The Yummy Jellybeans of Relationships
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On the evening of my 10th birthday, my grandpa told us a story, that still replays as vividly in my mind, as it did that day. This story is NOT about my grandpa. But if that made you want to keep reading, then we have something in common.
Just like you, there is nothing that grabs my attention more than if someone starts off with a personal story. And there's nothing that drives a point deeper, than if the story-teller references social experiments or popular fiction characters. Without these, you run the risk of it all sounding like one loooong, cleverly-disguised lecture.
The chapters of this book are named after jellybean flavours, with reference to Bertie Bott's jellybean flavours in the Harry Potter novel.
This is an playful, short read about relationship red flags, told as a bunch of FUNNY stories and social experiments, where you get to be an outside observer, but you can easily walk the experiences back to your own relationship.
You then get to decide, in a non-dictating way, whether you should still continue in the same direction, or whether it's in your best interest to start making little changes.
Tracey Calvert-Joshua
I wasn’t bullied. I didn’t have a learning disability. I wasn’t picked last. And even if all of that were true, it doesn’t matter anymore. I have the type of background that can be exploited for this author page. But I won’t. Beyond what happened to me, I want to stay focused on who I am, inherently. Who I am when I’m alone. When there are no distractions. I’m a ponderer. I’m a tinkler. I’m an autodidact. Maybe I’m slightly too obsessed with the meaning and purpose of everything. Maybe I’m too hardcore. Maybe I’m too optimistic. But I like who I am. It took me years, but I enjoy Tracey Calvert-Joshua. She’s a wild combination of sometimes conflicting interests. But combinations are wonderful. And so am I. This is who I am.
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The Yummy Jellybeans of Relationships - Tracey Calvert-Joshua
The Yummy Jellybeans of Relationships
Copyright © 2020 Tracey Calvert-Joshua All rights reserved
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Table of Contents
DEDICATION
INTRODUCTION
POPCORN (IN A SKILLET)
SOUFFLÉ
BROWNIE (POINTS)
TEQUILA (X SHOTS)
TRUTH-SERUM
LEMONS (MAKE LEMONADE)
TRIFLE (BUT NO TRIFLING)
HELIUM-BEER
LOLLIPOP
PUDDING (WHERE THE PROOF IS)
HONEY (ATTRACTS MORE FLIES)
BOX OF CHOCOLATES
APPLE (OF MY EYE)
GRAPE (VINE)
PIE (IN THE SKY)
LAYERED CAKE
EPILOGUE
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Where to find me
Books by the Author
Dedication
I made my list of 100 things that I wanted in a husband. Some hinted that I was being unrealistic. But you showed me that I wasn't. And you extended my ridiculous
list.
I thank the Lord Jesus for you. But I also thank you. Because you had to choose to be the man He wanted you to be.
Mommy, you taught me to fight for, to pray for and to wait for what I wanted. You were right.
This book was inspired by those who have loved me from the beginning. By those whom I have loved for long. And by those I've come to love recently.
Every word in this book is because of relationship.
Introduction
In the Harry Potter series, we are introduced to Bertie Bott’s infamous jellybeans. You could try guessing the flavour of the jellybeans by their look, but there was really no way of telling which flavour you chose, until you put it in your mouth.
Normally this would be an intriguing game, except for the fact, that in this batch, you may find yourself biting into accidental disgusting creations, such as vomit flavour, booger flavour, earwax flavour, rotten egg flavour, and other nasty flavours that have no business in food.
It rightfully advertises as: Every Flavour Beans - A Risk With Every Mouthful!
This is exactly how many view romantic relationships. They believe that there is simply no formula for getting it right. You just have to taste the one person after the other, until you are lucky enough to find a palatable partner.
A young woman who just started dating, asked a question on Facebook, that we’ve all posed at some point in our lives. What makes a strong relationship?
At this stage I was married for more than 10 years, and because I was always philosophical, this was definitely not a subject that I just flippantly grazed over.
I figured that if at least a few people exist, who between them have tried most of the jellybean flavours
of relationships, then surely they would have developed a labelling system.
One that the rest of us can follow, so that no rotten egg
makes us vomit
up the hopes we had, when we first bought into the idea of marriage.
Although marriage is by no means non-magical (like the Muggle-flavoured jellybeans), this is my unexhausted list of yummy jellybeans that make for strong relationships.
Each chapter is named after a jellybean that gives you a taste for the topic under discussion, but the chapters deliberately do not follow a specific order -much like a packet of unsorted jellybeans.
And I am sure that these somewhat-labelled beans, will constantly grow in edible flavours, as I continue to undertake the taste test. (**,)
POPCORN (in a skillet)
Learn Not To Overreact
In a viral YouTube video, a very enthusiastic man was cooking in the kitchen with his partner. While she still had her back to the camera, he was calling out the spices that he was planning to season the chicken with.
She turned around to check up on him, and gave him a look that can only be described as utter confusion mixed with a hint of contempt.
She had asked him to clean the chicken, and he, being a novice in the kitchen, had used dish soap to wash it. The chicken pieces that I previously never noticed, now appeared boldly in the foreground of the video. They were coated with soap bubbles. She meant that he was supposed to rinse the chicken.
She was absolutely livid. He had to answer whether he was a retard and hear a host of other flinch-worthy insults. According to her, he had completely ruined everything, and she proceeded to angrily dump all the chicken in the bin. At this stage I thought she was going