The Rejection Syndrome

By Dr. Margaret Rogers Van Coops Ph D

"Eventually", I had all the intellectual answers. I tried desperately to apply this knowledge in my professional and family lives. I pointed out the error of our ways to those who sought my counsel. Many were glad to receive my advice, but those closest to me had deaf ears. My pain and anger climaxed into a massive breakdown. I was dying. I was drowning in " The Rejection Syndrome."

In our daily lives, all of us experience moments of rejection, either by ourselves or from others, that create an internal impasse. Dr. Margaret Rogers Van Coops assists those wishing to be free of these encumbrances, which are brought about by The Rejection Syndrome.

• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse
• Release date: Mar 12, 2007
• ISBN: 9781452029146

Dr. Margaret Rogers Van Coops Ph D

Dr. Margaret Rogers Van Coops, Ph.D., DCH (IM), Doctor of Hypnosis and Integrated Medicine, has been an ordained minister of the Universal Christ Church (School of Spiritualism) since 1983. She is currently the Director of Education for UCC. Dr. Margaret is a clinical Hypnotherapist who practices successfully in Japan, England and the United States.   She is the author of The Way to Oneness, The Rejection Syndrome; 50 Spiritually Powerful Meditations; Pro-Life, Pro-Choice, Pro Spirit; Breakthrough Therapies: Crystal Acupuncturesm & Teragramsm therapy; The Book of Crystal Acupuncturesm & Teragramsm Therapy Diagrams and Expanding Images with the OmniCard.  Her two novels are Regenesis and Henry’s Secrets.  She has also written several screenplays and TV series treatments.  

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Contents

ACKNOWLEDGMENT

PREFACE

INTRODUCTION

Part I

THE

REJECTION SYNDROME

CHAPTER ONE

CHAPTER TWO

CHAPTER THREE

CHAPTER FOUR

CHAPTER FIVE

CHAPTER SIX

CHAPTER SEVEN

CHAPTER EIGHT

CHAPTER NINE

PART TWO

DEPROGRAMMING AND REPROGRAMMING

CHAPTER TEN

ACKNOWLEDGMENT

I wish to express my appreciation to all those who crossed my pathway with life or death situations and who subsequently helped me to discover The Rejection Syndrome in others and myself. I especially wish to thank Normadiane Murdock for her patience and love as she listened to my ‘revelations’ and to my husband Stephen Michael Van Coops, who, in his role as the devil’s advocate, always pushed me forward in my search for truth. I would also like to acknowledge Chelsea Quinn Yarbro, author of Messages From Michael and More Messages From Michael, Playboy Press, for her insights and publication of concepts of the nature of the evolution of the human soul, which mostly confirmed messages that I received from Spirit in the early Sixties. In my opinion, these books should be read in order to acquire a more detailed understanding of the roles we play in the entire scheme of our existence.

I originally self-published this book in 1990, since then, I have had many opportunities to travel to Japan and other countries, where my lectures, workshops and one-on-one sessions have helped thousands to understand how important it is to know the true value of the Soul Structure, what it is, and its importance in our everyday life. There is not a moment that passes where this coding is not operating on a profound level, teaching each one of us something new, or reminding us each time of something we have forgotten. So, with this in mind, I wish to thank all those students who listened, trained to become "Oneness Counselors" with me. I know how deeply aware and diligent they are. I would also like to acknowledge all those who have learned in private sessions from me, to apply their own personal understanding of their own Soul Structure, and who have, knowing the way it works in their life, gone on to teach others. We are all like snowflakes, no two are the same, but we are made of the same essence. Thank you everyone.

PREFACE

In our daily lives, all of us experience moments of rejection, either by ourselves or by others, that create an impasse within. It is my intention to assist those wishing to be free of those encumbrances which are brought about by The Rejection Syndrome.

The Rejection Syndrome is defined here as a pattern of existence that compounds habit, routine and conditioning, leading to limitation, restriction and judgment, while in competition.

INTRODUCTION

Over the years, my life as a metaphysician has led me on a long pathway, discovering many layers self-awareness. A great deal of that time has been spent in private meditation communicating with my spiritual Master Teachers. As a young child of five years old, it seemed quite natural for me to be able to see and talk with them. By the time I was twenty-one, they had become the rock upon which I leaned.

Needless to say, my development in the physical world was greatly affected by my spiritual development. My studies included investigating as many religions as I could find, in the hope of finding one that gave the same answers as my spiritual Master Teachers. There was not one among them, which even came close. I did discover, however, that each had a very small portion of the whole which, when put together, did give me greater insight. But I was unsatisfied. I still needed to know more.

