Self 101: What You Don’T Know You Don’T Know
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Giannas book is an invitation to return to the heart and soul of our being in order to usher in what many of us believe will be the next great era; The evolution of collective human spirituality.
- Joan Adam, RN, BSN, PHN, Caritas coach and reconnective practitioner
Most people resign themselves to try and keep the world from changing or skink mentally instead. Not Gianna. Too keep-moving-forward. So remarkable.
- Gina Gianetto, CEO, CAMPdesign and Architecture
Gianna has stood out as one of the genuine bright lights of humanity.
- Rev. Michael Petrow, PhDc, associate pastor of House on the Rock Family Church
Your book is so wonderful in meaningful content and writing style. You take the journey with your readers - so much truth and wisdom coming through and very well written.
- Felice Willat, founder of Day Runner Life Management Systems and author of
Womans Book of Changes
There are very good self-help books around; I read many of them myself when I still believed that with enough self-improvement we could find our best selves and change the world. Imagine my shock when my true Self found me. And no, they are not one and the same.
This book shares my discovery that what we know as our selves are actually our Personas, the invented selves we think we are. The Selfour true natureis the one we were born to become; it is our birthright, waiting within for us to discover.
For any reader who can suspend old expectations and preconceptions to take the journey offereda journey to your own availabilitysimultaneously and synergistically whole worlds begin to change, within, without, and for the good of all.
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Self 101 - Gianna de Girolamo-Gaudio
Copyright © 2012, 2014 Jeane Harper.
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ISBN: 978-1-4525-8761-5 (sc)
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Balboa Press rev. date: 02/14/2014
Contents
Acknowledgements
Prologue
Introduction
Part I Who We Are Meant to Be
Chapter 1 Province of the Mind
Chapter 2 New Meanings
Chapter 3 Pitfalls and Portals
Part II How We Got to Be Who We Think We Are
Chapter 4 What is Adulthood?
Chapter 5 Illusions
Chapter 6 A Psychedelic Vision
Part III Who We Need to Become to Do What Needs to Be Done
Chapter 7 Good Education Is Therapeutic
Chapter 8 Good Therapy is Educational
Chapter 9 Do Not Go Back to Sleep
Part IV Epiphanies
Chapter 10
Bibliography
About the Author
SEP1.jpgAre You Ready for the Truth?
SuZen Caring
SEP2.jpgSEP1.jpgfor my children
Brynn, Henry, AnnMarie, Mia Boyle
and
In memory of my parents
Vito de Girolamo and Lou Gaudio
A heart full of gratitude
SEP2.jpgAcknowledgements
A long life assures a virtual caravansary of traveling companions, spirit guides, soulmates, and antagonists, to all of whom I am grateful. Each in a unique way fostered my growth and my faith in a search for my Self: My clandestine best friends in third grade, Black Olive and Jewish Margaret, neither allowed to play with the so-called white girl after our school hours and who will never know how profoundly they have influenced my life. My intimate circle of seventh grade friends, especially Marjie and Rosemary. Despite rare contact, miles and states separating us, our contacts defy Ordinary time, judgement-free and filled with love. You are always in my heart.
Guardians of my spirit: Las Tres Marias, my grandmother Mary Gaudio, my mother-in-law, Mary Boyle, my sister Moo; My grandfather, Charlie Gaudio and my father and his brother John, my blood; Kairos Institute, Esalen and Pacifica Graduate Institute, every client and especially my brain-injured friends at Jodi House; my soul’s teachers.
More immediately, deep appreciation to a traveling companion of endless depth, Barbara Kless, who not only read every word of many drafts of this book, but fed my stream of consciousness through long discussions about every issue in the book while providing Chez Kless as a writer’s haven for a brief time.
I am rich with soulmates, those who know each other at first sight: Marilyn Arana Cazon, first among them all. Our hearts and minds took us to new places every day. In this life or the next, we will always be the girls with blue feet. Estar alli para bienvenida, mi amor; Carlos, mentor and brother, when all is said and done; Joan and John Adam; she a spiritual traveling companion; he, the best playmate ever; together, an inspirational couple.
Post retirement, with the ache of loss in my heart, I was found by waiting soulmates, surprised that they were all much younger than me; the poet, Craig Dieninger who is the poem, and the Reverend Mike Petrow, a spiritual visionary and a hope for the marriage of Eastern spirituality and Western religion. Our relationships soar beyond age boundaries and go deeper than any of us really asked for; Dinners together were always a mixture of deep discussions and deeply heartfelt laughter. I miss you, guys and I can’t leave without you both at the celebration; Gina Gianetto, not a daughter, more than a friend, sometimes a mother, always true; the men I have loved and who filled empty spaces in my heart with their love, helping me to grow, each in his own way: Harry H. Boyle, father of my children; Philip R. Harper, the love of my life; John Willy Alford, despite all.
SEP1.jpgLove cannot die: You are all in my bones
SEP2.jpgPrologue
This is the way my mind works. Neither the chicken nor the egg came first. Since each potentiates the other, they are cocreators of each other. Thus am I drawn to a more systemic view of a world in which humanity and civilization potentiate each other and, like the egg and the chicken, are intimately involved in cocreation. Ergo, relationship, per se, is what generates and maintains our personal psychological, spiritual, emotional, and physical welfares and ultimately civilization.
As I recall photographs of early cave paintings, figure, animal, weapon and background are often represented with simple one-dimensional, overlapping strokes. I imagine that in those simple expressions, the primitive artists have revealed perceptions of oneness. Those have faded, seemingly as the evolution of increasingly more sophisticated cultures imposed blackouts on this sense of relatedness in humanity.
Western culture in particular has been based on mutually exclusive concepts such as cause/effect, either/or, us/them, time/space, and God/man. Considering this paradigm of duality, it is no wonder our psyches began to split into mutually exclusive concepts of being. Our developing self-awareness became split off from an innately true Self, meaning one expressing the experience of one’s own nature and perceptions. Instead, a Persona, not unlike an adaptive camouflage, was developed to cope with the demands of culture and, therefore, civilization. Unfortunately we have too often chosen the Persona over the Self for a definition of what it is to be human.
Possibilities for alternative paradigms exist in other cultures. Why not then, borrow from those to legitimize some alternative premises I put forth, ones that draw from the original human assumption that blurs the line between Self and environment. In this sense, we are intrinsically oriented toward relationship, which makes us cocreators by design. Reflections of this are found in such concepts as interdependence, beginnings and endings and in the concept of yin and yang, which eliminates the arbitrary line between beginnings/endings, endings/beginnings. Why not look to the mystical for purposes of hearts and souls, accepting the concept of timeless space while acknowledging a contemporary experience of space-choked time?
These premises provide the foundation for two concepts in this writing. First, an imaginative Wilderness
distinguished from any geographical wilderness, rather a psychic dimension of timelessness, revealing to