Orgasmic Yoga: Masturbation, Meditation and Everything In-Between

By Martha Lee

Orgasmic Yoga is an intimate way of stretching our capacity for pleasure. The premise is that an individual engages in solo sex or self-pleasuring for 30 minutes a day (with 30 days recommended as a suitable duration). Besides recommending 30 unique daily practices, this book will introduce you to seven tools to have a more ecstatic life: pelvic floor exercises, breath, sound, movement, touch, intention and fantasy.

"Shall I masturbate? Or meditate? Inher delightful and helpful new book, OrgasmicYoga, Martha Tara Lee shows us why we don't have to choose--we can have both.Filled withencouragement and how-to's, Orgasmic Yoga also includes interviews frommasturbation enthusiasts and thirty Orgasmic Yoga practices. Brava,Martha!" - Barbara Carrallas, author of Urban Tantra and Ecstasy is Necessary 
 
"Martha Tara Lee is absolutely lovely! She gives sex education a lot of heart,soul andspirit in the most delicious ways. Follow along with Martha forsexual enlightenment." - Annie Sprinkle, Ph.D. Ecosex Educator
 
"Orgasmic Yoga is such an enormously valuable practice for anyone interested inenhancing their experience of sex and better understanding their uniqueerotic make-up. Dr Martha Lee's book is a clear, comprehensive andcredible guide that will take you step by step through a 30 day programof pleasure practices that could change your life. What have you got tolose?!" - Laura-Doe Harris, Somatic Sex Educator and founder of The yOniversity 

• Language: English
• Publisher: Martha Lee
• Release date: Aug 7, 2015
• ISBN: 9781386329619

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Table of Contents

Title Page

Copyright

Preface

Part 1 First Things First

Introduction to Orgasmic Yoga

More Light on Masturbation

My Masturbation Story by Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Your Pink Parts Explained

Understanding the Sexual Response Cycle

Phase 3. Orgasm

Phase 5. Refractory Period/ Resting Time

Any Other Questions?

A Word about Porn

The Benefits of Orgasmic Yoga

Part 2 Let’s Get Going

1. Kegels

2. Breath

3. Touch

4. Sound

5. Movement

7. Fantasy

Before You Begin

Making A Contract

Keeping A Journal

Taking the Time

Sharing Your Experiences

Part 3 Your 30-Day Conscious Erotic Practice

Day 1: As Is

Day 2: Body Sensory Awareness

Day 3: Come On Closer

Day 4: Activate Your Love Squeezes

Day 5: Conscious Breathing

Day 6: Whole-Body Masturbation

Day 7: Listen to My Heart’s Song

Day 8: Heart-Genital Circuitry

Day 9: Let Them Come Together

Day 10: Erotic Self-Massage

Day 11: Bring More On

Day 12: It Gets Better

Day 13: Mirror Masturbation

Day 14: Pelvic Powerhouse

Day 15: Ecstatic Breathing

Day 16: Honor My Juices

Day 17: Fake It Till You Make It

Day 18: Standing Medibation

Day 19: The Pendulum Method

Day 20: Active Meditation

Day 21: Rosebud Massage

Day 22: Anal Eroticism

Day 23: Sexual Aids

Day 24: Building New Frontiers

Day 25: Eco-Masturbation

Day 26: Heartgasm

Day 27: Energy Orgasm

Day 28: Microcosmic Orbit

Day 29: Sex Magic

Day 30: Coming Full Circle

Part 4 Way Forward

How to Continue

In Closing

Loving yourself is crucial for your sexual awakening and supports you showing up fully in your professional and personal life. Opening up to new experiences, the way you have been, has expanded you. Life will never be the same again.

