Coming To Peace: Part 2 - "Snowball of Lies" ~ A True Story ~ Love, Dating & Relationships

By Jimmy Andrews

How many of you have what's called a, "relationship history"? That so called, list of names or "black book" of past experiences that you keep secret? You treat it like a resume of sorts that you keep updated with, "only the relationships that count". These so called, “loves” that you have stashed away help you to compare against the "significant(s)" you are currently with. Some bring emotional baggage with them that you are determined to not re-experience in your current relationship. Of course I understand... I get it, whatever the case is for why you keep this list around it can be pretty enlightening to look at; but when we break out of this list generating cycle and choose not to add any more names to it, things that weren't clear before, become clear. The understanding you once were seeking, is now understood and the heartbreak and loss you once experience, is now gone... or is it?

... follow this intense and emotional true story of a person's journey to Come To Peace with their relationships. Experience how to breakup, NOT breakup with someone and get broken up on. Told from the redeemed perspective of the narrator; the lessons they learned are clear as they take you through the critical points of each relationship while making you feel as if you were there making the decisions for yourself. Let your emotions rise as you feel the, "what would you do" experience and the unthinkable roller-coaster ride of what actually happens. Live the journey in "real-time", experience the adventure and learn from the mistakes of someone that has already gone through the ugly. Yes! Just when you thought you had heard it all, you haven't. Pray that your relationships never end up like any of these... There are certainly red flags that are pointed out in the book and something to take away from each relationship described. The book is different for everyone, may you find your own peace as you read this story.

Testimonials:

“...it's fun... and getting ridiculously interesting...” ~ Kris M.

“Definitely a shock factor... Hold on to your pants people, it's getting exciting... Such a curve-ball! ...this my friends is intriguing!!” ~ Sarah H.

“Very Intriguing... This is Wild!” ~ Derek B.

“A cry for help... I'm still very intrigued and interested in what's going to be the outcome of all this! We often attempt to reach out for help in dangerous ways. I’m looking forward to hearing more! Next book please!” ~ Anonymous

“My mind is wondering and thinking, oh, the possibilities, twist and turns!” ~ Anonymous

“This is intense, I mean it! As a woman I would have handled things similar in one situation but would have done more!!!!” ~ Anonymous

“I did not see the twists coming...” ~ Jeff M.

“I want to smack you. LOL!! Karma is real and it is coming back at you full throttle...!” ~ Anonymous

About The Author:

Author, Jimmy Andrews knows how to tell a story and shares a unique one in this series of “true story”, reflective books on people that have gone through life’s toughest issues and their journey to Come To Peace with them. Urged by a following of people that have heard his stories, Andrews shares them with us, using laugh-out-loud humor, relatable characters, situations and intriguing twists and turns that leave you mesmerized asking, “How could this happen in real life?”

Andrews has lived a life at the age of 30 that most people would take their entire life to entertain. Not a religious man when he first starting writing this book, but experienced a calling by God by the time he finished it. Andrews reflects on his story as he narrates the account in his book, “Coming To Peace, Teardrops of Reflection”. He believes that, “God has a message for everyone, “...specifically for them” in this series.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Jimmy Andrews
• Release date: Mar 31, 2016
• ISBN: 9781310790621

Jimmy Andrews

Author, Jimmy Andrews knows how to tell a story and shares a unique one in this series of “true story”, reflective books on people that have gone through life’s toughest issues and their journey to Come To Peace with them. Urged by a following of people that have heard his stories, Andrews shares them with us, using laugh-out-loud humor, relatable characters, situations and intriguing twists and turns that leave you mesmerized asking, “How could this happen in real life?”Andrews has lived a life at the age of 30 that most people would take their entire life to entertain. Not a religious man when he first starting writing this book, but experienced a calling by God by the time he finished it. Andrews reflects on his story as he narrates the account in his book, “Coming To Peace, Teardrops of Reflection”. He believes that, “God has a message for everyone, “...specifically for them” in this series.

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Comments from readers who have helped us with the series…

…it's fun… and getting ridiculously interesting… ~ Kris M.

Definitely a shock factor… Hold on to your pants people, it's getting exciting... Such a curveball! I have to admit, I am not a reader, even through my under grad and grad… but this my friends is intriguing!! I want to hear more of Jimmy’s struggle and inner thoughts as well - on how he moves forward through life from this point in time! ~ Sarah H.

Very Intriguing… This is Wild! ~ Derek B.

A cry for help… I'm still very intrigued and interested in what's going to be the outcome of all this! We often attempt to reach out for help in dangerous ways. I’m looking forward to hearing more! Next book please! ~ Anonymous

My mind is wondering and thinking, oh, the possibilities, twist and turns! ~ Anonymous

"This is intense, I mean it! As a woman I would have handled things similar in one situation but would have done more!!!!"

