Suddenly Southern: A Yankee's Guide to Living in Dixie
By Maureen Duffin-Ward and Gary Hallgren
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Well, honey, here's your complete guide to living in Dixie, providing migrating Yanks with tips on living, eating, greeting, driving, walking, talking, and what food to bring to a funeral. From his 'n' her Southern Hair Dos (and Don'ts) to The A to Z Dixie Dictionary, Suddenly Southern includes everything you need to know about living south of the Mason-Dixon Line, including:
- Recipes that range from mint juleps and hoppin' john to recipes for disaster
- "Know Your Bugs by Their Mugs," a handy identification chart
- 10 ways to say, "Now that's ugly" in Dixie
- How to walk from the store to the car without dying, a Fun-in-the-Sun Survival Kit
- 100 Southern Things Worth the Trip
From Southern tailgate food (deviled eggs and cheese straws) to minding your BBQs, from pronouncing pecan to knowing when your cat's a true Southerner, from knowing when you're fittin' in to knowing when you're not, this is the ideal guide for anyone moving, planning a move, or just plain ol' interested in this fascinating American region. With this book on your shelf, they'll never be able to say "Yankee, go home" again.
Maureen Duffin-Ward
Maureen Duffin Ward is a freelance newspaper columnist for The News & Observer of Raleigh, NC. Her column, "New in Town," is an irreverent look at moving South. She also hosts a monthly radio show called "Don't You Be My Neighbor" on WPTF. Before moving to Raleigh, Maureen was National Sales Manager for NBC Television and directed the Philadelphia sales office.
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Suddenly Southern - Maureen Duffin-Ward
Suddenly
Southern
A Yankee’s Guide to Living in Dixie
Maureen Duffin-Ward
Illustrations by Gary Hallgren
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Duffin-Ward, Maureen.
Suddenly southern : a Yankee’s guide to living in Dixie / Maureen-Duffin Ward; illustrations by Gary Hallgren.
p. cm.
A Touchstone Book.
1. Southern States—Social life and customs. 2. Southern States—Handbooks, manuals, etc. I. Title.
F209.D84 2004
975—dc22 2004048234
ISBN 0-7432-5495-3
eISBN: 978-1-451-60396-5
To my husband,
Michael Ward,
who was so worth the wait.
And so worth the move.
Contents
1.
A Moving Target, or Toto, I Have a Feeling We’re Not in Philly Anymore
2.
Close Encounters of the Southern Kind, or Don’t You Be My Neighbor
3.
Easy for You to Say
4.
Dressed to Kill
5.
No Grits, No Glory
6.
Postcards from the Edge
7.
Scout’s Honor
8.
Sports Illustrated Meets Southern Living, or My Compliments to the Ref
9.
Wedding Belle Blues
10.
Moving South: The Twelve-Step Program
Acknowledgments
CHAPTER 1
A MOVING TARGET, OR TOTO, I HAVE A FEELING WE’RE NOT IN PHILLY
ANYMORE
When your husband says, "Honey, ever been South?," be afraid—be very afraid. According to my grief counselor—I’m sorry, I mean relocation coach—the average person takes one year to adjust to a move. I guess that makes me below average. On my one-year anniversary in Raleigh, North Carolina, I:
Could only sleep facing north.
Still got told twice a week, You sound like the Nanny!
Still flew to Philly for my haircuts.
Got my local news by typing www.phillynews.com into the computer.
Had called the police on my mailman. How was I to know the mailman drove a burnt-orange Chevrolet? All I knew was that there was a suspicious car parked outside the house and a man was rifling through the mailbox. That’s a federal crime, right?
What brought me to Raleigh in the first place? Got a minute? We had been married about a year when Mr. Promotion shared the great news.
They want me to run the NBC station in Raleigh, North Carolina.
You tawkin’ to me?
For a born and bred Philly girl, that’s like hearing We’re moving to Guam.
Philly natives don’t do moves. Our idea of relocation is making our way to the suburbs. And if all of your dreams come true, you get to buy a beach house down the shore.
Sure, the bold and the beautiful try to make it in New York. But the rest of us stay put. We don’t know nothin’ about no North Carolina.
My life was flashing before me. How could I leave my nephews? My nieces? My mother? My father? My sister? My brothers? My girlfriends! My career? My house? My routine? My life? My God!
But I knew if I said no, we’d be on the couch in six years, and my husband would be telling the good doctor how I ruined his life. I knew what I had to do.
Sorry, no way.
And so the peace talks began. Michael pined for Pinehurst and golfing his way to the top. And I kind of liked the idea of getting out of all the baby and bridal showers I’d been attending. But missing my mom’s Thanksgivings? Talk about misgivings. So this was going to be the catch that came with my catch: Fall in love, get married, and trade away the home and life I knew and loved.
Next thing you know we were going. And we are not alone. According to the census, about 40 million people move every year. And 40 percent of the people who move to a different region move to the South. The Yankee migration of the last twenty years won’t just continue; experts say it will grow.
This book is for the hundreds of thousands of Yankee transplants who have moved south and haven’t hit their stride yet. It will serve as a been there, done that
for the reformed Yankees and honorary Southerners
once removed. And it should provide plenty of mileage for the natives who think the damn Yankees should just take I-95 North.
My husband dragged me down here kicking and screaming, but I survived. And you will, too. Especially if you’re open to a few survival tips:
You Are Here
According to Southerners, Yankees are never in the real South.
Geography be damned, everybody knows that Florida is not the real South; it’s a suburb of NYC. But when you get to North Carolina, you’ll hear, Raleigh isn’t the real South anymore, you have to go to Savannah or Tennessee.
You get to Nashville and they say, Oh, this isn’t the real South; it’s all New Yorkers now. You have to go to Alabama.
Southerners just keep sending Yankees farther south to experience the real thing.
I think this is the Southern genteel way of saying Go to hell.
Okay, open your eyes; you’re home!!!
Different Strokes for Different Folks
You thought New York’s elite coop boards had a hard time keeping out the riffraff. How about these Southern developments with houses going for $1 million, $2 million, did I hear $3 million and a Ferrari? I was able to get my hands on one of the moving on up
applications. A couple of million and you’re in.
Plantations R Us Application
(If you and your wife have a combined handicap of more than 12, please accept our condolences, and y’all come back and see us real soon.)
Part I
I am relocating from the North because
I am a Ph.D. who discovered the cure for cancer, and Research Triangle Park says I’d make a nice junior-level applicant.
My husband was transferred, and I’m a born follower.
I’m a hurricane chaser.
With my net worth as of today, I could
Pay off the fiscal deficit for the United States.
Join any Southern country club and secure a seat on the board.
Just about swing a dozen Krispy Kremes.
In your estimation, which of these egregious crimes should result in the death penalty:
Hanging a clothesline
Having a nonconforming mailbox or choosing a fence or bird feeder without approval from the architectural board
None of the above
Part II
The family most resembling yours is
Aunt Bee and the gang from The Andy Griffith Show
The Wilkes of Twelve Oaks
The Sopranos
You are most likely to vote yes on the following referendums:
Changing the name of the airport to Mayberry International
A commemorative stamp for the United Daughters of the Confederacy
Free Mumia!
To the Applicant: If you answered c to more than one of the above questions, please fill out the attached form, Request for a Pardon from the Governor,
put your keys in the basket, and wait for the police escort up I-95 North.
Part III
The Formal Interview. (Please come accompanied by a Southern sponsor.)