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Human Sexuality and the Nuptial Mystery - David Widdicombe
Desire, Vocation, and Friendship
The Mysteries of Human Sexuality
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How Can We Frame the Right Questions?
Oliver O’Donovan
Martin Luther opens his Sermon on The Estate of Marriage with the
observation that each of us has a sex. We find ourselves with our sex and can do nothing to change it, and we all have relations with the same and the other sex, from which we cannot by any means extricate ourselves. Therefore, each one of us must have the kind of body God has created for us. I cannot make myself a woman, nor can you make yourself a man; we do not have that power. But we are exactly as he created us: I a man and you a woman. Moreover, he wills to have his excellent handiwork honored as his divine creation, and not despised.
¹ Naïve this may seem, but for a place to begin there are few better. It draws our attention to the question that comes first, before marriage and the blessing of procreation pronounced on man and woman, before sexuality
and the range of emotional responses and habitual reflexes that may be governed by our sex. Before we can talk of the meeting of the sexes, before we can talk of the experience of being sexed, we must recognise the being of the sexes.
This starting point has the additional benefit of forcing us out of the observer’s and into the existential point of view. To discuss sex well, we must discuss it not as sociologists, amateur or professional, not as behavioural psychologists, conservative or radical, but with a sense that our own being is engaged. Pornography panders to the temptation to treat sexual experience as a transitory entertainment we may look in on from time to time and then go on with our lives unaffected. And it can gain support from ways of discussing sex that fail of existential seriousness. These include not only the detachment of the would-be human-scientist, but the managerial control of the pastoral professional, who, in eagerness to relieve the burden of guilt with minimum fuss, may all too quickly encourage the idea that anything that has to do with sex is superficial and unimportant. From the point of view of the last judgment, of course, it may well be so. But so are many other things we are bound to take seriously in the course of living our lives. Our instincts tell us that the problem of sexual self-possession is close to the heart of the question of virtue; that is to say, it deeply concerns how we are to live our lives as meaningful and worthwhile wholes.
This instinctual association of sex with virtue has been articulated within the ordered tradition of Christian teaching, where it has been situated within the frame of divine grace and the redemption of broken humanity. That is why it is in the Church that the anguished debate goes on in our own times about the meaning and value of gay sex. Apparently there is no other ordered discourse for which the question of virtue and the question of sexual self-possession are woven together as they are in the Church’s discourse, and as they certainly are in our experience of ourselves. This much at least, then, must be said in the Church’s favor, before we get into the usual hand-wringing and deploring: whether persuasively or unpersuasively, perceptively or unperceptively, the Church treats seriously of difficulties that arise in all seriousness within lived human experience. There is nothing to be ashamed of in the bare fact of the Church’s engagement, often unsupported, with this debate.
I want to begin by saying a word about one of many books that has appeared in recent years advocating a permissive approach to same-sex relations. It is a book I take to be of intellectual seriousness, a worthy statement of the kind of approach it favours. It is The Ethics of Sex by Mark D. Jordan.² In this context I cannot do justice to its strengths as the product of a lively and creative intelligence, but only give a rough idea of how its angle of vision on the question lies. In picking it out for discussion I do not mean to suggest that its angle of vision is that of all gay Christians, or even most. I choose it for three reasons. The first is simply that there ought always to be some clearly stated position on the table when non-gay Christians discuss this topic, since otherwise they fall into the way of depicting the gay Christian to fit their own fears or theories. This debate would make more progress, I think, if everybody who joined in would follow this simple precaution. No contribution can bring us further forward if it represents its opponents unbelievably. The second reason is that it is specially important to attend to what gay Christians say about their position, not merely to what pro-gay Christians say. The advocacy of the cause has often fallen to non-gay Christians of liberal convictions, who bring to the discussion their own agenda, usually of an emancipationist or rights-oriented kind, and are more interested in gays as victims of persecution than as bearers of a distinct experience that can be of importance and interest in its own right. The voice of Mark Jordan brings a very different set of concerns to the fore from such liberal advocates as my former colleague Marilyn McCord Adams.³ Non-gays need to attend to what is offered for Christian understanding out of the gay experience. My third reason is that this book sets a high value on thematizing the experience of sexuality within a context of prayer and discipleship. Though passionately critical of much traditional teaching, it makes no suggestion that there ought to be no Christian teaching on this subject, nor does it ever suggest that the controversy is about nothing at all. It hopes to free what Christians think and say and teach about sex from certain supposed shackles and inhibitions; it does not hope to free Christians from thinking and speaking and teaching about sex