URAWARRIOR 365 Ways to Challenge You to a Better Life

By Bershan Shaw

These daily action steps, will help you find your inner warrior, and allow you to, step into your greatness. We often, see self-help books and workbooks designed to help us seek, think and reflect, but we rarely see the action steps and challenges we need to take to help us move out of a rut when we are stuck. Sometimes, we get off our path and what we need most are action steps to help us get back on track. Each day is a gift so look at it and enjoy what it has to offer. Let this book challenge you and encourage you to ask yourself the hard questions.

• Language: English
• Publisher: BookBaby
• Release date: Apr 8, 2014
• ISBN: 9781483525570

Bershan Shaw

Bershan Shaw’s career as a sought–after international motivational speaker, business coach, women’s advocate, and author, was forged through her dedication, perseverance, and a brush with death. As a two-time breast cancer survivor with a three-month prognosis, Bershan summoned her inner warrior to conquer the impossible, defy the odds, and beat her illness. Now, she uses her leadership skills to bring a no-nonsense approach to motivate others to reach their personal potential. Bershan coaches executives and trains teams in many areas, including financial services, legal, technology, and consumer products. Her media appearances include features on NBC, ABC, Fox, and OWN. Bershan has garnered numerous awards, including a BET Trailblazer award, the 2017 Woman Whole Life Achievement Award, Business & Leadership of Excellence from Woman Economic Forum, and the 2017 Lifetime Achievement Award for National and Community Service from the President of the United States. She is a graduate of New York University with a master’s degree in journalism and business and also earned a certificate there in leadership and executive coaching. Bershan currently resides in New York, LA, and Washington, DC.

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Shaw

Hello, and welcome to my URAWARRIOR treasure tips. These daily action steps will help you find your inner warrior, and allow you to, step into your greatness. We often, see self-help books and workbooks designed to help us seek, think and reflect, but we rarely see the action steps and challenges we need to take to help us move out of a rut when we are stuck. Sometimes, we get off our path and what we need most are action steps to help us get back on track. Each day is a gift so look at it and enjoy what it has to offer. Let this book challenge you and encourage you to ask yourself the hard questions. Many of us need to be held accountable and we need someone or something to help us move ahead. I’m happy to say, you have found the right book. Enjoy it and make sure you read the quotes, take advantage of the tips and do the challenges. Don’t cheat, skip or move to the next one because you are only cheating yourself. Most of all have fun!

This book is divided up into four sections Relationship, Health, Work and Family. Start with whatever sections feel right for you. These tips are designed to help you grow into the person that you need to be. It took me forty years to get to where I am and I’m still growing. After battling stage-4 breast cancer and beating it, I now feel that I can share my secrets, experiences and little gems I’ve learned along the way that I know will help you reach your best self. I am still working on myself, and I will be until the day I die. But I am closer today than I was yesterday and that’s what this journey is about: Getting to your best self. The four pillars in this book are essential to your happiness, joy and prosperity. I want you to do the work, take the time, reflect and make all of your dreams come true. Now, let’s get started.

Relationships

WARRIOR 1

WARRIOR QUOTE: The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart. Helen Keller

WARRIOR TIP: The best things in life are fond memories and moments that you will remember until the end. You can’t take material things with you when you die. Those things we believe are so important will inevitable get old, go out of style or fade away. You can only have so much money and then what? What is money to you if you don’t have someone special to share it with? The only things that matter are what you can feel in your heart. Moments that make you smile when you think of them, things that stay in your mind when you think of them, things that will never be forgotten. Those are the most beautiful things in life, so cherish them forever.

WARRIOR CHALLENGE: I challenge you to write down ten of the best memories of your life and keep them in a journal. As the days go by, write down the memories and the special moments that make you smile. Don’t ever forget them.

WARRIOR 2

WARRIOR QUOTE: Forever has no meaning when you’re living in the moment. Ellen Hopkins

WARRIOR TIP: Love doesn’t come very often but, when it comes, savor the moment. We always talk about what we’re going to do tomorrow or for our birthdays, holidays and special days but we actually miss out on all the wonderful things that we can do today. Tomorrow isn’t promised and nothing is forever. When you are in love, live in the moment. Don’t waste time. You never know what tomorrow may bring and it may not even come so when you have a true love, live in the moment.

WARRIOR CHALLENGE: I challenge you to live in the moment with your true love. Whatever you were planning in the future, move it up earlier. If you are going to have a fancy dinner in the future, move it to have a nice dinner in the now. Why wait to have great moments, fun times and good memories? You don’t have to go on a fancy expensive vacation to enjoy each other. Have a picnic in the park, or bike riding or make dinner together. Those are great memories. I challenge you for the month to think of different things you can do with your partner and do them. NOW.

WARRIOR 3

WARRIOR QUOTE: In order to move forward and be happy in your life you have to love yourself first. Bershan Shaw

WARRIOR TIP: Happiness in your life begins with you. We are our biggest critics. We beat ourselves up all the time saying we are too fat, too skinny, not smart enough, too demanding, not loving, too selfish, too arrogant or whatever we can think of that’s negative that we can say about ourselves. We have to love who we are and whom we’ve become and take the steps to change ourselves if we want to. We can’t change if we are too tall or too dark or not light enough or not outgoing, but we can attempt to change our behavior, attitude and the way we look at ourselves.

WARRIOR CHALLENGE: I challenge you to say only positive things about yourself for one week. Don’t criticize yourself, don’t say anything bad, and when you find that you are doing it change your thoughts to positive thoughts like, I AM ENOUGH and I AM HAPPY WITH WHO I AM. This may be difficult but I challenge you to do it. Let’s get going.

WARRIOR 4

WARRIOR QUOTE: T’is better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all. