Mental Health The Power Of Success

By Qonda Vithi

Mental Health the Power of Success articulates the importance of mental health in the human environment. Life is an on-going experience, we all going through difficult times and breakdowns along the way sadly in most occurrences these impediments find ways to affect mental health.
This book will absolutely add more confidence to a reader who fights from but not limited to, depression, anxieties, panic attacks, lowest self-esteem, paranoia with other mental illnesses in general. On the other hand, the book brings forth mental health awareness into all societies more especially the black community in explicit. It doesn’t end there but further seeks to normalize conversations on mental disorders with no shame all around the continent.
To a certain degree, the book gives power and comfort to those who are fighting away the negative social influences that keep on triggering emotional, spiritual, and psychological uneasiness in their peaceful zone. It further gives strength and aptitude to confront all kinds of negative experiences that we all go through all the time.
A positive state of mind always win but none of that can come through if there is no base foundation of mental well-being. The book armaments us all on keep our mental health protected all the time.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Qonda Vithi
• Release date: Jan 1, 2021
• ISBN: 9781005320133

Qonda Vithi

Qonda Vithi is a 24-year-old male born in the Eastern Cape province, Elliotdale, he who’s interests are in the front-line on fighting the stigma behind mental disorder in the black community. Behind the scenes, he pushes on conversations that are touching on the mental well-being of human-kind.He graduated from the University of KwaZulu Natal Howard College, he studied Environmental Management. He stumbled into Mental Health writing because it is not given enough attention more especially in the black community. Mental Health the Power of Success is his first book.

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CHAPTER ONE

Social Influences

Issues of Mental Health In Rural Livelihood

Parental Contribution on Mental Disorder

Youth Is Wasted

Acting Hard-Core Is A Mind Failure

Life Is What You Make Out of It

Brain’s Fiscal Cliff on Mental Health

Change Your Mind for Change

Mental Health Always Matter

Social, Hot-Cold Cognition Impacting In Mental Traumas

Poor Attention On Mental Health

The Mind Is the Midpoint Of Everything

Life Fears’ Contribution on Mental Instability

Escaping the Comfort Zone

Perils of Psychosis

We All Need A Chance

Imprisoned Thoughts

Calm the Nerve

Anger Issues As A Contribution On Mental Disorder

Poor Networking Results to Mental Breakdown

Brain Drive and Its Failure

Decision Making

The Environment of Mental Greatness

Take-Off the Seed of Mental Illness

Refuse to be Minded Carried-Away

Being Threatened with Anxiety

Mental Strength

CHAPTER TWO

The Undermined Is Where the Power Lies

An Example of Life

Revenge Cost Health, and Life

The Power of Hindsight

Why do we have to prove to everyone else that we made it?

Starting All Alone with Nothing is Okay

How Other People Sees your Life Never Really Matters

Habitually Means of Making a Good Living

A Story to Tell

Shaping your own Ideas

Have That Conversation with Yourself

Do Not Worry You Wouldn’t Be Perfect

The Sick Of Seeking Attention

A Good Human Behaviour

A Good Behaviour of A Good Labour

Proprietor’s Care Towards the Rest of Staff

A Deadly Internet

Take the Bad With the Good

It is not growing you?

Let Rain Come and Your Flowers Bloom

We Want Things, We Want More

Not Worth It, Unlearn It

Better Version of Yourself

Hold Yourself Accountable

Knowing Your Audience

Encourage as You Rise

Paint Your Own Pictures of Hope

Something Better Than What You Have

It Just Won’t Be Today

Years Keep on Going Up

Easily Distracted

Let the Motivation Live

Measure Up with Your Desires

Who are you sharing energy with?

Do Not Think More on It

CHAPTER THREE

A Life of Uncertainties

The Change Time Brings unto Us All

A Toxic Society

Pie Is Big Enough for Everyone of Us

Believe in Something

Respect Your Mental Health

Do No Crowd

A Friend That Gets You Killed

Always Remember Why You Even Started

We Do Not Have to Answer Everything

Run with It

Life Is Forward

CHAPTER ONE

Social Influences

(mental well-being stability)

