Praying for Boys: Asking God for the Things They Need Most
By Brooke McGlothlin and Cliff Graham
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Instead of trying harder to change your boy's behavior or worrying about his future, enjoy the peace that comes when you pray specific prayers for him straight from the Bible. This encouraging book helps you target your prayers on what your son needs most--from patience and self-control to having a pure heart and making wise decisions.
Today you can start giving whatever concerns you have to God and
- learn to fight for your son's heart in prayer
- look at raising boys as a gift
- see how even quick prayers make a difference
- understand boys' deepest struggles, no matter their age
- rest in knowing that God is the only One who can change your son's heart
Written for moms but great for dads (and grandparents) too, this easy-to-use book is filled with uplifting stories and biblical wisdom that will equip you on your journey to raising a godly man.
Includes a 21-Day Prayer Guide for Small Groups, in Person or Online!
"What a gift Brooke has given us in this wonderfully practical and urgently needed book. We all want the very best for our sons. We invest so much in growing our boys up right, but we must remember that only our prayer partnership with God can mold their hearts. Brooke teaches us mamas how to fill the most sacred spaces of parenting with powerfully effective prayers."
--Lysa TerKeurst, New York Times bestselling author and president of Proverbs 31 Ministries
"Praying for Boys is more than a book of prayers or a devotional book for moms. It's a real toolbox that empowers parents to lead, love, and fight for the hearts of their sons."--Amanda White, ohAmanda.com, author of Truth in the Tinsel
"Praying for Boys is profoundly motivating and biblical. Every mom who needs direction in raising boys into spiritually vibrant men will be challenged to embrace this clear strategy that Brooke provides. Highly practical and very encouraging!"--Sally Clarkson, director of Mom Heart Ministries and author of Desperate
"I can't think of a greater resource for parents of boys than this book. Brooke McGlothlin has taken her love for all things boy, spelled out the important stuff, and infused a deep understanding of what boys need most in these pages. It is a must-read and pass-it-on kind of book!"--Lisa Whittle, speaker and author of {w}hole
"Praying for Boys has challenged me to get on my knees and cry out to God for my sons in ways I never had before--boldly, expectantly, persistently, passionately. My mama heart has been changed."--Erin Mohring, co-founder of Raising Boys Media
"As a mom it is a necessity and a privilege to bring our children to God through prayer. Brooke has created a fantastic resource to encourage and help us along the way. Praying for Boys is a must-have for every boy-mom!"--Ruth Schwenk, speaker, writer, and creator of thebettermom.com
"Brooke's practical book, full of vulnerable sharing and deeply rooted in God's Word, will become a useful tool as you seek to make prayer a priority and model for your boys just how to run hard after Jesus."--Karen Ehman, Proverbs 31 Ministries director of speakers and author of LET. IT. GO.
Brooke McGlothlin
Brooke McGlothlin is cofounder of Raising Boys Ministries, where parents are encouraged and equipped to raise godly men. You can find her writing about fighting for the hearts of her sons at the Mothers of Boys Society blog or living a life in pursuit of messy grace at www.brookemcglothlin.com.
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Reviews for Praying for Boys
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5This book is now a staple in my book collection! I am a mother of for biological boys, have adopted two and foster many teen boys. This is my new go to resource for the "why am I doing this again days"?! Will also ensure a copy of this goes on the shelf at our local library!
