No Is Not an Answer
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No Is Not an Answer - Peter Weisz
No
Is Not An Answer
by
Marilyn Berman Pollans
and
Peter Weisz
Bal Harbour, Florida
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What they are saying about No Is Not An Answer.
Marilyn Berman Pollans…is a remarkable woman who has crafted an insightful and inspiring book about her life.
It is a classic American story, a woman rising from simple Jewish roots who, against steep odds, earned a doctorate and became an Associate Dean of the Engineering School at the University of Maryland.
More than that, it is a story of how the Jewish values, with which she had been imbued as a youngster, guided her to become a leader—advancing the status of women and minorities in a field where previously there had been little opportunity.
It is truly an inspirational tale.
—Abraham H. Foxman
National Director Emeritus
Anti-Defamation League
This truly fascinating personal story provides an emotional, spiritual, and tangible roadmap for women working their way through the stages of our lives and the unique challenges of work, family, children, illness, loss and renewal. Dr. Berman shows us how to overcome doubt and move through these stages with courage. She models an intrepid life for both men and women.
— Nancy J. Scheinman, Ph.D.
Clinical Psychologist
A fascinating and unlikely story of one woman’s determination to bring opportunity for all to higher education. Dr. Pollans created a model for attracting women and minorities to Engineering education that has been replicated nationally.
At a moment in our nation’s history where we are recognizing the importance of STEM fields to compete globally, Dr. Pollans stands apart as a pioneer in opening the world of Engineering to those who had long been in the dark. Her upbringing and personal challenges make her story all the more inspirational.
— George Irish
Eastern Head of the Hearst Foundation
I must tell you that I read this book in almost a single sitting as it is a true page turner. Together with Dr. Pollans’ deep understanding of human nature and especially in her self-analysis, she brings a sense of levity and joyfulness throughout her personal story.
It is not merely the story of a single Jewish woman, but a microcosmic reflection of the story of the Jewish people, always moving forward and upward, never giving up, with no
never being an option. As Golda Meir wisely stated, we have no other choice but to overcome and to succeed. Our option,
she quipped, is that there is no other option.
I highly recommend this book to people of all ages as one can learn lessons from it in so many ways. The total honesty and forthrightness sets it in a special category, from her analysis of the mindset of the early immigrants on the Lower East Side to her exploration of Magical Thinking
as it resonates with me and with so many others.
With Torah greetings and Blessing, honor and great esteem.
— Rabbi Sholom D. Lipskar
The Shul, Chabad-Lubavitch
Bal Harbour, Florida
DEDICATION
For my grandchildren
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
I would like to express my appreciation to the following individuals without whose assistance this literary journey would not have been possible.
To Al Pollans, my husband, who has demonstrated superhuman patience and unwavering support for this project.
To Marcia Berman, my daughter-in-law, who suggested and encouraged me to write this book.
To Geraldine Pilzer, my dear friend who helped greatly in the editing of this book.
To William English Brit
Kirwin, Chancellor of the University System of Maryland(ret.)for authoring the Introduction.
To Peter Weisz, my literary collaborator.
INTRODUCTION
This book tells a remarkable story. At one level, it is the narrative of a strong-willed woman who overcame substantial social and familial barriers to pursue a professional career that, in turn, opened opportunities for other women and minorities.
At another level, it is a story that captures a seminal period in American history—a period when women sought and exerted their right to fully participate in the economic life of our country. Many of the challenges and stresses women faced in this important period of social transition are captured in these pages. In this sense, this story is much larger than the life of a single individual.
Marilyn Miller was born on New York’s Lower East Side, the daughter of Jewish immigrants. Her strong-willed father, grounded in Jewish traditions, led the close-knit family. In this era and culture, women had very well-defined roles; they were the homemakers and were expected to devote all of their time, talents, and energy to nurturing the family. The idea that a daughter would aspire to a professional career was unthinkable—but that is exactly what Marilyn did.
An early indication of Marilyn’s iconoclastic nature was her insistence that she be allowed to go to college. Refusing to accept any other possibility, she finally gained her father’s blessing and enrolled in Brooklyn College. At the end of her junior year, she did two remarkable things: she walked away from a planned marriage, which would have ended her college degree aspirations, and chose instead to travel by herself to Europe. While such a trip would not seem all that unusual today, in the 1950s, and in her family’s traditions, it was a remarkable example of Marilyn’s independence of thought and character. One is left to wonder how her father came to terms with his rebellious
daughter. But, as recounted in the following pages, this trip had a profound and lasting impact on Marilyn.
Returning from Europe at the end of the summer, she completed her degree and married her first true love, Stanford Berman. Stan was an aspiring young lawyer and a native of Washington, D.C., where the young couple set up their home.