~ Anonymous

I did not see the twists coming… ~ Jeff M.

I want to smack you. LOL!! Karma is real and it is coming back at you full throttle...! ~ Anonymous

You really start to recognize the true depth in this… I can see the wheels turning and the remorse truly starting to set in… I can relate. It's hard to express some things that are the root of the issue with people you care about because we don't want to hurt them or be judged. ~ Anonymous

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Coming To Peace The Snowball of Lies

By Jimmy Andrews

Copyright © 2016 Coming To Peace

1st Edition

All rights reserved.

ISBN: 9781310790621

Coming To Peace

- Part 2 -

The Snowball of Lies

~ A True Story ~

1st Edition

By Jimmy Andrews

Table of Contents

DEDICATION

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

Chapter 14 Being Fair To Yourself

Chapter 15 The Silence of Time

Chapter 16 The Light In Her Eyes

Chapter 17 A Georgia Peach

Chapter 18 The First Snowflake

Chapter 19 The Talk

Chapter 20 Short Sale

Chapter 21 Hail Mary

Chapter 22 The Snowball of Lies

Chapter 23 Road Trip

Chapter 24 Split Life

Chapter 25 Fading Away

Chapter 26 Men Are Like Waffles

Chapter 27 The Talk… Really This Time

Chapter 28 Broken

Chapter 29

About Coming To Peace

Author’s Notes About Writing

Rules For Writing This Book

Introduction

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

DEDICATION

To my dad for always saying, Don’t do that!

Well dad… I did it!

And for telling me that you would laugh and let me off the hook for anything I did wrong if I ever said,

It sounded like a good idea at the time …

Well dad… now that I’ve told my life story, let me cash it in and now say… it all sounded like a good idea at the time…

And to all the women for whom this book could not have been written without because of all the drama and justifiable reasons why we are no longer in each other’s lives…

Thank you, I am finally at peace…

… and I pray the same for you.

And to all those that are struggling with life’s losses… and for everyone that has ever experienced a broken heart…

May God be left glorified… and the message He has for you be received in the manner in which it was intended.

ACKNOWLEDGMENTS

Thank you to everyone that contributed to the making of this book series and especially to:

Michelle Willmore – The 1st person that was there for me through it all and told me that my life was a movie.

Chris C. – My best friend with a huge heart that wanted nothing more than to support me through this and for providing your musical talent and straight forward, no non-sense counselling.

Mr. & Mrs. W. – The 1st people that saw the benefit this story was to others and invested in it.

Sarah H. – An old friend who’s interest sparked my motivation.

Jenae M. – A big hearted individual who’s love for people shined through.

Kris M. – The lady that wanted to punch me in the face when she first met me because of how frustrated she felt after hearing my story. That’s when I 1st knew that this book elicited a strong emotional response and had potential. Also, thank you for being a soloist on our soundtrack.

Jeff M. – For letting me know that this story was just as much a story for guys as it was for women.

Tonja H. – For recognizing that I had talent as a writer.

Katie T. – For always believing in me.

Chica. – Because you may not say much, but what you do say packs a punch. Thanks for the room and for listening.

B. Rad – To an awesome roommate. I owe you more than a 6-Pack for that night! Thanks for the insight.

Derek Baker – Because you knew this would be a great story before I did and wouldn’t let me stop writing it.

Chantel V. – Because you know.

Chris B. - For holding down the fort and giving me hope through the darkest times.

Aaron F. – Even if you didn’t believe me at the time, for just being there for a brother.

Barbara G. – For helping me put this all together.

Philana A. - For showing me that there is an unlimited level of love that you can provide someone while maintaining healthy boundaries.

Kenny O. (K.O.) – Bro, for looking out and risking it all. You’re like a big brother, I owe you.

Angus S. – For showing me that there is a greater purpose for this book and forcing me to pick it back up to finish.

Lawrence Y. – Lawrence Strong! And the Weekend That Helped You Realize It!

Mom – For showing me, unconditional love exists. Even in this.

CTP Prayer Team – For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them. ~ Matthew 18:20

Esther P. – Because even after all this… you stand with me.

Jesus Christ - For saving me in the middle of writing this book.

Chapter 14

Being Fair To Yourself

I tried to tell you previously that you might have to put the book down for a few days to regain your composure from the events that happened or were about to unfold... Let me assure you, we haven’t even warmed up yet. But I did have to make sure you were prepared for the next part of this story because it may be too much for most people to handle by reading straight through. So just in case you didn’t take a moment for yourself prior to getting to this point, I did it for you with this break between chapters.