By the time I was twenty-five, I had a wealth of physical artistic talents and was fully developed in psychic talents, too. I was a wife, mother and minister. My life should have been full. Of course, it was not. I had grown to realize that I was an anomaly. Many who were in dire need of help sought my inner wisdom and advice. They crowded around me in the churches, eager to hear my words; longing to know me better. As soon as they became familiar with me, I noticed how they began to feel threatened by my skills, afraid that I would look into their hearts and see all manner of things so bad that I would shut them out of my life. These people, along with my friends and family, clung to me in praise and then condemned me with every breath.

Needless to say, I was in pain. I was angry, too. I could find no one on this earth who could feel my torment and share my emotional pain, and even worse, understand my ability to connect with The Oneness. In the early 1960’s no one even knew what I referred to when speaking about the collective consciousness of The Oneness. I was fully enveloped by The Rejection Syndrome structure.

For fifteen years, I struggled within myself, leaning heavily upon my Spiritual Masters’ guidance. They were patient with me, giving me answers to questions of importance while remaining silent to those that were not. During those silent times, I struggled with myself to find answers. My conscious mind constantly let me down with guessing games that never seemed to come out right.

Eventually, I had all the intellectual answers. I tried desperately to apply this knowledge in my professional and family lives. I pointed out the error of our ways to those who sought my counsel. Many were still glad to receive my advice, but those closest to me had deaf ears. My pain and anger climaxed into a massive breakdown. I was dying. I was drowning in The Rejection Syndrome.

My recovery was considered quite remarkable. After one month, I was back at work. Everything seemed normal on the surface, but inwardly I was different. On all levels of awareness, I had total recall of what had happened to me during my death struggle. I had embraced the Oneness and ascended my spiritual consciousness. I finally understood why my life had been so full of negativity. I had seen The Rejection Syndrome for what it was. Entrapment!

The years that followed were spent erasing The Rejection Syndrome while retaining the wisdom of the experiences that I had had throughout my life. This new journey of discovery took me inward towards my own spirit and my own power. Each day I embraced The Oneness and learned still more from my Spiritual Master Teachers.

Gradually, I learned to cease leaning on earthly and spiritual people. My Spirit Master Teachers became my equals. My acceptance of our equality and power led me into the acceptance of my own mastery. The full realization of the Oneness was upon me. The task before me was simple; ‘‘Practice what you preach.’’ Become the living, walking example of Acceptance.

At the time of first writing this book, my life was reasonably content and many wonderful things happened. It is my wish to share with you this knowledge, in the hope that you, the reader, will find your way to Acceptance.

Now, in the year 2006, I have once again set pen to paper to embellish this work. As the years passed, I learned not only to use my Soul Structure in a positive way, but also to use it to manifest the things that I desire. Desire comes not from neediness, but from the joy of being able to do more with my life. When I am ready, as Jesus said, I seek, knock, ask and receive.

Part I

THE

REJECTION SYNDROME

CHAPTER ONE

When I was about six years old, I began to find myself recalling events that had nothing to do with this life. These recollections usually came in short flashes while feeling deeply rejected about something that was occurring around me. On one occasion, I was sitting in long grass, watching some flies and bees as they darted in and out of the bushes nearby. Quite suddenly, I was looking at a large white house, which appeared to have many large windows. As I saw this house in my mind, I knew that I had lived there and had spent many an hour sitting in the long grass that grew around it. This memory recall created so strong a vision that it stimulated an emotional sense of loneliness that I had not felt before. Like any child, I soon put this awakened memory away from myself, by jumping up and running back to the safety of my mother’s arms.

This particular memory recall would probably have been totally forgotten had it not been for similar memories that were to arise in the years to come. Each event seemed to be stimulated by my emotional feeling of loneliness brought on by constant exposure to authority and the restrictions applied. Little by little, my memory filled in the blanks until I could recall a great deal about the house. The white house had a porch and a view into a large hall. The hall was grand with a large sweeping staircase, which I knew I was never allowed to climb. In the back of the house was another set of stairs that I climbed to reach my bedroom. This room was sparsely furnished. Beside the bed, there was a nightstand upon which a washbowl sat. In the far corner of the room was a dresser that held my few personal belongings. I knew that the house had seen better days and that it was big and cold. There were several hallways that led to various rooms and the decor was mostly wood paneling presenting a dark, ominous appearance. The grounds surrounding this house were vast and far from the nearest town.

