Know the Enemy and Nuke Them: How not to be controlled, bullied & manipulated

By Drew Liddle

- Do you suspect you have enemies?
- Do you want to put yourself beyond their reach?
- Do you want to get even with them - or more?

Then Know The Enemy And Nuke Them is for you! By the author of the acclaimed The Positivity Effect, this groundbreaking follow-up explains how having enemies in all shapes and sizes is part of modern-day life and how we must identify them and combat them. Are you spurred on by a desire to succeed but being held back by toxic foes, then here is the definitive guide to going to war against them and achieving your goals through confidence and strategy.

A step-by-step guide to every part of the process from identifying the enemy to ‘nuking’ them, this course offers clear explanations about how to raise your self-esteem, both passively and actively, and how to target the enemy before they target you. Employing a unique synthesis of sound judgement, informed insight and cutting edge psychotherapy, it will equip you with everything you need to survive and succeed in the human jungle.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Drew Liddle
• Release date: Feb 17, 2017
• ISBN: 9781370121939

Drew Liddle

Dr Drew Liddle has written several works of self-help non-fiction under his own name and a great deal of genre fiction and children's fiction under a variety of pseudonyms. In a long and diverse career, he has been a grave-digger, a lorry-driver, a university lecturer, school teacher, journalist, advertising copywriter and management consultant. He has travelled widely and broadcast regularly. He is an acknowledged authority on early Jazz and writes a monthly Jazz column.

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KNOW THE ENEMY

AND NUKE THEM

how not to be controlled, bullied & manipulated

DREW LIDDLE PH.D

Published by DREW LIDDLE

Copyright 2017 DREW LIDDLE

Published by DREW LIDDLE

Copyright 2017 DREW LIDDLE

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Contents

About the book

About the author

Why I Wrote This Book

An entirely new approach

Enemies? How many have you got at the moment?

Know the real enemy

Getting Started

What might make somebody dislike you or really want to be your enemy?

Seeing things more clearly?

Prioritise - and eliminate the faux enemy

Management Structures

Friends as enemies

So do you really have any enemies out there at this time?

Could it be your enemy is just another Control Freak?

The Controller

Up close and personal

What are these lies?

What if you’re the boss?

So, are you being bullied?

The enemy as bully

Pragmatic approach or decisive action?

Legitimate avenues of complaint and redress

Speak to your enemy

What do you say at the meeting?

Why you are probably unlikely to have such a meeting

Why it might work

Enemies: the real facts of life

Prevention is better than cure

Target Denial

Signs of an adversary in the making

The first meeting and introduction

The early stages and what to look out for: the ten pointers

The Controller confirmed

The Manipulator

Do some research

Know your adversary!

Displacement Activities

The Cognitive-Behavioural approach

Your Journal

Raising our self-esteem

How do we know if we have low esteem?

Is there anything you can do about it?

You are young?

You are healthy

You are attractive

You are rich

You have a situation

You are famous

You are successful

Never forget for one moment

Get angry if it helps

A session of self-hypnosis therapy

Putting the enemy to the test

All systems go! Let’s do it

The question of timing

Do not back down

What is the next stage?

So what is the nuclear option?

Can I claim compensation?

What happens if I win?

The Toxic Discriminations

The new YOU

About the book

This book is written for a global audience with one very simple aim – to enable you to identify your enemies and to beat them out of sight. It assumes that at some time in life everybody will find themselves with enemies but few will know exactly how to deal with them.

Drawing on both theory and practice, this is a simple course but one that is guaranteed to change profoundly the course of your life, regardless of how old you are, how many or how few qualifications you have and how much or how little you have achieved to date.

Give it a go, treat it as an encouraging companion, and consider the author as your combative ally, coach, wise counsellor and personal motivator. Although in places it draws on modern psychological cognitive development and self-hypnosis theories, it is written in a simple, jargon-free way, accessible to everyone of any age or background. Even those fortunate enough to have no current enemies will find benefit from having their personal self-esteem raised.

Though measured, wide-ranging and systematic, it is punchy and to the point. It does not fill up space with that kind of corny, simplistic advice to just stand up to the enemy, or with accounts of other people’s experience. It tells you how to know your enemies, target them and turn the tables on them. It pulls no punches in wising you up on how to ‘nuke’ your enemies, blast them to oblivion.

About the author

Dr. Drew Liddle has drawn on the experiences of a lifetime to write this book, the follow-up to his highly regarded The Positivity Effect. The author of numerous textbooks and seven works of popular fiction, he has also taught school, been a university lecturer, journalist, adman and management consultant. He is well known as a theatre critic and as a published authority on Jazz.