Meet Dr. Martha Tara Lee

Appendixes

Interview: Carlin Ross, Lawyer, Entrepreneur and Keeper of all things Betty Dodson, USA

Interview: Laura-Doe, Somatic Sex Educator

Interview: Elise Savaresse, founder of The Self Pleasure Revolution

Interview: Jon Gosling, 59, UK, Body Awakener

Interview: Hendrika, 38, Singaporean Chinese, Culinary Horticulturist

Interview: Anonymous Female, 40, Chinese, Motivational Speaker and Corporate Trainer

Interview: American Male, Early 60s, Director of a multinational fashion company

Cheat Sheet ― Strokes for People with Penises

Cheat Sheet ―Strokes for People with Vaginas

Recommended Reading and Resources

REVIEWS

"Shall I masturbate? Or meditate? In her delightful and helpful new book, Orgasmic Yoga, Martha Tara Lee shows us why we don’t have to choose—we can have both. Filled with encouragement and how-to’s, Orgasmic Yoga also includes interviews from masturbation enthusiasts and thirty Orgasmic Yoga practices. Brava, Martha!"

– Barbara Carrallas, author of Urban Tantra and Ecstasy is Necessary http://www.barbaracarrellas.com

Martha Tara Lee is absolutely lovely! She gives sex education a lot of heart, soul and spirit in the most delicious ways. Follow along with Martha for sexual enlightenment. – Annie Sprinkle, Ph.D. Ecosex Educator http://anniesprinkle.org/

Orgasmic yoga is such an enormously valuable practice for anyone interested in enhancing their experience of sex and better understanding their unique erotic make-up. Dr Martha Lee’s book is a clear, comprehensive and credible guide that will take you step by step through a 30 day program of pleasure practices that could change your life. What have you got to lose?!

– Laura-Doe Harris, Somatic Sex Educator and founder of The yOniversity http://www.yoniversity.com.au/

Copyright © 2015 by Martha Lee. All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted, in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording or otherwise, without the prior permission of the publisher, except for inclusion of brief quotations in a review.

While the author has used her best effort in preparing this book, she makes no representations or warranties with respect to the accuracy or completeness of the contents of this book and specifically disclaims any implied warranties of merchantability of fitness for a particular purpose. The advice and practices contained herein may not be suitable for your situation. The author shall not be liable for any loss of profit or any other damages, including but not limited to special, incidental, consequential or other damages.

Dedicated to all my teachers, especially my parents.

I’ve become a better person because of your love.

Preface

I was introduced to the term Orgasmic Yoga as part of my training towards a Certificate in Sexological Bodywork in 2008. Sexological Bodywork was offered as a separate course when I was pursuing my Doctorate in Human Sexuality at the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality.

I was told that Sexological Bodywork would be profound and life changing. The practices would equip me with more tools to better support my future clients. That was all I needed to know to enroll. Indeed, Sexological Bodywork shifted a lot of things for me and changed my life. I was able to understand and appreciate through embodied practices how our sexuality is connected to the core of who we are and becomes aware of the link between our sexuality and our spirituality.

Back then, I did not take the home assignments including Orgasmic Yoga seriously. Much as I love learning, I did what I usually do – just enough to earn the credit necessary to pass. Life would re-present the lessons I needed to learn.

Three years ago, when I went through a relationship breakup that triggered a year-long hives attack and plunged me into depression, a friend suggested that I return to doing Orgasmic Yoga. In my effort to stay open to love and life, I took her advice. I embarked on two Orgasmic Yoga cycles within a six month period. The 30-day practice caused a profound shift in my energy and contributed to my emotional healing. I began to thrive once again. Since then, I knew I wanted to teach more people about the power of our orgasmic energy.

This book is the result. 

Do join me at our Orgasmic Yoga Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/oyoga/ where your questions and discussions will take place.

Much love,

Clinical Sexologist

Eros Coaching

P.S. From the start, I made the decision that I would not offer any hands-on work in my practice in Singapore. Instead, I taught what I learned through Sexological Bodywork with the use of visual aids and instructions.