SOCIETY HAS A HUGE impact on changing or rather influencing the way a person thinks. It can nurture the minds and the abilities a person has. There is no denying that Culture is never or perhaps not the same across the universe, it plays quite a distinct role within somebody’s state of mind. Culture keeps on changing and shifting from one continent to the other, that however, has a tremendous outcome on the livelihood of the few. Some people feel no variance in the process of the world cultural transformation, they just keep with the flow by adapting to the waves that come about. Dissimilar to a global context, the local level has extra and irresistible influences in a context of culture and control over one’s life. Frequently populations, particularly in the black rural communities have failed to live their purpose, they rather end up being pawns of those who failed to achieve their dreams on their terms, but now still using youth to produce better results of their failures. Frankly, it should be perceived and be acknowledged that every single individual in the universe is different and has miscellaneous capabilities and capacities, that will always be different from the other individual. On top of it, everyone has unique dreams and penchants for life. Nobody is liable to live and yield his dreams out of somebody’s mind, strength, and soul. Even if it is a biological parent nor parent guardian, a sibling nor a mentor, they all have their own path and a life-journey to gait.

It should be an every-day call that everyone in this world is reserved a solo and a shining destiny ahead that no one knows about, in count to that, nobody can take that away from you not unless you let them. People turn to lose hope, faith, and courage in their lives merely because of the negative effort other folks speaks into ones’ life. After all, society never stops attacking them, sadly, the youngest and motivated folks lose the meaning of life because of other persons’ suggestions on how they should live their lives and on what they should become. Depression and panic attacks and all other kinds of mental breakdown have been or would be the consequence of social attacks we all getting from our different communities. Society has come to be a space that disconnects persons from their future. The social attacks and all other kinds of expectations have been a mother of mental disorder. Mental disorder has become an outbreak-illness that slowly and confidently emerging on the edges of the communities. Most people that we are living with, have taken the matter so lightly and to the other folks mental disorder truly makes no sense. When someone in a community goes mentally ill, people always assume that it is black-magic or rather dark charms from those who came envious and venomous on one’s success. Perhaps, that might be also true at a certain level, but it must also be noted that mental illness is rooted in all the negative social influences that trigger stress, depression, trauma, anxiety, panic attacks, paranoia, and all other psychotic forms of illness a person may turn to experience. Mental illness is real although we have not fully registered that into our minds. Frankly, we might know it is an illness but we have not yet reached a point of the fight against it so that we can protect our people, our families, our friends, and our nations at large. Local livelihood is entirely responsible for shifting and diverting people’s life plans, fortunately, we are bent to respect our family members, our best friends, and all other people that continuously play a vibrant role in our lives and that is passable enough. But we erroneously ignore our personal life desires and fortitude by taking every word they suggest into our lives and apply it to our life plans, simply because they have all it takes to be listened to. By so doing we slowly destroying our lives from a mere fact that we deviate from our plans and turn to adopt somebody’s suggestion in ignorance of our abilities. It is a sure case that a few years nor months down the line you will regret ignoring your passion by embracing someone’s opinion upon your life, eventually, it will fail you all because it is not on your ability and passion to walk the distance the other person is showing you to. You have no power to pull it through, no desire within you to move it up, it is just a delay of your passion. The truth is that it will leave you in shame if you prioritise other folks’ opinions in your life. Your brains would reach a point of not taking it anymore and that would paralyse you from growing the person in you. You will fail to cope, you will get tired to try something that you cannot do. Social anxiety has been the driving factor for quite a distinctive number of mental illnesses, it had opened a gap for depression, stress, mental illnesses, sorts of panic attacks, and other kinds of discomfort for quite a number of persons.