Currently, he is heavily involved with English as a second language and the psychology of learning.

Why I Wrote This Book

As the train pulls into Queens, it rises out of the city’s depths to a breathtaking sunlit view of the Manhattan skyline. The world is wonderful, or should be, but nobody is taking the slightest notice and they all seem to be dreading something.

It’s 7 a.m., Monday morning, and I’m on the subway, heading downtown on the 45-minute commute. I’m a people-watcher, always have been and it’s part of my job. I watch people coming aboard at every station, squeezing into the overcrowded car, in search of a strap to hang on.

What takes hold of me as I consider the tumult getting off being replaced by the ruckus getting on is the feeling that they all look not only exhausted but worried, somehow. It’s a bright summer’s day but they look worse than before the weekend. They’ve got that Monday morning feeling.

Common to all these sharp-suited company men and women, these sturdy manual workers in high-vis yellow, these denim-clad students, nearly everyone absorbed in their cell-phones, is that no one looks remotely happy. They’re all going about their regular business, pursuing their ideas of good living and happiness with varying degrees of success, but they are not bright-eyed and hopeful. They should be. Why aren’t they?

For a moment it seems inconceivable that they might all be frightened of something, maybe the same thing.

Surely none of these busy go-getters in this, the world’s greatest city, in these modern politically correct times, should be in fear of checking into work or college.

I get out at my station and meet a baglady by the newsstand. She’s the first happy face I’ve seen today. She’s not got a penny in the world, by the look of her, but I’m betting she’s not got an enemy either. And then it comes to me: the people I am seeing must have enemies. I see the same haunted faraway look in their eyes that I’ve noted on the faces of the victims of bullying I’ve worked with in the past.

And what’s more these people, intelligent co-operative adults, probably do not even know they are running scared of their enemies, the ones who are controlling them and manipulating them and, obviously, depressing them.

Then I wonder if every day from all the subways and metros and undergrounds and u-bahns of the world people come teeming out in the same mood. Why am I only considering the modern metropolitan types? What about in New Hampshire or old Hampshire, England; or Halifax, Nova Scotia or Halifax, Yorkshire, England; or Granada or Grenada. Might the people who live in these places and, indeed, even in the remotest parts of the world, also have their enemies? Maybe we all do.

And so I wrote this book to examine the enemy all around us, the enemy within, the enemy who is out to get us – and how we should deal with them, blast them out of existence, if necessary.

An entirely new approach

There are a million of those self-help manuals out there. So what’s different about this one? It’s the only one that starts off with the premise that we all, even the most inoffensive of us, have enemies. Are you fed up with being disliked, hated, bullied through no fault of your own? Do you resent having fun made of you, being provoked, being routinely humiliated? Have you taken as much as you can stand of the metaphorical sand being kicked in your face? Do you want to fight back right now? Then this book is for you?

And by the way, I don’t divide it into chapters, the sort of arrangement we as readers have become conditioned to expecting. It is written to resemble a continuous conversation with you, often in the form of question and answer. I want you to immerse yourself in it, thinking about how what I am saying applies to you and responding to the questions. Break off only at times that are natural to you, or when I ask you to carry out a task – not look for some kind of arbitrary break at the end of a chapter as a sign to pause.

When you’ve read it you will feel stronger, happier, much less vulnerable. Your new-found confidence will enable you to stand up to your adversaries and assert yourself. It will be easier than you ever thought possible. I will guide you with advice and through practical exercises to a better understanding of why we all have enemies, the many and different guises they come in and how we can combat them.

You will learn to laugh at them, dismiss them as beneath your contempt, turn the tables on them and, if necessary, ‘nuke’ them’.

My book is not like the rest. It’s not full of those agonising accounts of the Brionies, Poppies and Sams of the world, those deeply troubled individuals who are said to have come to the author with their problems and been cured. Their problems are not your problems – and I suspect most of them have been made up, anyway. I don’t use words like ‘holistic’, ‘paradigms’ or ‘mindstream’ and blag on about left brain and right brain and all that twaddle. I don’t draw mind maps, flow charts and diagrams, produce charts and tables. What good are they, I ask you, in combating an enemy that is physically and emotionally impacting you? In my experience battles are never won on paper.

Neither do I show any interest in your past beyond finding out whether it is a lack of self-esteem that is causing you to be targeted and controlled. Maybe you were bullied in childhood but so what? That’s in the past and I am only concerned for the future.