Part 1 First Things First

Introduction to Orgasmic Yoga

Many of us are unaware of our extraordinary capacity for orgasmic experiences. This power to feeling good lies within each of us. In order to unleash our orgasmic potential, we must confront our beliefs and attitudes about our sexuality, as well as develop skills to attain even more sexual pleasure.

Developed by one of my teachers, Joseph Kramer, Ph.D., Orgasmic Yoga is an intimate way of stretching our capacity for pleasure. The premise is that an individual engages in solo sex or self-pleasuring for 30 minutes a day. While Orgasmic Yoga, like other types of yoga, need not be limited to 30 days, it was recommended as a suitable duration as part of my Sexological Bodywork training.

There are many benefits of orgasms. Orgasms lower blood pressure, reduce joint pain and function and help us control pain and other mental or physical conditions. They can also have a positive impact on anxiety and depression.

Having said that, Orgasmic Yoga is less about the orgasm and more about becoming aware of and being able to generate orgasmic sensations in our bodies. The beauty of Orgasmic Yoga is that over time, we can achieve a state of arousal that is free of fantasy, unfinished emotional business, religious dogma, cultural caveats or habitual sexual behaviors – and just enjoy our bodies as they are. We can just be – while completely aware of our body as a source of wisdom, happiness, and freedom.

Every Orgasmic Yoga session includes the following:

1. A statement of intention(s) at the beginning.

2. A clear beginning and ending time.

3. A session structure, outline or choreography.

4. One or more minutes of Kegels.

5. Conscious breathing patterns.

6. Movement, stretching, and/or dancing.

7. Sounds, moans, and laughter.

8. Quiet for the last five minutes of each session.

9. Reflection and note taking after each session.

Sometimes Orgasmic Yoga sessions include:

1. Internal and/or external anal play.

2. Use of toys or vibrators.

3. Specially chosen music.

4. Invited witnesses.

5. Other practitioners.

6. Video cameras.

I’ve created 30 unique Orgasmic Yoga practices for your body, heart, and soul that will stretch you as a sexual and spiritual being. I recommend that you do them consecutively so as the practices are designed to build on one another.

While Orgasmic Yoga is practiced where you are at – solo or with the companions you choose, this book is written with solo practitioners in mind. Feel free to modify the practices to suit your needs including doing them with your partner if you wish. Be creative and have fun! The building blocks of this practice include: the conscious use of our pelvic floor muscles, breath, sound, touch, movement, and intention. Even though fantasy is presented as part of our Ecstatic Toolbox, it is not encouraged in Orgasmic Yoga.

Although Orgasmic Yoga is a practice, the main goal is to focus on being rather than doing. You are encouraged to rest quietly for at least five minutes at the end of each session. This will increase your chances of reintegrating everything that came up during the session.

As Joseph says so well and whose wisdom I am truly beginning to appreciate:

Change the way you masturbate and you’d change your life.

As you journey through this book, be patient, open-minded, and be mindful of every step forward you take – no matter how small it may seem. It takes a brave person to go somewhere untraveled. Things may come up as you continue on this journey. You will never be the same again.

More Light on Masturbation

This book is all about masturbation, or rather mindful masturbation. Before delving deeper into Orgasmic Yoga, let’s just get clear on: What is Masturbation?

Masturbation is self-stimulation for sexual pleasure. All parts of the body may be stimulated, but usually the genitals are the focus. When men masturbate, they usually stimulate the shaft, and head of the penis that are also stimulated during intercourse. When women masturbate, the parts most often touched are the clitoral glans and shaft. These parts are often left unstimulated during penile-vaginal thrusting movements.

One usually masturbates with the intention of a destination, of going somewhere, primarily orgasm. This is a goal-oriented approach to masturbation of which many people would ask, Isn’t that the whole point? Does it have to be? Let’s stay curious.

Masturbation is also known as:

Self-sexuality

Self-pleasuring

Solo-sex

Sex without a partner

Playing with yourself

Jacking off

Jilling off

Whacking off

Diddling, fiddling, twiddling/ yourself and…

A sin.