Gently Between the Words: Essays and Poems
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In his latest collection of essays and poems Taylor-Troutman guides readers through seemingly simple stories of death, life, parenting struggles, successes and failures that speak to larger questions we all face: How do we best spend our time? How can we raise our kids to be kind and confident? Who gives us guidance and wisdom? What does love look like in our lives on a day-to-day basis?
In simple and important gestures like cleaning spilled milk with toilet paper, flipping the perfect pancake with your partner, and walking down the beach with your young child, readers find universal truths to guide their own lives regardless of personal circumstances.
Gently Between the Words guides and instructs our hearts to keep the endangered language of beauty, love, forgiveness, grace, and sensitivity alive in order that we all might become more and more necessary to the urgency of our times and the dreams of our children. —Jaki Shelton Green, NC Poet Laureate
Andrew Taylor-Troutman
Andrew Taylor-Troutman has published seven books in creative nonfiction and poetry. He is a regular columnist for a variety of national publications and serves as the pastor of Chapel in the Pines Presbyterian Church. Taylor-Troutman lives in Chapel Hill and occasionally stumbles upon the wondrous while in search of his next cup of coffee.
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Gently Between the Words - Andrew Taylor-Troutman
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Dedication
For Asa, our healer
Foreword
The book you are holding, Andrew’s book, is a gift. It will give different things to different people, but here is what it has given to me, his editor and friend.
Andrew’s book has given me a better ability to appreciate beauty in my own life, what I have come to think of as presence with perspective.
When Andrew asked me to edit his manuscript, I didn’t know him at all. Of course, the first thing you do when you are contacted by someone out of the blue is to stalk that person on Facebook. I saw that Andrew and I had several friends in common, from random parts of my life—who knew? Our stories, it seems, are quite similar: We are the same age, have lived and currently live in similar places, have similar backgrounds, and are raising children of similar ages.
Needless to say, the stories Andrew shares in this book resonate with me on many levels. When he writes of cleaning up spilled milk with toilet paper while one child screams and another gleefully dumps Cheerios from the box, I can relate.
But being immersed in Andrew’s writing, working regularly with the gentleness of his words, has imparted me with a life-altering perspective. I have found lately that when I am in the middle of the everyday storms of my life—of raising kids, of nurturing a marriage, of being an imperfect daughter, of suffering loss, and of joy so intense I immediately fear it will be fleeting—I’ll catch myself thinking, How would I write this story?
How would I tell it like Andrew tells his stories, in ways that deliberately and thoughtfully find the beauty in it?
Having this thought flit through my mind in those big-feeling moments has graced me with perspective even while I am still right in the middle of the raging realities. It doesn’t make the challenging times go away, but it gives me enough distance to breathe a tad easier and appreciate the moment in the moment, even if just a little. I liken it to meditation, but without having to sit up straight or focus on my breathing.
Over the past six months, Andrew and I have together pondered this word beautiful.
It is a word we wanted to pay attention to, particularly because we both have young daughters. I want to be aware of what I’m teaching my children about this very important but very loaded word. Andrew and I have dialogued about what beautiful
means, how to use it, and when to use it, particularly with our girls.
Because of these talks, and dwelling in Andrew’s book, I realize I think of beauty in terms of joy, appreciation, and gratitude.
I think for me, beauty is something that has very little to do with aesthetics and everything to do with my frame of mind. What I value as beautiful—what I hope to teach my daughter and son is beautiful—are the things that give joy. Not necessarily happiness, but joy—that deep, visceral, beyond-all-the-words feeling of appreciation and intense gratitude.
Andrew’s book, in this way, is beautiful. It inspires me to see beauty amid the times that feel oh-so-unbeautiful, to seek out beauty when it is hard to see readily, and to appreciate it deeply when I do see it in the day-to-day ordinariness of my life. It helps me to be present with perspective—to appreciate the story of my life, as it is happening, as I am in the middle of all its messiness and wonder and heartbreak and joy.
Thank you, Andrew, for this beautiful gift.
And to you, Andrew’s reader, I’m excited for you, because beauty and humor and gentleness and wisdom await you in the pages ahead. I hope you enjoy them as much as I have.
April Williams
Saxapahaw, North Carolina
Preface: When We Do Not Have the Words
… and we think that we can’t
Write that for which we do not have words
but actually
Sometimes you can if you go
gently between the words.
—Brian Doyle
April Williams wrote the gracious foreword to this book. Throughout the revision process, she also made it crystal clear when my words did not resonate with her. One of the essays, the heartfelt letter I write to my daughter, was at one time titled Nostrils.
I’m glad she turned up her nose at that title!
But Gently Between the Words
was my very first title for this book. This phrase is from a poem Brian Doyle wrote about his young daughter, and eventually I circled back to this enigmatic idea of Brian’s. I find the phrase hard to explain. I love the poetic ring to it.
Gently between the words
is figurative language, so it shouldn’t be interpreted as having only one meaning, like an answer to an equation or a single verdict in a trial. To me, the phrase’s meaning has to do with a probing curiosity—a reader seeking to find a personal connection with the author’s description. That’s what Brian Doyle’s words have meant to me. He was my mentor and friend.
I learned from Brian’s book Spirited Men that the ancient Greek biographer Plutarch wrote about the great men and women of his time in order to discover models of virtue for his own life. In other words, Plutarch wrote biographies as moral catechisms—each was a study of a life that read like a sermon. Brian ends his own essay on Plutarch by imagining the biographer’s young daughter interrupting her father’s work, begging him to take a walk with her down the beach. According to Doyle’s imagination, this great moral philosopher of antiquity halted his sermonizing, And he says ‘yes of course my tiny flower’ and down the street they go to the sea, father and daughter, hand in hand, immortal.
I think that is a darn good sermon.
A father and daughter, hand in hand, immortal.
These ringing words reinforce for me that if we glimpse any of the everlasting, it is in the moment. If we catch any vision of universality, it is in the particular. When we think we do not have the words, for certain moments in life seem too much to describe, we can still write in hopes of honoring those moments with a language that falls into step with our feelings and walks in the same direction, heart and mind.
I confess that I should be better with finding the right titles. Sermons have been a part of my life for as long as I can remember, for I grew up as a preacher’s kid, and now I preach every Sunday. I find it hard