How to Be Married & Happy

By Sterling Mealancon

This book was written to help couples have a great and successful relationship. If you are married you and your spouse will learn to understand each other at new and deeper levels. If you are planning to get married, you can begin laying the ground work today for a successful marriage .

• Language: English
• Publisher: BookBaby
• Release date: Sep 4, 2017
• ISBN: 9781945454073

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God desires our families to be blessed. Not to give too much credit to the enemy, but he has been attacking our families. He has attacked husbands, wives, children and the family structure as a whole, which has lead to chaos and disturbances in our lives today. God did not create the household unit to have bickering, turmoil and over-bearing fighting, which causes major issues in marriage. It was not God’s plan for us as believers to have to go to work and deal with so much stress, anger and disrespect on our job, just to have to endure marital issues at home. It conflicts with the love and joy HE has expressed in HIS Word that we are supposed to have.

When you make it home from a busy day of work, your habitation should be a place of rest not a place of frustration.

The truth of the matter regarding marriage is that conflict is common in all marriages. It is inevitable to have two selfish people with different backgrounds and personalities disagree on certain topics. Now add some bad habits and interesting eccentricities to the mix, throw in a bunch of expectations, and turn up the heat a little with the daily trials of life. Boom! Now you have a recipe for an explosive disagreement due to unnecessary conflicts.

The struggle with conflict can lead to a development of oneness or isolation. One reason we have conflict in marriage is that opposites attract. It’s important to understand these differences, and then learn to accept and adjust to them. God’s Word says He will bless those who bless you, and whoever curses you, He will curse; and all peoples (families) on earth He desires for everyone to be blessed. We get a better understanding from the help of pastors, teachers and the Bible on how God wants all families to be blessed through the seed of Abraham.

Characteristics of Living a Blessed Life

•Forgiving One Another

•Walking in Meekness

•Humility

•Showing Love and Tender Mercies to Others

•Longsuffering

•Comforting One Another

•Helping and Supporting One Another

•Being Thankful and Grateful

•Teaching Others What You’ve Learned

When you have dealt with turmoil for an extended period of time, you mentally start accepting and believing that this is the way life is supposed to be. Unfortunately, even other married couples may say things to you like this, Well, you have to deal with certain things in marriage. Or, I have been dealing with this for thirty years. Please understand; God does not want you to be in thirty years of hell.

Our God has the loving desire for us all to operate in a spirit of unity, oneness and peace. Some of you have been in challenging family relationships for a long time and God says it is time to change your conditions for the better.

In some families, when you hear the mention of a person’s name, you automatically connect them with drama. This specific family member is known for causing trouble and chaos in the family. The family has to set boarders and parameters in place to protect and uphold specific standards from outside influences.

Maintaining harmony in marriage has been difficult since the existence of Adam and Eve. The answer for ending selfishness is found in Jesus and His teachings. He showed us that instead of wanting to be first, we must be willing to be last. Instead of wanting to be served, we must serve. Instead of trying to save our lives, we must lose ourselves in Him. We must love our neighbors (our spouses) as much as we love ourselves.

We all want different things at different times, but we must have rules and structure as well. To experience holistic agreement of oneness, you must give up your will for the will of another. For some, it takes longer to really understand and walk in the grace of generosity and selflessness. It truly begins with the ability to give up your will