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5The latest Early Reviewer book received through Librarything.com written by Brooke McGlothlin from Bethany House Publishing was an advanced reading copy (not a final text) titled Praying for Boys: Asking God for the Things They Need Most. I am the father of children four of whom are boys. I requested this book based on its title. The very beginning captured my interest as it appeared to be a welcome conversation with a Christian friend. I wondered why the book was geared toward woman and not men? As I read this book I saw it coming from a devoted mother that is raising boys in a Christian family that shared a similar world view and had similar desires for raising boys that are in the river modern day society and grounding them in the things I value. She uses scripture to focus on many important traits and characteristics and assists with prayers for those domains. She gives suggestions and templates for structure in a thoughtful way which could be used in an online or group format. Family and friends have already asked to borrow this book and wanted to purchase it as soon as they are able. I am thankful for being selected and will recommend this book to others.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Praying for Boys is a good resource for any parent or family member who deals with boys. Even though there are prayers included where one can insert any given boys name, I was hoping for a more straightforward book of prayers or more like a devotional of sorts. McGlothlin provides insight/advice for the parents before offering the prayers. Many moms and those who deal with boys will appreciate these offerings.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Praying for Boys: Asking God for the Things They Need Most by Brooke McGlothlin is a must-read book for Christian mothers of boys. Written in an easy-reading style filled with practical advice, heart-warming stories, and tons of scripture references, you will learn the how and whys of prayer; while feeling renewed and empowered to pray for your son(s), no matter what their age. The book includes helpful tips if you choose to lead a community or online group through this book/prayer study. Christian moms (and dads) of boys… read this book, and consider gifting it to other new parents in your lives.
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Praying for Boys - Brooke McGlothlin
© 2014 by Brooke L. McGlothlin
Portions of this text were previously published in Warrior Prayers (2011)
Published by Bethany House Publishers
11400 Hampshire Avenue South
Bloomington, Minnesota 55438
www.bethanyhouse.com
Bethany House Publishers is a division of
Baker Publishing Group, Grand Rapids, Michigan
www.bakerpublishinggroup.com
Ebook edition created 2014
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means—for example, electronic, photocopy, recording—without the prior written permission of the publisher. The only exception is brief quotations in printed reviews.
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data is on file at the Library of Congress, Washington, DC.
ISBN 978-1-4412-6344-5
Unless otherwise indicated, Scripture quotations are from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version® (ESV®), copyright © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved. ESV Text Edition: 2007
Scripture quotations identified NLT are from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996, 2004, 2007 by Tyndale House Foundation. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Carol Stream, Illinois 60188. All rights reserved.
Cover design by Dan Pitts
Author is represented by MacGregor Literary, Inc.
Praying for Boys is more than a book of prayers or a devotional book for moms. It’s a real toolbox that empowers parents to lead, love, and fight for the hearts of their sons. It’s brought me to my knees, not in desperation but in excitement!
—Amanda White, ohAmanda.com, author of Truth in the Tinsel
"Praying for Boys is profoundly motivating and biblical. Every mom who needs direction in raising boys into spiritually vibrant men will be challenged to embrace this clear strategy that Brooke provides. Highly practical and very encouraging!"
—Sally Clarkson, director of Mom Heart Ministries and author of Desperate
What a gift Brooke has given us in this wonderfully practical and urgently needed book. We all want the very best for our sons. We invest so much in growing our boys up right, but we must remember that only our prayer partnership with God can mold their hearts. Brooke teaches us mamas how to fill the most sacred spaces of parenting with powerfully effective prayers.
—Lysa TerKeurst, New York Times bestselling author and president of Proverbs 31 Ministries
I can’t think of a greater resource for parents of boys than this book. Brooke McGlothlin has taken her love for all things boy, spelled out the important stuff, and infused a deep understanding of what boys need most in these pages. It is a must-read and pass-it-on kind of book!
—Lisa Whittle, speaker and author of {w}hole
"Brooke’s words on prayer have been an inspiration to me as I raise three boys. Praying for Boys has challenged me to get on my knees and cry out to God for my sons in ways I never had before—boldly, expectantly, persistently, passionately. My mama heart has been changed."
—Erin Mohring, co-founder of Raising Boys Media
"As a mom it is a necessity and a privilege to bring our children to God through prayer. Brooke has created a fantastic resource to encourage and help us along the way. Praying for Boys is a must-have for every boy-mom!"
—Ruth Schwenk, speaker, writer, and creator of thebettermom.com
"With a heart for praying God’s Word and a vision for raising up the next generation of godly men, I’ve been given a gift through Brooke’s Praying for Boys. With three teen sons, I yearn for authentic encouragement and biblical wisdom that points me to the cross—Brooke does just that."