With each awakened memory, I realized more and more how lonely I had been in this place. My original memory, associated with the flying insects had been stimulated by a sense of warmth and familiarity, which little by little, had changed to a growing sense of cold hostility. In time, I began to recall the house with hatred and to eventually fear my memories of the place. In my teenage years, I often forced myself to stay awake at night for fear that I would dream about this place where monster shadows lurked, threatening my very existence. During that period, it was difficult to know where truth and dreams separated; where reality lay. I often awoke from frightening dreams in which I was working in this house and then running along the hallways away from some frightening monster. I was always soaking with sweat on these occasions and at a complete loss to know how to stop the nightmares. During those times, my Spiritual Guides merely soothed my brow and informed me that it would stop as soon as I allowed myself to surrender to the monster. My fear, having the greater hold over me, did not allow me to surrender for many years.

It happened quite unexpectedly during the seventh year of my second marriage. The marriage was faltering on the brink of disaster as I wallowed in my loneliness. An opportunity came for me to go to Bath on business to teach a workshop on crystal healing. Once the workshop was over, I decided to drive around and sightsee this part of England. The countryside was beautiful and I was eager to explore it. Driving down several lonely country lanes, I came upon a cross street. On a sudden impulse, I turned right, away from the direction I should have taken. A few miles further, I came across the entrance to a large estate. My whole body went into shock. I knew, without a doubt, that my white house lay beyond this gate, even though I could not see it from the road.

Inside me, the fear of the monster lurking in the house loomed up, urging me to drive on, but my courage forced me to turn the steering wheel and drive up the driveway. I drove for several miles until, quite suddenly, I saw the house, just as I remembered it; white stonework and large windows. I stopped the car and stared. My conscious self could not believe that I had found the house, while my subconscious self reveled in the joy of having found it. I sat in the car looking at the house for over an hour. I had no need to go further. I quite suddenly knew that whatever had been inside that house was gone and that I was no longer a part of it. The past was gone and with it, my nightmares. In its place, a new memory arose; one of peace.

I recalled without a doubt that as the Master of The Manor died, I had finally gained my freedom and walked away from this house a free and happy woman. Much later, I understood that I had been very intuitive in this life, and had felt the horror of emotional trauma that filled this home. The master had been gone for many years, while fighting during a war, and had returned an embittered and broken man. He had taken his revenge out on me. He had abused and raped me often. I had nowhere to go, or so I thought, until later when, I took courage and left with the encouragement of a new friend who found me work elsewhere.

From this awakened revelation, I returned to my husband and our marriage with a new consciousness. I was no longer ready to put up with his ways, which caused emotional sacrifice and pain. Instead, I began to insist on my independence and went in search of my own projects, which were to assist me to uncover my own personal power and self-esteem. I still felt lonely inside, but I no longer felt isolated from the world. For the first time in my life, I could see that the world had a lot to offer and I was entitled, like any other, to break out of my mold and to begin to discover who I really was.

This was one of many past-life experiences that I have encountered over the years. Reincarnation is a subject of debate and probably will continue to be so for hundreds of years to come. The personal discovery that one has lived before is a deeply moving experience and one that cannot be denied. For many however, these discovered lives remain an enigma and are seldom really understood in relation to a present life. Not all past lives are recalled in picture form. Some are only remembered through emotional stimuli and need outside help to bring them forward. Such was the case with my life in early Rome.

During the first thirty years of my life, the average English household usually had only one bathroom, which hardly ever included a shower. There were, therefore, only rare occasions when I would find myself using a shower. One would assume that, when this apparent delight was made available, I should enjoy it. On each occasion, I found myself feeling quite the reverse. No matter how hard I tried to enjoy the water running over my body, I was always overcome by an intense desire to wash as quickly as possible, making sure that my back was to the door. During showers, I would find my stomach churning in fear with a constant need to check to see if anything was outside the shower door waiting to pounce on me. Despite my constant self-assurance and the installation of my own personal shower unit in my home, I could not overcome this fear. I also had another fear that seemed to grip at my heart and make it pound unmercifully. Whenever I saw someone with a knife or something sharp that could cause harm, I would panic and ask them to put it down. There had never been an occasion in my life where I had been threatened by either of these objects. These fears seemed to be irrational.

