Self-Esteem for a Lifetime: Raising a Successful Child from the Inside Out
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"A must read for all parents filled with great ideas for
children of all ages."
Joseph Maloney, MD
"This is an invaluable book. Dr. Schweiger writes passionately, sharing her very seasoned professional and personal experience and expertise. Without judgement, and with a great deal of compassion, she provides parents with a blueprint for nurturing their children's self-esteem, the foundation for all happiness and well-being. An essential book that can benefit all."
Ann Hatkoff, Author
Building your child's self-esteem is a process that begins at birth and continues throughout a lifetime. In Self-Esteem For A Lifetime, you will learn how building your child's self-esteem influences:
-How and what your child achieves
-How your child socializes
-How your child loves
-How your child will make decisions throughout his or her lifetime
This book is truly a therapeutic experience. By sharing expertise based on thirty years of clinical work, providing thought provoking exrcises and opportunities for journaling, this book teaches the skills needed to prevent common childhood problems and build your child's self-esteem. Dr. Schweiger will support you in creating a home environment based on mutual respect and open communication. You will learn how to listen and respond effectively, resolve conflicts and manage your anger and stress.
Dr. Schweiger presents her practical, straightforward advice in user-friendly language and affirms parents as the experts on their children's lives. Her guilt-free approach ("There are no perfect parents!) will empower you and offer a helping hand through the process of raising a successful child. After reading Self-Esteem For A Lifetime, both parents and children will feel more confident and competent. Be prepared to keep this book close by for many years to come.
Ingrid Schweiger
Dr. Ingrid Schweiger is known internationally for her work with families. The American Association For Marriage and Family Therapy recognized Dr. Schweiger for her innovative family education programs used in communities throughout the world. Dr. Schweiger has served on the faculties of the University of Massachusetts in Amherst, MA and The New School for Social Research in New York City. She co-authored Teacher Stress and Burnout, published by the National Education Association, and produced the award-winning documentary Teen Suicide. Dr. Schweiger’s media experience includes hosting a live call-in radio show as well as frequent appearances on the NBC News in Massachusetts. She is a sought after speaker and seminar leader praised for her warm, dynamic style. Dr. Schweiger maintains a private practice in New York City and Little Silver, New Jersey where she works with individuals, couples and families. In her free time, she enjoys spending time with her husband, children and adorable grandchildren. To learn more about seminars, teleconferences and coaching, visit: www.Self-EsteemForALifetime.com www.DrIngridSchweiger.com Dr. Schweiger invites you to send your comments and questions to: info@DrIngridSchweiger.com
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Self-Esteem for a Lifetime - Ingrid Schweiger
© 2010 Dr. Ingrid Schweiger. All rights reserved.
No part of this book may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted by any means without the written permission of the author.
First published by AuthorHouse 8/6/2010
ISBN: 978-1-4343-7225-3 (sc)
ISBN: 978-1-4520-6990-6 (ebk)
Printed in the United States of America
Bloomington, Indiana
Contents
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
INTRODUCTION
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CONCLUSION
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
To my loving family
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
Many people helped to make this book a reality. Thank you to my daughters Jenn and Rebecca, my son-in-law Rob, Janice Masters and Michael Harrison for your valuable support and encouragement. Words cannot express my appreciation to my husband Joseph for his generous warmth, understanding and love.
Thank you to the many men, women and families I have worked with during the last thirty years. You have enriched my life in many ways. I appreciate your openness, trust and confidence in me.
INTRODUCTION
Building your child’s self esteem is a process that begins at birth and continues throughout a lifetime. In Self-Esteem for a Lifetime, you will learn how building your child’s self-esteem influences:
• How and what your child achieves
• How your child socializes
• How your child loves
• How your child will make decisions throughout his/her life
I am writing this book for parents, educators and all people who love children to help prevent the development of difficulties for their children, as well as to offer help when a problem does occur. As I examine thirty years of experience with children, their parents, and people in general, I find self-esteem to be the core ingredient for success in every arena of life. It is self-esteem that influences all of our behaviors, choices and decisions. If you were to observe those suffering emotional, behavior and relationship problems, you would find low self-esteem to be the common denominator in all cases.
