Grieving and Healing After Loss

By Tabitha Mwai

'Grieving and Healing After Loss' is a healing toolkit.

 

The book provides guidance on what to expect when you loose a loved one, how life will change, as well as how to cope with life. The book is based on a Psychological perspective and Christian perspective using a real life experience of the author. After reading this book you will be able to cope with life even as you go through the pain. 

• Language: English
• Publisher: Digital Scroll Media
• Release date: Apr 15, 2020
• ISBN: 9781393031321

Tabitha Mwai

Tabitha Mwai is an Author, Blogger, Trainer, Transformation speaker and Coach. She is the Founder of Digital Scroll Media, Decent Conversations Foundation and Star Mom a program for young single mothers. Tabitha has deep interest in content development, storytelling, African narrative, community development, volunteering and mentorship of women and youth. She believes in being the change you want to see and that is why she is bevy up to a challenge, especially so if it has a positive impact on the society.

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DEDICATION

To all those who are trying to find meaning in the loss of a loved one.

INTRODUCTION

You cannot ignore grief

You cannot pause grief

You cannot postpone grief

The only way to heal is to grieve

-Tabitha Mwai

Grief is a complex emotion you can only understand through experience. You may be conscious to what you are going through but this does not guarantee you will also be able to process the emotions.

Once a loved one has gone to be with our maker, you go through a process of grief. There is no template or standard way of processing loss. This process entirely depends on your personality, background and support system.

This does not mean I discredit the psychologically based stages of mourning. All I want you to understand is, you do not have to be confined to the steps; everyone grieves differently and this creates your own stages of mourning. You might relate them to the renowned stages of mourning but they may not follow the chronology, or you might go through a space that is not indicated in those stages. It does not matter how you label what you are going through, my concern is how you make it through.

This book will just help you understand what you are going through and help you as you grieve your own way. You will find some encouragement as well as healthy ways to cope with your loss. It is my prayer that, you find comfort and strength as you embark on this journey that nobody is ever prepared to handle.

FOREWORD

This is a brilliant and timely book to help people cope with grief. The book shows how you can handle grief and carry on with your life despite your loss.

When Tabitha asked me to do the foreword, I was humbled. I was moved by her desire to help those dealing with grief.  I wish this book had been available when I went through the tragic loss of my husband in a car accident. I was devastated. I felt like my life had come to a standstill.

I could not believe that the man I loved so much and had treated me like a queen had died. It was even more traumatizing because he was not only my loving husband, my best friend and the father of my children but also my business partner in running Makini Schools. To make things worse, we had just opened a new school with the IB curriculum which he was in charge of. Nevertheless, life had to go on. Society does not expect you to get stuck in the grieving process because your roles and responsibilities await you and nobody else can do what you are doing.

Tabitha mentioned several coping mechanisms such as staying around loved ones for support. I had a lot of support from my family and friends. We shared good memories as a way of assuaging my pain.

The few books I could lay my hands on like Helen Steiner Rice’s was of great help but, above all, my strength and comfort came from God and reading His word. Just as Tabitha has quoted many bible verses in Chapter 5, I also resorted to depending on the Bible for sustenance and it has