The next part of my life is a lot to take in all at once, so before continuing, I encourage you to at least grab a glass of water, go out to the gym, or for a walk and get your body moving. Be refreshed, because what’s coming up next might hurt a little bit, get you emotionally charged in one way or another… possibly even hit home and that sensitive spot in your heart, or deeply move you to tears… So please, take a break if you haven’t already…. a deep breath… and read on… but don’t say I didn’t warn you… and please put the book down if you need to. But do pick it back up; because I promise you, it will get better, it always does…

……… DEEP BREATH ……….

Being fair to yourself…

It’s a selfish desire that makes you feel as though you deserve something better than what you already have. Kind of ironic when you think about it… it’s a self-fulfilling prophesy to finally attain what you have ever longed for, for so long. An age old adage comes to mind, Be careful what you wish for…because sometimes, you end up getting it, to only realize that when you do, it’s not what you really wanted. Instead, it ends up being a curse… and unfortunately, what you ended up getting didn’t turn out, or happen like how you had first initially envisioned it… forcing you to give up more than what you had bargained for… to get what you thought you, really needed.

Yes, it was a curse…and this next day… (deep breath)

I had gotten what I asked for… a way to move on and get out of my relationship with Jessica. But when it happened, I was not prepared for it. I was left paralyzed; finally looking back and realizing that what we had, was a good thing. And if I could, I would have given anything for us to get it back and be together again… But now, it was too late. The circumstances had changed and I had to move on… we couldn’t be with each other any longer… I had to let go… and…

…if you aren’t following…

Jessica left me that night… she was gone… leaving me alone in this house full of furniture and material things… but yet empty, without her presence. She had slept her last night from inside these walls. Her car still parked in the garage. Her clothes still hanging in the closet, folded in the dresser drawers with our socks intermixed, perfume and makeup still all over the bathroom counter where she had last used them. Shampoo bottle half full with the lid up, pieces of her hair stuck near the shower drain, dishes from her last meal in the sink, and a dried up coffee ring at the bottom of her coffee cup. There were pictures of us hanging on the living room wall from our trip to Puerto Rico that showed her beaming with joy as they reflected the early part of our budding relationship.

… DEEP BREATH …

She was gone… leaving me here to clean up everything. She was the piece that had been a part of me for the past three and a half years and she was gone. It’s such a surreal moment when you lose what you had… especially after realizing that what you had, was what you had been seeking all along. I was stuck… asking myself, Why did she go? Grappling with, Is this what she really wanted? Did she really mean to leave me here with all this? Was she expecting me to follow her? Was she really gone forever?

The bookshelf was still full of her knick-knacks, put there just to fill space. She had always thought it looked nice, but I never understood it. Entertainment center, TV, a closet packed full of random stuff, half mine, half hers, but too much clutter to sort through and take the time to separate. Her laptop on the living room coffee table where she last used it, with the power light fading in and out as it had fallen into sleep mode...

Yes, (another deep breath)… I remember this moment vividly… you have a few of them in your lifetime. Times when you know that your life is on a new journey, it’s that moment you wake up to… a new life, beginning. As unsure as the day you were first born... You just focus on each moment, each breath… because you have found yourself in a new place still trying to get your bearings before you try to move and take your first steps forward.

… exhale …

Some would understand it to be like it was their first day at a new school. Like the day I moved into my college dorm, I looked outside of the window, up on the 13th floor overlooking the campus at ASU. Full of anxiety… realizing, Wow! I’m really on my own, no one here by my side to walk this journey with anymore. Things are going to be different now… I remember saying. Maybe it’s no different than the day you start a new job, get married, or even find out that you are pregnant and expecting for the first time?

No… I assure you, it is different… those moments are filled with hope, anxious joy and maybe even a promise of opportunity. These feelings were a far cry from the loss, regret, fear and grief that I was experiencing as I moved into the next chapter of my life. It was a confusing place to be in, mentally. I couldn’t accept that she was really gone. My heart was split. I had to find a way to make myself believe that I was never going to see her again other than in our last moments together when I got to say my final goodbyes…

This new life that I had to face ahead of me, felt like a divorce from my old one… a disastrous end to a depleted relationship that was once all I ever wanted and desired. Full of disappointment, despair and degraded moments of happiness clouded by the distinct desperation demanded by my inner most desires failing to be met. Damned… to live life unfulfilled knowing that this relationship was never going to be again what I had dreamed.

… regaining composure …

I packed each box that day while saying a thousand little goodbyes. Goodbye to the memories from the picture we took on our first trip out of town. Goodbye to the smell of the ocean breeze coming from her hair as I opened her shampoo bottle. Goodbye to