An Exceptional Romance: Igniting the Marriage of Your Dreams By Replacing Routine With Passion
By Kate Dahlin and Steve Dahlin
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Do you desire to reignite the fire you felt in those early dates before life got more complex and routine replaced romance? This book will help fan that spark into a flame that grows, matures, and lasts a lifetime.
So many people are looking for personal development and excellence in their lives, especially as it relates to relationships. We’ll show you how small adjustments can make a significant difference and impact your trajectory together. Buck the status quo. Dream big. Avoid mediocrity. Create an enduring bond. Join us on this quest for An Exceptional Romance.
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An Exceptional Romance - Kate Dahlin
DAHLIN
Copyright © 2019 Kate and Steve Dahlin.
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I have had the joyous pleasure of knowing Kate and Steve since they started dating. It has been a privilege watching them work together as a true team to prioritize, share, and celebrate as a married couple. Together, they have intentionally invested in their marriage and are now sharing their experiences and life lessons with other young couples. God’s Word is the foundation of their marriage, and sharing their experiences is their calling. I know that couples of all ages will appreciate their openness, practical insights, and wit. Enjoy!
—Jim Bowes
Former president and CEO of Peach State Integrated Technologies, Inc.
In this case, you can judge a book by the cover. The Dahlins have blended their experience, hope, and passion into timeless principles this generation can get excited about and actually apply in the real world.
—Ted Lowe
CEO of MarriedPeople.org
Kate and Steve have walked with us through our dating, engagement, and early married season. They are a continual encouragement in our pursuit of Jesus and each other by exemplifying a marriage that is ignited by adventure, passion, and love. The stories and wisdom in this book come from their journey and will have an eternal impact on your marriage, as it has on ours.
—Megan and Jared Fulks
INTRODUCTION
Kate and Steve
We are attracted to another person at a soul level not because that person is our unique complement, but because by being with that individual, we are somehow provided with an impetus to become whole ourselves.
—Edgar Cayce
Have you ever heard of the one-degree principle? It refers to reaching a destination. For example, for every degree you fly off course, you will miss your desired destination by ninety-two feet for every mile flown. So if you were flying from JFK to LAX and were off by one degree, you would be over fifty miles off course.
Wanting a good marriage is not enough. Small course adjustments can significantly impact your romance through the years, but you have to determine your direction. Your ultimate trajectory depends on it. So where are you heading right now?
It was just a few years into our marriage when we sat down with some dear friends on a vacation and discussed the topic of blending two unique lives into one. Out of all the words our friends could have used to describe this process, they chose hard. We were stunned.
These friends had been married for less than a year. It’s hard … already? we thought. We had some deep conversations about the perceived struggles of marriage. After all, we too were at the starting gate, and culture paints a pretty dismal outlook of marriage through marketing, movies, and sitcoms. It launched us into a decade of seeking answers and strategies for creating the best marriage possible.
That vacation left us with a determined purpose to help others (as well as ourselves) in this journey. In just a few short years, we passionately entered into a ministry of mentoring couples around their desired growth areas and relational dreams. We were zealous in proclaiming the how-tos and do-nots in order to equip young hearts for the foreverness of marriage.
But here is the thing—it doesn’t have to be hard. In those early years (and even today), many friends and strangers said that the honeymoon phase would eventually end, and the rose-colored glasses would fade. People said that our feet weren’t on the ground and that we were blinded by love. And another common phrase: Just wait; it’ll hit you.
How anyone can be that negative and pessimistic about the institution and covenant of marriage is completely beyond us. We believe it can be fireworks, connection, joy, and one of the few constants in this variable world.
The daily choices you make are crucial to maintaining a vigorous relationship throughout the course of your life together. The ideas presented in this book are preventatives. The outcome is fun and exhilarating and will be supported and sustained by healthy habits. We want the intricacies of your relationship to be automatic, easy, and incredibly life-giving.
When you sign up for married life, you don’t go into it with a negative mind-set. You are over the moon in love. You expect to beat the odds; you are the exception to the norm. The chemistry and nuances of your relationship are one of a kind. Plus, you have God on your side, and he created all of these relationships. There is nothing left to do but make the leap together.
If you wanted a book about working on your marriage, you chose the wrong one (all the men should cheer here). Romance is not work when you get it right. It’s inspiring and magnetic, and everybody will want to know your secret.
There is a concept in business called linked prosperity, which we strongly support. It basically means that if we thrive, you also should thrive. This is why we share our story. We are still wearing those rose-colored glasses when it comes to each other. We are best friends and each other’s favorite person. We love doing life together. We always say to each other, You make me the best version of myself.
And we deeply want that for your relationship too.
We are not experts by any means. We have written this book because we are also in the middle of married life and are wanting to see everyone experience growth in their relationship. We challenge you to continually cultivate the fire that started your romance and fuel it to the next level and beyond. We pray that these pages will inspire you to allow the sparks to fly.
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
Happy Two-Year Anniversary
My dearest Kate,
First of all, I want you to know how much I love you. My admiration and appreciation of you grows each and every day. It is amazing to see how fast two years have gone by, and I am yet again reminded of how lucky I am to have met you in Panama City Beach. The Lord works in mysterious ways, and I often reflect on the uniqueness in which we were brought together in the summer of 2005.
Normally at this time, I would be buying you a dozen freshly cut roses and adding a Hallmark card to go with it. However, due to the plethora of bouquets currently in our humble abode from recital weekend, I decided to throw tradition out the window and be creative in expressing my love to you this year. So I will give it a try.
There is a passage in scripture that I often quote or reference, and it is because it holds a special place in my heart. On Saturday morning, May 19, 2007, Ben and I were having Bible time and praying in the hotel courtyard. We were reading on marriage and our study led us to the following text in Proverbs 18:22: He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the LORD.
That morning, I was hit with the realization that I had found not only my wife and soul mate but a beautiful, caring, compassionate, sensitive, respectful, pure, and God-fearing woman. And because I had found you, I had obtained favor from my heavenly Father.
Saying I do
was the easy part.