I wanted to write a book that focuses on the essence of the parent-child relationship, the most significant relationship for any child. My work, research and lectures have addressed many different aspects of raising children and family dynamics. I decided to concentrate on isolating the key
element in a child who is happy with himself/herself and happy with the world. Once I collected all of my thoughts, self-esteem stood out loud and clear. Believing as I do that parents are the real experts, I gathered with groups of parents in order to hear their ideas, observe their responses and share our stories. This process is what this book is all about. Listening and learning from all the families I have worked with paved the way. I am so grateful and honored to have been welcomed into the private lives of so many. I cherish your trust in me.
This book in many ways represents my own personal and professional odyssey. It feels as though I have lived several lifetimes since my days as an elementary school teacher in Syracuse, New York in 1969. Since that time, I have been a wife, a mother, a single parent, a wife again, a mother-in-law and a grandmother and have met thousands of families in so many different settings. My career has taken me from the office to radio, television, college campuses and lecturing in a wide variety of settings.
Parenting is the most difficult job in the world. Who prepares us? My greatest challenge and most demanding role, without a shadow of a doubt, has been raising my two daughters, now 31 and 35. My own family has definitely been my most significant laboratory for learning. I often revisit the ideas presented in this book in order to refresh my skills and improve my relationships with my two adult children.
Regardless of how hard I work at it, I must often remind myself, There are no perfect parents!
On the other hand, parents can make a tremendous difference. With all of this responsibility, most of us are faced with anxieties, fears and self-doubt. How many times have you asked yourself that age-old question, DID I DO THE RIGHT THING?
Read on to gain the confidence, and learn new skills that will help you and your children every step of the way.
I began writing this book with the hopes of offering parents assistance and support with the challenge of raising young children. As I complete this project, though, I can see that all of the concepts and suggestions I make apply to your relationships with your children at any age. In fact, building self-esteem in others will improve all of your relationships and have a profound impact on how you feel about yourself. I hope this book feels like a helping hand, offers food for thought, and becomes a friend to confide in. Raising children today is a unique challenge. With the many changes in society, there are so many new stresses on both parents and children. It is my hope that this book offers you the knowledge, support, and reassurance that all of us need. Self-esteem is a gift your family will treasure today, tomorrow and for many years to come.
Sincerely,
Dr. Ingrid Schweiger
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WHAT IS SELF-ESTEEM?
What is self-esteem? As I questioned parents both in my groups and individually, I heard a variety of interpretations and stories that spanned the generations:
There was this time in high school when I became the most popular guy, after years of feeling like the ugly duckling. It felt like an overnight transformation. One day, I looked in the mirror and hated everything I was. The next day, it was like it all came together. My grades improved and kids started to talk to me and include me. I felt really proud of myself! I wish I could make that happen for my son…
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It seems as though my daughter has been struggling with everything. I don’t want to make her feel worse than she already feels. I can’t stop looking over her school work each day and helping her every night on the day’s assignments. Unfortunately, I become so frustrated. I know I say a lot of things I shoudn’t say. It seems like the more I care, the more her grades are dropping. Of course, our entire household revolves around her school work. Her self-esteem? Well, she has none. She behaves like one big failure and I guess, if I were to be honest with myself, I also see her as a failure. How do I help her to like herself again? How do I help myself?
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The stories kept coming. Some parents described children with specific difficulties in school, at home or with friends. Some parents felt that although they were not experiencing any specific problems with their children, they wanted to develop the tools to help build their child’s self-image and self-confidence. These parents felt that their children needed additional armor
to tackle the challenges that lie ahead. Although no two parents shared the same situation, the common thread was extremely strong. We all cared deeply about our children. We all felt that this force - self-esteem
- was vital in order to energize our children and ensure that they would maximize their strengths and