Finally, I turned to my Spiritual Guides for assistance. In meditation, they took me back in time to a previous life. I was sitting next to a large man who was draped in linen. I was laughing with him and feeding him grapes. Quite suddenly, I became aware of the sound of leather creaking and the noise of metal. I knew this was the sound of a soldier approaching and looked across the large hall to see him enter. I was dreadfully afraid of this soldier and, without any hesitation, got up and ran down some steps past the communal bath with its fountain showers and up more steps to an exit in the far corner.

I ran along the corridors with the soldier in pursuit. Finally, I ran down some steps and came to an end. Water lapped at the bottom of the steps. I was afraid of the water and what lurked in it. I turned to face the soldier who was now descending the stairs towards me. I could hear the running water as he spoke to me in Latin, calling me a whore and shouting that if he could not have me, then no one was to have me. He drew out a small wide dagger and stabbed me in the solar plexus and then jolted it upward into my heart. I sank into darkness and knew that I was dying. The next thing I knew was that I was soaring upward surrounded by a blue hue. It was then that my Spiritual Guides informed me that I was free of this fear and should be troubled no more. I awoke and felt elated. I took a shower and spent a long time enjoying it.

Several years later, I made the acquaintance of an English masseur who was in the employ of an Eastern ruler whose country was at war within itself. As a refugee, this ruler sought my help. Following this introduction, I often found myself in the masseur’s company and we inevitably, grew close. On a romantic June day in London’s Hyde Park, he drew close to kiss me but in a sudden flash, I saw the face of the Roman soldier who had killed me so long ago. Such was my horror that quite spontaneously I pushed him away. With gentle eyes, he looked at me and then informed me that he knew what I had seen. He told me how he had been haunted by the memory of having killed a Roman woman whom he had loved. He had known since the first moment he had seen me that I was that woman. He asked for my forgiveness and I gave it, though I assured him that it was not necessary. We kissed and enjoyed ourselves that day, ending it with an agreement to meet the following day.

I was never to see him again. I guessed that he had been swept up in political intrigue and would somehow write to explain. He never did. But more important was the completion of the release of my fear. I now knew that no man could control me and that I had the right to resist male domination without fear. I also understood that he had entered into my life as an important link for me to help a dying leader in a time of great need. It was not long after our encounter that this gentle soul passed back into The Oneness.

On many occasions, my Spirit Guides would show me or stimulate me to recall many previous lives. In my early years, I accepted them without question, putting emphasis on who I was and what I had done. It was much later that I began to ask questions regarding them and their importance and relativity to this life. Little by little, my Spirit Guides led me to understand the existence of the Soul Structure. In it, they informed me, is the coding of everything a person is. Nothing can be ignored. The past, present and future are all relative to a life lived in the now. They further informed me that time, as we know it, is only relative to our records of historical facts. From a spiritual point of view, time does not exist, for all things are functioning in the now. A Spirit has a choice to live and function according to its vibration and may dart in and out of lives that have no time consistency.

What this basically meant was that I could recall the lives, which are useful to my growth experiences. These lives were and are relative to my mindsets, which has been conditioned into me by my peers and from the genetic coding of my ancestors. Lives that I may have lived in what I must now call my future are not relative unless I am being futuristic in consciousness. By this, I mean foreseeing the future as a psychic, or creating a new idea or invention from which Mankind will gain greater experience.

As most of us are conditioned to harp on experiences of the past and their effect on us in the now, few open themselves up to an awareness of having lived in the future. Those who do, generally tend to think of themselves as space aliens, which can be comfortably accepted as something that has evolved out of a long lost past culture. It will not be until Mankind can accept that he does need to know his future, that he will be able to really take control of his life.

All this may seem confusing, but it is first necessary for each of us to awaken to the fact that we have lived before, in order to be able to accept that we have lived in what is now considered to be our future. This awareness opens up the enormity of The Creation and the pattern of continued existence in an ever-ascending spiral towards The Creator that each one of us must make. It also brings us into an enlightened awareness that The Creator must continue to stimulate us on our journey by continually sending us Its vibration of unconditional love to remind us of Its presence, in order to validate Its own existence; to appreciate that which It has created.

How then shall we, in our everyday lives, remember all this and much more? How will we know where we have been and what we have done? How shall we know that The Creator is with us, supporting us? The one thing we have learned on a conscious level is that Mankind needs guidelines to follow. These guidelines have been given through the mouths of sages and gurus around the world at various times in history and have served us well to find ways to live with one another in peace and harmony. However, these guidelines alone are not enough. They have served to teach us to look outside of ourselves for answers, which have in many ways helped us to grow, but there are many things for which answers cannot be found unless we journey inward.

