Girlfag: A Life Told In Sex and Musicals

By Janet W. Hardy

Announcing the long-awaited memoir/exploration by internationally famed Ethical Slut author Janet W. Hardy: Girlfag: A Life Told in Sex and Musicals! Girlfags – women who love, are attracted to, and identify with gay men – are a growing community with a growing voice. Girlfags are not fag hags – fag hags enjoy gay men as company; girlfags enjoy them as bedmates and peers. Girlfags are everywhere. Janet notes, “I get much the same reaction when I mention 'girlfags’ as I used to when I talked about 'ethical sluts’ – a sudden lighting up of the eyes, a giggle, and a startled 'Hey, that’s *me*!'’ And Facebook groups, Yahoo groups, a Wikipedia entry, a Livejournal blog, and a television series called Girls Who Like Boys Who Like Boys offer signs that The Age of the Girlfag is at hand. Janet’s book Girlfag: A Life Told In Sex and Musicals is a memoir, and much more. It visits girlfags past and present (from Pharaoh Hatshepsut through Mary Renault), it meanders through the shifting meanings of gender and orientation, and it spends a whole lot of time at the theater (Janet is not just a girlfag, she’s also a showtune queen).

• Language: English
• Publisher: Beyond Binary Books
• Release date: Mar 4, 2015
• ISBN: 9781938123016

Janet W. Hardy

The author or coauthor of twelve groundbreaking books about relationships and sexuality, including The Ethical Slut (200,000 copies sold to date), Janet has traveled the world as a speaker and teacher on topics ranging from ethical multipartner relationships to erotic spanking and beyond. She has appeared in documentary films (Slut, Beyond Vanilla, Vice and Consent, BDSM: It’s Not What You Think), television shows (SexTV, The Drum), and more radio shows than she can count. Janet's writing has appeared in the New York Times, CNN.com, Salon.com and many more.

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Reviews for Girlfag

[kthxy · Rating: 4 out of 5 stars]

Look. I'm not fine with categorizing bodies into "male" and "female" without the consent of their owners, as happens in this book, or with calling people men or women based on what their bodies look like, or with rhethorical questions about what someone's gender "really" is just to demonstrate how arbitrary gender assignment is.

But. I still really really enjoyed reading this book and I'm very glad that it exists. It's fun, and sad, and relatable, and not-relatable-at-all, and it talks about all those things about sexuality, the ones that are not straightforward. The ones that I relate to, even though I am much younger, my life is much more boring, and my approach to sex quite different.

It's not a theoretical piece on girlfags, but a collection of anecdotes from a genderqueer girlfag's life, and that is both great and a bit confusing. Confusing, because I don't very much feel like I just read something about the topic that the title implies at all. Great, because instead of another stuffy attempt at capturing the essence of what makes a girlfag, this book upens up loads of subjects that are related to it all for this particular girlfag, and might be for others, or might not.

Yeah I like this book.