self-healing deep inside, and I can help anyone accomplish it. God is perfect. Life is perfect likewise if God exists in human life.

This book should teach you not to be ashamed of your wishes, urges, and passions. They exist to teach you how to use them, and how to overcome them through suitable, positive experiences. Misfortune and loneliness of the new age are the results of falsely living urges and passions. Many say that everything is created for man, but many have forgotten that everything is beneficial for man only if used correctly and morally, in a Godly manner.

Thus we reach absurd, where many nice songs have been sung, but due to vulgarity and nakedness, everyone’s mind and heart are poisoned, needlessly. That is because sex and nakedness are given more significance than needed. Only because sex and nakedness are placed where they don’t belong at all. Thus, sinners don’t want to admit that it’s not freedom and not genuine living of urges and passions, but the sort of weakness and cowardice, which results in loss of dignity and love. No one explained to those people that it’s not possible to find happiness without God, love, and dignity- chances are literally zero percents.

Thus, you could see evil and doubt everywhere. Many people live in fear and sadness. I’m willing to offer them help. Especially to depressed ones. I’ll help by revealing the truth to them, and by