Over 70 And I Don't Mean MPH
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A collection of short essays, Over 70 And I Don't Mean MPH: Reflections on the Gift of Lengevity is written with humor, insight, and compassion. Reynolds journey from young old to middle old is beautifully honest and simply hilarious.
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Over 70
and I Don’t
Mean MPH
Reflections on the Gift of Longevity
By Marilyn Reynolds
Morning Glory Press
Buena Park, California
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Contents
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Preface 1 On Approaching Seventy 5
Fear of the Downhill Slide 13
Taking Care of Business 18
My Body Myself 25
The Ever Present Past 30
Jack LaLanne Conjures Past Times 37
Senior Moments 41
Stuck in the 20th Century 43
To See Ourselves as Others See Us? Maybe Not a Good Idea 46
The Big Questions — My So-Called Spiritual Journey 50
Just a Thought — More of How Others See Us Or . . .
Fantasies of a Misunderstood Oldster 57
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It’s a Big World After All 61
Reinvention Ruminations 70
Reinvention — The Reality 78
Grandparents’ Day 85
Reinvention Reality — My Favorite Flower 89
The Gifts of Longevity 95
My So-Called Spiritual Journey — Part II 103
Acknowledgements
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For early and late draft readings, insights and encouragement, and general help along the way, I am ever grateful to Dale Dodson, Marg Dodson, Kathy Harvey, Karen Kasaba, Judy Laird, Barbara Lazar, Kathy Riskin Orihuela, Rodolfo Orihuela, Sharon Reynolds Kyle, Matthew Reynolds, Leesa Phaneuf Reynolds, Marilyn Sandbom, Bill Schmidt and Jeannie Ward.
A heartfelt thank you to Jeanne Warren Lindsay for going the extra mile.
Cast
of Mostly Recurring Characters
Michael Reynolds, husband
Dale Dodson, brother
Margaret Dodson, Dale’s wife, my sister-in-law
Matthew Reynolds, son
Leesa Phaneuf Reynolds, Matt’s wife, my daughter-in-law
Mika, Matt and Leesa’s daughter, my granddaughter
Sharon Reynolds-Kyle, daughter
Doug Kyle, Sharon’s husband, my son-in-law
Subei and Lena, Sharon and Doug’s daughters, my granddaughters
Cindi Foncannon, daughter
Ashley DiFalco, Cindi’s daughter, my granddaughter
Kerry Foncannon, Cindi’s son, my grandson
Sunny Merrit, slightly larger than miniature Schnauzer in residence
In a Category All Her Own
Mimi Avocada, my own personal Grand Goddess of the Harmonic Universe, who revealed herself to me during a time of significant stress. I you simply can’t wait for a more complete explanation, jump ahead to page 103
Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget to sing in the lifeboats.
Voltaire, Candide
Preface
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When I first set out to write this, I saw it as a light-hearted look at moving from the middle-age
category to the old- age
category — a personal accounting, but also a recognition of concerns and experiences common to most at this stage of life. I would not deny the travails of old age, or put too light a spin on the inevitable deterioration and death that waits around some not too distant corner, but I would also, mainly, bask in the joy of having become old in a way that had not been within the reach of our grandparents or even our parents.
In addition to being insightful and entertaining (words I hoped to read from reviewers) I also saw it as something of an example for the Baby Boomers who are still mostly reeling in disbelief that the oldest of them have now reached the dreaded senior citizen category.
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I watch them watching me, these half-generation younger friends, comparing my seventies to their parents’ seventies, and I know that my example shines a ray of hope onto the unreasonable fear of aging they’ve held since first realizing that they, too, would reach the over-thirty age of untrustworthiness.
The intended consistently light tone, with just a sprinkling of the unavoidable poignancy that comes from knowing the end is relatively near, took a turn when it became increasingly obvious that my husband Mike’s difficulties tracking the details difficulties tracking the details of everyday life were more than his artist’s personality
could account for. In July or 2009, shortly after his 69th birthday, Mike was diagnosed with FrontoltemporalDementia (FTD), a lesser-known form of dementia than Alzheimer’s, but equally devastating. My husband and partner of forty-one years soon lost his capacity to function independently and I fell into the role of caregiver, a role we’re hearing more and more about these days.
At first I tried to include in this work-in-progress examples of the daily heartbreaks and challenges of life with an FTD partner. To ignore the burden of caregiving in this middle-old time smacked of a Pollyannaish dishonesty. But even though my life included the humor, joys, and ironies of aging, along with the depth of sorrow and loss that came with Mike’s rapid and devastating deterioration, try as I might I simply could not include both sides of my life, here, in this one book, in a way that did justice to either side.
The ongoing story of Mike’s shift from a bright, funny, talented man to a volatile, barely verbal, helpless shell of himself is for the next book, Til Death or Dementia Do Us Part, available September, 2017.
In the meantime, what follows is in keeping with my original intention, reflections on the mostly lighter side of aging, coupled with the recognition that nothing lasts.
Marilyn Reynolds, December, 2011
On Approaching Seventy
September 2004
A year from now I’ll hit the seventy mark. I’ve been in the category of young-old
for the past five years and at seventy I’ll go up a category to middle-old.
Seventy brings with it a certain drama, and it’s got me thinking of my own mortality in ways that are much less abstract than they once were. I’m also noticing in myself, and in other young-old friends, a tendency to contemplate the lives of those that came before us. I drag out pictures of my mother at seventy and take heart that I don’t look nearly as old as she did then. Maybe that’s a sign that I won’t be hit by a stroke at the age of seventy-eight as was she — that I won’t slip into the dementia that ultimately left her sitting immobilized in her wheel chair, knowing nothing of the people or the world around her. From this nearly seventy perspective, thoughts of my grandmother take on a different hue. Where I once thought of her mostly in relation to myself, simply as my Granny, I now try to piece together what her life was like as she approached seventy. Feeling myself drawn back to times with her, and also to times of my youth, I choose as a place for my sixty- ninth birthday getaway a place that I know will evoke those times — Newport Dunes.
It isn’t until we’re lined up with all the other Orange County destined C
passengers at Southwest Airlines that Mike notices the RV designation on our resort reservation. I allow as how our reserved cottage
is more likely to be of the pre-built type than of the quaint ivy covered white frame style he may have envisioned.
We’re staying in a trailer?
he asks, his normally sweet tenor voice approaching a not very pretty soprano range.
As with most marriages, our communication effectiveness ebbs and flows depending on our individual responsibilities, our moods and efforts, or perhaps the moon and stars. We’ve just come through a period of several weeks when any attempt I made to reveal to Mike my deepest thoughts were met with a blank stare, indicating that whatever was going on in his head was much more compelling to him than anything coming out of my mouth. To be fair, I know there are times when our behaviors are reversed, and I stay caught in my own head, but that story is for another time, say when rhinos fly.
Anyway, while Mike was living in his own psychic world and giving distracted uh-huhs to whatever I had to say, I arranged our Newport Dunes getaway. His getaway preference would have been the Surf-n-Sand at Laguna Beach, but at this stage of our lives it seems foolish to spend one whole month’s worth of my meager teaching retirement income on two days at a posh beachfront hotel when, for a