Issues of Mental Health In Rural Livelihood

How Rural Folks Went Persuaded

THE PROSPECTS IN RURAL communities which may be either economic, social, or political engrossment are quite limited and scarce at the same time. The old and the parents have recognized the struggle of their poor living, and poverty outburst in their rural communities. These conditions affect and severely hinders the young generation and before you know it, the conditions end up trapping and conning the new generation of such environment to an extent where they accept and adopt in the situation of poverty. Their mind-set wouldn’t go further than that but instead it would drag in the conditions of accepting the situation just like how their parents, grandparents, and fortunately their ancestors did. In some occurrences, the youth masses have inherited the wounds and shortcomings of their elders along the line of this life. It is so sad that the adolescents are stuck in that negative and unrealistic cocoon. A significant population of the youth in the rural communities are blinded and denied to a brighter future and lifetime opportunities they always been looking for, of course, we all blame that on our parents, families, and mentors or parent guardians who have put us into a situation that seems impossible to escape. Certainly, we not wrong to blame them in that context, we not wrong to point the failures we found ourselves into, but the question is: what are you doing to work that out? What change are you willing to make about that misfortunate you found yourself growing into?  At the end of the day, this is your life regardless of whose and who never give full support while you been fighting a fight for a great future. People around you come and go unfortunately, friends grow and rise alone, partners glow and go, parents get old and die, you are left alone again. Their time come and go, that is just the nature of time. Clearly, nobody has to live your life, nobody has to change and deviate your dreams that you are destined to. It is true that some good people in the family and friends on the other side expect something good out of your life, career-wise, and all accomplishments that seem to suit you, but it does not mean you should work on their expectations nor torture your life to make them feel content. It is likely to end up wedged on a line of mental breakdown if you keep on perusing person’s expectations. If you try to knock yourself out because you want to attempt what they say unto your life to find whether it works for you or not, that doing would break you. It wouldn’t just break you but will waste the only time you have, waste the last energy you had, and waste of every effort you made. It would be just worthless move you ever take.

Rural livelihood is totally the opposite of the city life. In the city, there are open opportunities almost for everyone who puts on the hustle, stable education and all social services are in place as compared to the rural livelihood. Some influential leaders help out and persuade the young on their personal standards, such as entrepreneurial-skills, talent aptitudes, and career-wise growth. Rural livelihood has limited resources to optimize people’s abilities, brain-drain resulted from epidemic emigration from rural to urban areas created a huge gap in the present generation. There are very limited opportunities if they exist at all for the young and motivated hardworking individuals in such neighborhoods, they just bloom and die without making it bigger. Their ambitions are for two seconds and then faded away. They are all surrounded by negative-minded persons in their society, from friends to family in some instances, from neighbours as well as their peers on some occasions. The minute they stand and try life progress the community calls them names. It is so clear that life in rural communities is no free-way, people’s ideas and dreams are challenged negatively for so many foolish reasons, they are taken for granted and ignored. Some are bitter from their failures, and others are full of anger and hatred over other persons’ lives. That kind of people can destroy your mission and burn your dreams to a very extent where you feel there is no other way, but to let your vision fade away. You would feel there is no other way but to give yourself up. At that moment you fail your esteem, your abilities, and consciousness, quite frankly you end up seeing yourself as a failure and unable, it is where anxiety breaks you down and that we call social anxiety, formerly paranoia and all other kinds of delusions and brain emptiness will follow the breakdown. It becomes really worse on people residing in the rural communities, they most often than not are prone to experience these feelings, not saying that the city residents do not experience these breakdowns but there is always help is all around them, unlike in rural communities. You go mentally ill in rural societies and they will say you have gotten what you deserve, you’ve been witched or you’ve witched yourself, you went crazy by choice. With no questions asked, in rural communities’ mental wellness is seen as an expensive exercise, some named it white people’s stuff but they not very aware that mental illness is the worst and serious illness in the human environment. The brain wheels the whole body to function properly, as such it needs to be healthy to run healthy, and be fed with positivity to produce positive sensations. The negative incentive is sure to keep you locked up, jailed mentally, and emotionally. Every day feeling a trauma and longing for a day to end, and the sun to set, so you can take off your life merely because you see no reason to live, the body has been tortured enough that you see nobody believing in you. We ought to believe that the brain is the weakest part of the human body, and it is the greatest part of the body cells that shape things possible. The good and the bad are easily invested in the brain for quite a long term and the impacts are either beneficial or disturbing the circle of life. We all need to nurture our minds and the way we think; it all should be positive along with the confidence that you are believing in yourself as if nobody cares. Not to forget that some people are dead on their inside, they are angry for the world, they have had enough of trying, and tired of trying to prove their selves to everyone. Of course, we do not have to prove ourselves to other persons although it really makes frustration and discomfort if nobody believes in you. Let it go, they do not have to believe you anyway but you the only one to believe in you. We do not need to end on that line of frustration but to rise again and come back stronger than we have before. One way or the other, we need to confront social control over our lives as much as it brags and boasts about destroying one’s future. Every one of us needs to develop a thick skin to preclude any sort of social attacks that tend to make life miserable and empty. Because, social anxiety is the reason we miss our steps, our goals, our vision, and our growth. We got to give it no chance but to overpower it back.

