Learn to Orgasm in 4 Acts

By Betty Dodson

This Handbook is for:

Women of all ages
Sex therapists
Sex educators
Clinical psychologists
Massage therapists
Marriage counselors
Medical students
College and university sexuality classes
Women’s organizations
Women’s studies courses
Women’s health clinics
Professional Sex Coaches
All Interested Persons

This ebook includes examples of several of Betty's sex coaching sessions with private clients. Each client is asked to email a thumbnail sketch of her sexlife; starting with masturbation and age of first partnersex and anything else she wants to share. We then discuss her current sex life and what she hopes to achieve.

During our conversation, I share a few personal things to eliminate the distance between “patient” and “doctor.” We are women together who have both struggled to become and remain orgasmic in a repressive society.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Betty A Dodson Foundation Inc.
• Release date: Mar 12, 2013
• ISBN: 9780578121406

Betty Dodson

Betty Dodson, artist, author, and PhD sexologist has been one of the principal voices for women's sexual pleasure and health for over three decades. Dodson had the first one-woman show of erotic art in ’68 in nyc followed by three others. She produced and presented the first feminist slide show of vulvas at the 1973 NOW Sexuality Conference in New York where she introduced the electric vibrator as a pleasure device. For 25 years, she ran Bodysex groups where women learned about their bodies and orgasms through the practice of self-stimulation. Her first book, Liberating Masturbation: A Meditation on Selflove (’74) became a feminist classic. Sex for One (’87) sold over a million copies. Orgasms for Two (’02) embraces partner sex. Most recently she released My Romantic Love Wars: A Sexual Memoir that details her experiences with America's Sexual Revolution, the women's movement and her feminist sexual activism with bodysex groups that she conducted for 25 years. She has authored numerous articles on the subject of women’s sexual pleasure and orgasm. In 1994, she earned a PhD in clinical sexology. Dodson has presented at conferences for sexual scientists, therapists, and psychologists. In 2011, she was given the public service award from SSSS's (Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality) and the MASTERS AND JOHNSON AWARD presented by SSTAR (Society for Sex Therapy and Research). She is thrilled to be joining the ranks of these accomplished academics.

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Betty Dodson Presents

Learn to Orgasm in 4 Acts

Orgasm Practice for Women

Copyright 2013 Betty Dodson

Smashwords Edition

All rights reserved. No part of this book may be used or reproduced in any manner whatsoever including Internet usage, without written permission of the author.

This Handbook is for:

Women of all ages

Sex therapists

Sex educators

Clinical psychologists

Massage therapists

Marriage counselors

Medical students

College and university sexuality classes

Women’s organizations

Women’s studies courses

Women’s health clinics

Professional Sex Coaches

All Interested Persons

The purpose of this handbook is to help women of all ages learn how to enjoy sex more thoroughly. Dr. Dodson’s method of hands-on sex coaching has enabled countless women to develop basic pleasure skills that have enhanced their experience of orgasm. Now with this straight-forward guide and DVD you can explore sexual skills in the privacy of your bedroom. From inexperienced girls to postmenopausal women, this easy step-by-step process will show you how to develop and refine a selfloving practice that will gradually enable you to build higher levels of sexual excitement. You will learn to enjoy fuller orgasms more consistently or discover how to have your first orgasm. Just remember, each orgasm is good for your health.

Each section incorporates the following:

Guidance about the topic.

Recommended exercises.

A Self-Loving Play in Four Acts

One for the clitty

Two for the vulva show

Three to get ready

Four to go

Making a Commitment to Sexual Pleasure

Congratulations! You have just taken the first step in owning your sexuality. How many times have you been told by a well-meaning friend, a lover or your therapist to masturbate and learn to have an orgasm? But how do you go about performing an activity that you’ve been taught to avoid or one that causes discomfort or guilt feelings? Maybe you’ve tried stimulating your genitals and nothing much happened so you quit. Perhaps you’ve experienced a small response but have no idea whether or not it was an orgasm or how to increase pleasurable sensations. Now you can claim your sexuality and generate your own orgasmic pleasures.

While these skills will not necessarily replace therapy, they can speed up the process. It has been clinically proven that ongoing experiences of orgasm improves our over-all health and adds an important dimension to every woman’s self-esteem. Sexual fulfillment provides a sense of wholeness and feelings of happiness. Be sure to include my books Sex for One and Orgasms for Two as resource material. You can access more information at: www.dodsonandross.com

What is Hands-on Sexuality Training?

My method of teaching grew out of the workshops I created for women in the seventies. The Bodysex Groups began with each woman sharing how she felt about her body and her orgasm. We then took turns viewing our genitals in a free-standing mirror using both hands as I sat alongside each woman pointing out the beautiful form of her vulva. The other women saw a range of vulva styles that reassured them their unique forms were all valid. The second day was a group masturbation celebration that lasted two or more hours where we saw the diversity of women’s orgasms. We ended with group massage. Publicity about my Bodysex Groups shocked many, others were titillated, but it greatly informed those of us who took part in this bold experiment. The workshops gave me twenty-some years of unique fieldwork which became the basis for my PhD degree in sexology.

Today I work with individual women, a workshop for one. Similar to a personal trainer, I observe, and refine each client’s masturbation skills. I also encourage clients to go beyond their current boundaries of tolerating pleasurable sensations. Now you can be your own Sex Teacher and learn these skills at home with this Handbook and DVD. Any man who is interested in improving his own orgasms and sexual skills can change the pronouns she and her to his and him" and join in. Just remember— the first rule of pleasure is not to be so goal oriented that you forget to enjoy yourself.

Be Your Own Sex Coach

Take control of your sexual pleasure by becoming responsible for creating your own orgasms through self-stimulation. First, let’s get rid of some of the old moralistic garbage. Touching yourself is not a sin otherwise the Creator would have made your arms shorter. As an adult, you no longer need to look to your partner to provide all of your orgasms. It’s nice when it happens but don’t hold your breath waiting for the next orgasm from partnersex to magically appear. It’s never too soon or too late to take charge of your own sexual pleasures.

A Sexual Bill of Rights:

I deserve sexual pleasure.

I can have as many orgasms as I want.

I am responsible for knowing how to create my orgasms.

I release my shame and other people’s judgments about masturbation

I make a commitment to practice these sexual skills.

Exercise: Let’s Begin

Read the sexual Bill of Rights several times.

Dare yourself to say them OUT LOUD!

Say them again with more conviction.

Write a short essay based upon your sexual history

As you proceed, you may discover an internal argument – your head says one thing and your body says another. To manage this conflict, tell yourself: Do it! Say it many times while you release judgments. Never wait to feel physical desire before having sex with yourself. It’s like going to the gym: it’s always difficult to get there, but once you succeed, the benefits are worth it. Do it! Do it because it feels good! Do it because it’s fun! Do it because it’s healthy!

One for the Clitty

Your clitoris is the star of the show. Despite ample evidence that the whole clitoris with approximately 8 thousand nerve endings is your primary sex organ, many believe that a woman should be able to orgasm from vaginal intercourse