Stan’s views on the role of women were not all that different from those of Marilyn’s father. He had strong expectations that Marilyn would be a stay-at-home mom, but that was not to be. As she did with her father, Marilyn persuaded Stan that she was destined for other things and enrolled at the University of Maryland. Thus began a relationship with the university that continues to this day and that has had a profound impact on both Marilyn and the university.
Marilyn enrolled in a graduate program in counseling and personal services, ultimately receiving her Ph.D. in 1979. What must Papa Ralph have thought?
As remarkable as Marilyn’s life journey had been to this point, the most significant and in many ways most incredible part was about to begin: her career in the College of Engineering, now called the A. James Clark School of Engineering at the University of Maryland.
To fully appreciate what she accomplished, one must understand how jealously engineering faculty members guard their profession. Back then (even today), it was highly unusual for a non-engineer, most especially a woman, to rise to a senior-level position in a college of engineering. But that’s precisely what Marilyn did.
Starting with a junior-level advisor’s position in the college while working on her Ph.D., Marilyn rose—quite remarkably—to become the associate dean and earned the total trust and confidence of the college’s senior administration, faculty, staff, and students. Her responsibilities grew over the years to encompass essentially all activities of the college. To the best of my knowledge, this is a career journey without precedence at a major college of engineering. I must add that the journey could not have happened without the nurture, guidance, and support of a remarkable dean, George E. Dieter.
I first came to know Marilyn when I assumed the position of vice chancellor of academic affairs at the university in 1981. By that time, it was already clear that Marilyn was having a profound impact on the college. Undoubtedly influenced by her personal struggles to reach that point in her life, she was driven to make the college a more welcoming place for women and students of color.
This book captures well her struggles to effect change in the racial and gender demographics of the college. As an observer and supporter of her efforts, I can say that her work and results were transformative.
Once she began working at the college, Marilyn quickly became aware that less than 2 percent of the students were women and that there was only one woman on the faculty. Marilyn had an inspired idea: start a summer bridge program for women who might consider majoring in engineering. The success of this program was dramatic. Eighty percent of the students in the program went on to major in engineering. From that modest start, the enrollment of women in the college grew rapidly, to exceed the national average by a considerable margin. Her program became a universal model for engineering schools around the country.
Building on her successful efforts to increase gender diversity in the college, and at the university’s request, Marilyn played a central role in creating and leading the Center for Minorities in Science and Engineering. Thus, her portfolio expanded to include the recruitment and success of students of color, not just in the college but the science departments as well. Today, the university is cited as one of the most diverse among all the major research universities in America. Marilyn played a central and critical role in this notable achievement.
Among many other awards, Marilyn was selected for the university’s esteemed Outstanding Woman of the Year Award in 1991, and she twice won the university’s similarly prestigious Outstanding Advisor Award.
Sadly, Marilyn’s husband Stan passed away in 2000. Over the years, he had come to appreciate, support, and take pride in her amazing career and professional accomplishments. Fortunately for Marilyn, she met and married the second love of her life, Al Pollans. Now retired, Marilyn, with Al’s full engagement, continues to be involved in the life of the university, providing her counsel and generous financial support to programs ranging from the A. James Clark School of Engineering to the College of Arts and Humanities and the School of Music.
Perhaps no words could capture Marilyn’s contribution to the Clark School of Engineering better than something Professor Deborah Goodings, professor of civil engineering at College Park, wrote about her. Professor Goodings said, Dr. Marilyn Berman has brought to her job energy, enthusiasm, commitment, dignity, style, and mastery. She gives value to the role of administrators by approaching the university as an institution that must and can work for its constituents. This has made her an outstanding mentor in both a personal and institutional capacity. The A. James Clark School of Engineering has been enormously enriched by her career here, and the improvements she has brought about will outlast her career because she has changed the culture.
Changed the culture! That defines Marilyn’s life journey. What are the odds that a woman born to a Jewish immigrant family, steeped in traditions, could become an agent of change for a more inclusive university and America? It is a remarkable story and journey indeed.
—William English Brit
Kirwan, Chancellor (ret.)
University System of Maryland
PREFACE
"Life does not tell stories. People do. Life provides no more than raw materials. Raw enough for us to look back and connect at least two versions of our own biography: one a prison, the other a palace.
This is the greatest kindness the Master of Life has given us: He has placed His pen in our hands, so that we may enjoy the dignity of a palace constructed by our own design."
— from The Wisdom of the Lubavitcher Rabbi
Condensation by Rabbi Tzvi Freeman
The Shul Weekly Magazine, Bal Harbour, Florida
June 8, 2013
The purpose of this book is to tell some stories from my life so that I may leave a written record of these memorable moments for the benefit of my husband, my children, grandchildren, their children, as well as friends and colleagues. I have shared stories as completely