Parental Contribution on Mental Disorder

IT IS NO LIE THAT OUR parents want what is best for us, and they play a significant role in healing and leading us on greener pastures than anyone else could. They support and protect us from the world, to them we are the blessing, to us they are our shields. But even so, we cannot run away from the fact that some parents expect more than we can do from us, some expect us to produce their fiascos, on the other hand, some parents dictate their youth to produce dreams their ancestors failed to reach.  How is that possible for a child to take off from his dreams and sweat on trying to accommodate somebody’s vision? Where in the world a black child prospered on living somebody’s dream other than the slavery era?

It has been evident that parents exhaust the youth’s minds, destroying their future without knowing, for instance, just because a neighbour is a successful meteorologist who gets paid a heavy cheque every single month does not necessarily mean a child has to deviate from his vision of becoming a business owner and follow the neighbour’s route to success. It might not be a route to success for him but rather a failure, a waste of time and assets, and all that results in depression, anger, and regrets. Moreover, that jiffy or passé in somebody’s life is a perilous experience, a point of anxiety, feeling wasted and useless that a parent took over your life in a direction you never destined to, a route you never been passionate about. The youth knows nothing about the world, they see what they need to see, do what they need to do, in some instances without questioning. Frankly, the youth neglects the knowledge and acquaintance of life which they do not know it is essential for them to have, but full of ego and pride against every person. It is undeniable that the youth compete to win. We gamble with our dreams against those of others, the frustration is too much to take and the discomfort when one sees himself lacking behind from others. We obviously need to understand that competition should not be with other persons’ dreams and ambitions because our dreams will never come at the same time as the other, that obviously depends on the weight of your input towards it. The only competition we all should take must be within ourselves, by fighting the ego, pride, procrastination, negative behaviour, bitterness, and all of the pessimism that keeps us blinded.

It is true that ‘it takes a village to raise a child’, you are the reflection of your own surrounding (society). What you are doing is what you saw, learned, taught, trained for, and also nurtured on. In that sense, parents play the first and massively huge role in one’s life, a slight failure from them might be a big fall for the young’s future. But good parenting might be a good chance for the young to go and shine.

Everyone counts on receiving all kinds of support from their parents, elders, guardians, and friends. It is well understood that nobody can make it to the top without second-hand helping, and even so, the second-hand helping needs to be compassionate and courageous and that indeed defines the parent role. Parenting is all about support and moulding the young to be fit and confident enough to face the world with no fear and regrets after all. Failure from parents will somehow create ‘mental strains’ which are mostly the roots of mental illness in some instances. Black communities fail to establish and confront the outburst of mental disorder, in actual fact, they ignore it and take it for granted because perhaps they, not the ones affected. With no denial, in this present generation mental illness is a seed that destroys a significant population of the youth, and a group of elderly people rapidly. It is only the white community in most parts of the world that are content in ironing-out mental illnesses and vigorously install mental health services that might stabilize people’s lives. 

We all appreciate the love our parents have given to us, the care that they have for us all but it should not go to the point of changing one’s dreams, future, and life vision. Let the child try what he believes it is for him, if it is to knock him up let it be, let him change his mind if he sees no worth in it but be there to support the decision that his heart feels like it is right and unbeatable. It is only the experience that will change, grow, and change him. That is the love a child would always appreciate, a presence that a child will never forget, and a kindness that will never disappear from his mind. Just give a wide distance between the child and his decision making because what you do not want to hear is that you the reason why things went wrong, that you are the reason why the child failed. The world gives nothing better to anyone, you need to find the best out of life by yourself, and the support would be the greatest back-up that would keep yourself stronger and special. All parents need to do is to be there when the child needs their presence, support the decision that the child has taken, even if you know it will not work out perhaps it is the time that it works out for him and into your eyes as well. Give good energy and a positive mind-set to a child and let him swim with it, by so doing you would surely know that you raising a champion. Time is changing, maybe what you used to know you do not know anymore, stop fussing a child’s brain. You rather let him be knocked-out consecutively than forcing him to stick with your plan whilst making his own life decisions. Mental illness is trigged by a lot of factors and the social factor is the most effective component that plays extra mile in cause mental disorder.