Over the past decade, there have been many individuals who have chosen to become channels for Spirit Guides to speak, and the message has always been the same: Look inward, there lie the answers. To the uninitiated, this seems to be a useless statement, a cliché that is no answer or is an answer that gives no help. The meaning of this statement is quite simple. The answer lies in the coding within each individual. What then is the coding?

The coding is best described as deep-subconscious memory of all that has occurred throughout The Creator’s existence. This coding is stored as a series of energy impulses that lie within the essence of the spirit of each individual. This essence is often called The Holy Spirit and is perceived as spiritual light that awakens the conscious mind from the darkness of spiritual amnesia. The only requirement needed to awaken this knowledge is a desire to investigate inwardly. Another analogy is that of a tree. An ancient tree when, cut through its middle, will reveal the many rings of the seasons that have passed. One can tell by the rings if the year was good or bad, etc. In the same way, each of us is marked with our experiences and the experiences of the Oneness.

Investigation inward stimulates the coding according to choices made from the Soul Structure that have been chosen before birth. This Soul Structure is embedded in the deep-subconscious (Spirit Mind) part of the physical brain as cellular neuro-muscular memory, generating a series of impulses, which are then, hopefully, controlled by the conscious and subconscious parts of the brain. The Soul Structure is deliberately chosen in such a way that it will stimulate each of us to search for inner awareness and recall that which is relative to assist growth towards enlightenment. Enlightenment comes when all thee aspects of the mind are entwined.

Since it is not necessary for an individual to recall all that The Creator has created in one life, life is simple. Being enlightened would be too much for anyone to handle. The Soul Structure prevents each individual from awakening too much information. It provides a working tool with which to comfortably investigate self and others without pressure from The Creator to be Its equal. In turn, The Soul Structure protects The Creator from being challenged by Its equal parts, but rather to allow all to find unity and Oneness as a whole. The whole is no greater than the sum of its parts. On an everyday level, the Soul Structure helps each individual to recognize himself in others and to work in harmony with his fellow men.

In the Spirit world, life is easy going. There are no tests; no quests; only a continual self-appraisal of actions, emotions and understandings of what has gone before. Past lives are assimilated and understood as a whole, rather like one assimilates daily events in this life as a part of the whole life.

These past life experiences are generally examined and sorted into categories that focus on one lesson that needs further spiritual work. When you decided to reincarnate upon the Earth, one of these categories was chosen to work on with those lives encoded into your Soul Structure.

These lives will be generally grouped together according to the perspective chosen, thus ensuring a true focus on the upcoming lesson to be experienced and tested. In the case of the two lives I mentioned, the focus was on my fear of the use of my power in the face of control from another human being, not on what was done to me or how I reacted. How I could have used my power in those lives will never be known, nor is it relative. What is relative is that I learn to use my power in this life.

When a spirit is ready to return to the Earth, preparation is made by seeking out those of a higher awareness who would provide spiritual assistance as well as those who wish to accompany that individual into embodiment. The Spirits of higher awareness are called Guides or Master Teachers and they bond with the incarnating one and promise to be in constant contact with them to help them through their experience.

A separate bonding ceremony is carried out with those who are to incarnate as family, friends etc. who will interact with him or her to help focus on their new lesson in the flesh. When all is prepared, the soon-to-be-born individual will withdraw from the spirit world into a cocoon-like state where the encoded Soul Structure is stimulated and begins to function. At this point, the Spirit enters the body and prepares to be born.

Life is made easier if one understands the nature of the Soul Structure and can see how it is effectively working. It is for this reason that I chose to share my understandings and discoveries with you in the hope that you will search out your own Soul Structure and awaken to your real "Goal" in life and live life to the fullest. I have chosen to write this book using story illustrations to make it easier to see how the Soul Structure works. These stories are fictional, but each story has truth within it, which I hope will help you to see the truth within your own life. All the stories clearly show how "The Rejection Syndrome" is ever-present and how it takes constant vigilance to see it operating in an act of separation and/or isolation, no matter how wonderful the situation. There is a bit of all of us in all the stories and as Jesus, the greatest teacher, showed us, we are all children at heart and love to learn from stories.

When an individual decides to incarnate upon the earth, great emphasis is placed upon the preparation for that life. The Spirit selects a time and environment as well as its gender, parents and other persons who will interact with him/her once he/she is born. It is at this point that a Soul Structure is chosen. The other incarnating Spirits have, in the mirror image as stipulated by the Law of Karma, "Like attracts Like in