—Jen Schmidt, author of the blog, Balancing Beauty and Bedlam
While our sons grow tall, wearing out the knees on their jeans from tumble and play, we mothers too find our fabric worn thin from kneeling in prayer for our soon-to-be men. Brooke’s practical book, full of vulnerable sharing and deeply rooted in God’s Word, will become a useful tool as you seek to make prayer a priority and model for your boys just how to run hard after Jesus.
—Karen Ehman, Proverbs 31 Ministries director of speakers and author of LET. IT. GO.
To my grandmothers,
Catherine Trout Lloyd (Cack)
and
Wanda Jewell McDonald (Duel)
Cack, you left three good men behind, including my father, who were the evidence of your sacrifice, deep love, and hard work. Their lives, and the lives of your grandchildren, tell your story. Thank you
just doesn’t cut it.
Duel, thank you for teaching your children and grandchildren the power of prayer. Apparently, it stuck with me. Until heaven . . .
Contents
Cover 1
Title Page 3
Copyright Page 4
Endorsements 5
Dedication 7
Foreword by Cliff Graham 11
Boys Are a Battle Zone 13
What Is Prayer, and Why Should We Do It? 19
Going It Alone 37
How to Use This Book 50
The Things They Need Most 55
1. Heart Change 57
2. Obedience 62
3. Overcoming Fears 67
4. Integrity 72
5. Wisdom 77
6. Pride 82
7. Honor 87
8. Purity 91
9. A Servant’s Heart 97
10. Fruit of the Spirit: Love 102
11. Fruit of the Spirit: Joy 106
12. Fruit of the Spirit: Peace 112
13. Fruit of the Spirit: Patience 117
14. Fruit of the Spirit: Kindness 122
15. Fruit of the Spirit: Goodness 128
16. Fruit of the Spirit: Faithfulness 133
17. Fruit of the Spirit: Gentleness 139
18. Fruit of the Spirit: Self-Control 144
19. Anger 149
20. Forgiveness 155
21. Salvation 160
Conclusion 165
21 Days of Prayer for Sons 169
Leading a Church or Community Study 172
Leading an Online Study 178
Acknowledgments 187
About the Author 191
Back Cover 192
Foreword
In Praying for Boys, Brooke McGlothlin takes a stand for boys and their well-being, and it’s a stand based firmly in the Word of God. It’s bold and countercultural, and therefore likely to be controversial. I know Brooke, and I know she doesn’t want to create such controversy, but the beauty of this book is in its bravery. These are days that require boldness of purpose and speech, and she does just that.
She affirms boys for who they are and how God created them. Her belief is that the raising of boys as honorable standard-bearers for their faith, family, and community is something to be honored, not condemned. Rare stuff indeed. I commend her for it and admire her courage.
My wife and I prayed over our three sons using this book, and continue to do so. It’s made a difference in how we view them and their world. If they grow up knowing that their mother and father are praying Scripture over them, perhaps they will be so conditioned by the training of God’s Word that they will allow it to take root in their core, becomingly fiercely dependent on Christ for all things.
Study the verses Brooke references and consider what she writes. I firmly believe it will be a difference-maker as you raise your young men. Nothing is more powerful than the Bible, and rarely has it been so powerfully presented in the raising of boys as within these pages.
Cliff Graham
Author of the Lion of War novels and movies
Boys Are a Battle Zone
I watch their little faces as we prepare for bedtime prayers. I’m overwhelmed with love for them—overwhelmed with parenting them, these little boys who have stolen my heart and rocked my world.
As I write this, my sons are seven and five, and I already find myself wondering where the time has gone. I’m running as fast as I can to keep up with every step they take, tucking each moment away in my memory for safekeeping.
I asked God to give me boys. Even before I was married I knew I wanted to raise men who would be different—respecters of women, lovers of God. Men who would work with their hands, take commitments seriously, and protect the least of these. Men who were warriors, protectors, worshipers, peacemakers, and friends.