Youth Is Wasted

THE YOUTH ARE THE WORLD’S confidence in making a change in their homes, community, the country, and of course in the world as a whole. They are the future of the entire world operation systems. But a significant number of the young folks found no meaning of life in themselves, some felt empty and mentally incarcerated while some are still finding their feet in balancing their lives but still missing it. To some, life has been not pleasant at all, they ended up taking and developed an addiction to drugs. Sadly, the youth is wasted, because they sense no future ahead of them. There is a long rope that slowly kills that confidence and courage in one’s soul, for instance, the youth in most circumstances is ‘blind-driven’ in a sense that they have to produce extra expectations on top of their own either from the parent’s heart or from the society. On the long run, one’s brains will be drained out and that would drive you mentally ill. What did you expect? That he achieves what you think might be best for him? That he does what you want for me? Of course, he would not make it through for a reason that all you ever expected out of him is not on his passion, it has never been on his nature to produce that kind of work. Let him live his life, let him breathe, and work on his own dreams and vision. The best you can just do is to give your support, love, and persistence. Help them tame the beast in their selves, take a step when they take a step. Keep in touch with them all the time, and help them when your help is needed. That kind of support is always a good and healthy injection for everyone, let alone the young and confused individuals who are still muddled into joining the puzzle of life.

The youth has lost touch in controlling their lives by letting life control them. In that manner depression, stress, trauma, paranoia, anxiety, psychiatric illness knocks and attacks them unrelenting. The young adults and also the grown-up individuals fail to confront the mental illnesses to an extent where they give drugs a chance to meditate them, some choose to take off their lives through committing suicide. Indeed, youth is wasted. However, there is always help, always a way-out, and of course good people are there to assist, to save lives, and to give power to the powerless. For most, you cannot satisfy the world, and the world would not stop attacking your plans, your visions, your ambitions, but what is worth it-is to find yourself and be happy with that. Mental disorder is a chronic attack that disables every part of your body, compresses, and takes away positivity in your life, leaving you empty and filled with ‘wish to die’(suicidal) thoughts. What destroys youth are the opinions, views, and expectations of other people’s perspectives on their young’s own lives. Then, therefore, you ought to find yourself without people's input, establish your identity, and keep the wheel rolling right until you see the light on the other side. You are your own help, you are your own therapist, and you have answers to everything you have been querying. Before a second nor third person comes into your despondent life, first, take a grip check yourself, find a problem, and plan a way out. If there are no coming back answers, go find help. Mental help is free, it is what you take for granted on your every day, in most case mental help is in you. Nobody has to be depressed, we all need freedom out of our minds. Nobody has to live your world and make you do things your heart never wants and, what is good for you is that you should never change just because the other person feels a certain way about it. The power of your brain is the size of your future. Refuse to get confused about yourself because of the person next to you. A mistake of letting them convince you away from your life dreams is the moment you lost it for good if you not taming up your game back and fight them away. You better run away from any sort of psychological disturbance just for your mental fitness and still chase your life values with no regrets and hold-backs.

Acting Hard-Core Is A Mind Failure

WE HAVE BEEN TAUGHT to be stronger, be independent, deal with our own problems, and fight our own battles. To face our impediments and to stand for our own. Are we taught wrong? Are we being misled or what? Well, we have been taught right, we have been taught genuinely about life as wide as it is. We have to be stronger, be independent individuals and, we need not run away from our problems but to challenge and deal with them even if we going to fail along the process. Your life needs you to stand up for its needs, you need to make a solid move to get to where you want to be, even if it needs you to sweat all over again and again till something comes along. You need to be your own boss, making all the decisions necessary, every sunrise, and sunset. And notice this, you are good enough for yourself, for the things you want in your own life you can make that possible. However, we get to forget that not even a single human-body-cell can move or function on its own, it moves with the support of the other cells. Take just a moment to move your left or right thumb and see whether it moves alone, it is not, the movement is all over the hand. The same goes with human individuals, nobody can make it to the top without getting as much support from his surrounding as it is necessary. Hard-core is alleged to be a diehard character who needs no one to back-up but believing to deal with problems in a solo way. They carry their load alone, trying to break out and shine with nobody’s help, healing wounds alone with no one else consoling them, and they strive for the future all alone with no supporting system on their side. Is that stupid? Not at all, it is not stupid at all. But in a reality, these people have been through a lot and they do not know that they are broken into pieces, but still go on, acting tough every morning and cry alone when during the sunsets. They are literary the walking dead. They panic all the time and still give themselves hope that someday it is all going to be fine. That pain would never end if there is no openness about it at all, it does not help to bottle up your struggles mentally and physically. That would exhaust the body, break your soul, and take away your every strength, and slowly kills