The Unknown Bridesmaid

By Margaret Forster

When eight-year-old Julia was asked to be a bridesmaid at her beautiful cousin Iris's wedding, she was thrilled. Nothing, not even her mother's resentment of the expensive, inconvenient trip, could dull her excitement. But, when the day finally arrived and she took her cousin's baby on a secret stroll around the block in his pram, her entire world shifted. She couldn't possibly know the impact the fateful trip would have on her future.

A lifetime later, Julia is a child psychologist working with young girls at risk. In her sessions, Julia has a knack for determining which of her young patients are truly troubled, and which are simply at ther mercy of the oppressive adults around them. Margaret Forster weaves a quietly powerful story of the relationship between past and current reality—when Julia's own troubled childhood begins to invade her present and she is forced to confront her relationship with misplaced guilt, the possibility arises that the truth of her past may not be as devastating as she has always feared.

Forster's subtle writing proves the perfect compliment to the darkness of Julia's past, as she tells a story of maturation, reconciliation, and one woman's psychological evolution. The Unknown Bridesmaid explores personal history and familial bonds, guilt and redemption, to reveal that even the seemingly average life is anything but ordinary.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Penguin Group
• Release date: Sep 2, 2014
• ISBN: 9781609452377

Reviews for The Unknown Bridesmaid

[ma_washigeri · Rating: 4 out of 5 stars]

A very clever book and not just clever - the emotions are fully engaged via the intellect. Offers so much food for thought yet so smoothly written that it's a real page turner and hard to put down. In some ways it is the earlier generations that are the protagonists, the grandparents that are dead before the book starts and about which we hardly hear, and the two sisters whose internal life is never explored directly, but who each have a daughter. A lot of other reviewers have drawn morals from the tale but I don't think the author is moralising, just that there is room for each reader to make their own. For me it's just keep talking, love your family and friends and hope for some good luck at times.

[piemouth · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

A story told from Julia’s perspective, back and forth between the present and past, when she and her mother went to live with relatives and she was drawn into that family. In the present day she’s an insightful therapist who works with troubled youth for the court system. In the past, she’s very different. Forster is very skilled at depicting the subtleties of family relationships and the misunderstandings and communications. But mysteries remain: How did this messed up young person become the skilled therapist? What makes her draw back from friends and family? Very readable and compelling, like all her books.

[bostonbibliophile · Rating: 4 out of 5 stars]

The Unknown Bridesmaid is an entirely absorbing and compelling tale of a troubled girl, and the troubled adult she became. Julia believes that she is responsible for the death of her cousin's baby and turns this guilt into mischief towards that cousin and her family that takes until midlife to expiate and understand. Julia grows up to be a successful counselor of troubled children and her work eventually forces her to deal with her own demons. Julia is not unsympathetic in my opinion, and while her behavior is not "justified" Margaret Forster lets us see the forces pushing and pulling this little girl this way and that. Her relationship with her mother, her cousin and her cousin's children are stark and scary in their rawness. It's one of the best books I've read about the dark side of growing up.

[seven.stories.press · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Wow. The narrator here is a somewhat unsympathetic character for much of the novel, but by the end we have sincere compassion for all she has survived as well as the unnecessary guilt she's carried with her all of her life. Highly recommended.

[sanddune_1 · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

This is a wonderful book: about families, mothers and daughters, secrets kept and secrets told and the unseen cruelties of children. The tone throughout captures perfectly the small resentments of family life that can fester untold for years, and the realities of less than perfect families.Julia is a psychologist dealing with problem children: her clients are the bullies and the bullied, the runaways, the petty criminals and the violent. Successful in her career, she carries out her duties diligently, and is acknowledged by her colleagues to be very good at her job. But as Julia probes the motivations of client after client, frequently finding the problem to be with the parent rather than the child, it becomes obvious that she has issues from her own childhood that remain unaddressed. And the book follows Julia back to her childhood, to the pivotal year when at the age of eight she is a bridesmaid for her cousin Iris. Julia's mother, a widow with little money, is at first inclined to resent the request from the daughter of her only sister for Julia to be her bridesmaid: there is the expense of the dress and the shoes, and the cost of travel to her home town of Manchester for the wedding. And for Julia's mother, resentment is often the predominant feeling. But eventually allowed to take part, Julia is completely won over by her rarely seen blonde haired, blue-eyed cousin who has the ability to charm everyone, and who, as her mother says, is making a very good match, to a major in the army and the son of an MP at that. Julia's mother's view is that such good fortune cannot last, and so it proves, with Iris widowed within weeks of the wedding when her husband is killed by a sniper's bullet in Northern Ireland. But when a baby is born to Iris, Julia is completely unable to understand the attention it receives from her family, even from her normally unemotional and aloof mother, and resentment starts to develop...This is a quiet book, full of small incidents: the drinking of tea takes the place of meaningful discussion. The major events are off stage and not talked about but exert their influence nonetheless. It is a wonderful depiction of people who believe that if something isn't talked about then perhaps it didn't really happen, and of the unreliability of memory.The review which led me to this book felt that Margaret Forster was an unduly neglected writer, whose work would have found its way onto many more prize lists if her subject matter was different, and based on the quality of this book I have to say that I agree. But mothers and daughters, and women left resentful after unfulfilled lives, often seem to be regarded as less 'literary' than middle-aged male angst, although I have to say that personally I think the Booker short list would often be improved by a change of outlook. So, highly recommended.