Fast-forward twelve years or so, and the present-day circus that is my life often finds me asking . . .
WHAT WAS I THINKING?
I don’t have any clue how to be a mom of boys! They’re rough and tumble; I don’t have an athletic bone in my body. They’re loud and obnoxious; I enjoy peace and quiet. They love dirt and mud and bugs; I’d rather curl up with a good book in my cool, clean family room.
Obviously, God has a sense of humor.
If you are the mother of at least one boy, you’re nodding your head in agreement with me right now. I used to think there was something wrong with my boys, that they were the only ones in the world who acted the way they do. Then the Lord hooked me up with an awesome community of boy-moms, and I learned that this simply isn’t true! There is something different about boys!
They’re loud.
They like to leap from tall buildings with no safety net (aka jump off the top bunk).
They like to build forts and hide candy.
They break toilets and go
in (and all over) anything BUT the toilet.
They’re adventurous.
They’re natural-born protectors.
They like to shoot things (even when there’s nothing actually resembling a gun).
They shower you with spit when showcasing their sound-effects skills.
They love their mommies and need their daddies.
They’re made of snakes and snails and puppy-dog tails. (Okay, not really. But when I told my oldest that girls were made of sugar and spice and everything nice, he asked if he could lick me!)
Raising boys brings one adventure after another, but I’m afraid we’re losing the beauty and importance of training up godly men. Churches are filled with men who have no idea what it truly means to be a man. They find their self-worth in their jobs, or their cars, or worse—anywhere except in the Lord.
Our boys need faithful Christian parents now more than ever, and we’re failing them. But it doesn’t have to be that way. We can choose to rejoin the war for the hearts of our sons . . . today.
But how?
The Battle
In his lifetime, Eli the priest was given three men to train, teach, and raise, but he only got it right with one of them. Samuel came under Eli’s care through the prayers of his desperate mother, Hannah. After years of being barren, she vowed a vow and said, ‘O LORD of hosts, if you will indeed look on the affliction of your servant and remember me and not forget your servant, but will give to your servant a son, then I will give him to the LORD all the days of his life’
(1 Samuel 1:11). So Samuel, the fruit of that desperate prayer, spent his childhood with Eli in the temple.
Even as a child Samuel knew and listened to the voice of God. We know him as the man God used to choose the first and second kings of Israel. We can assume Eli trained Samuel in the ways of the Lord. Certainly he helped him to recognize the voice of the Lord (1 Samuel 3). But the Bible says something completely different regarding Eli’s biological sons, Hophni and Phinehas. According to 1 Samuel 2:12, Eli’s sons were worthless men, unrestrained in their behavior, and Eli did nothing to stop them.
Eli failed to raise his sons to know and fear the Lord, and the cost was heavy.
While Samuel was ministering to the Lord, Eli’s two sons were hindering the people’s worship (1 Samuel 2:11–36).
The Lord cursed Eli’s lineage saying, There will not be an old man in your house
(1 Samuel 2:31).
Hophni and Phinehas both died on the same day in battle against the Philistines (1 Samuel 4:17).
The ark of God was captured by the Philistines (1 Samuel 4:17).
Eli died when he heard the news of his sons’ deaths and the capture of the ark (1 Samuel 4:18).
Eli’s daughter-in-law, the wife of Phinehas, went into apparent premature labor and died giving birth (1 Samuel 4:19–22).
Apparently, God takes the way we raise our sons quite seriously.
I don’t know about you, but I feel like we’re losing our sons. Take a look around. What do you see? Everywhere you look men are leaving the church, leaving their wives, throwing out the Word of God as their main authority. The call of God to raise men to know Him and fear Him still stands. But are we doing that?
I don’t think so.
I submit to you that as a culture, we’ve been more like Eli than we care to admit. Our sons don’t know the Father God, because their fathers (and mothers) don’t know and trust the Father God. They don’t see a big difference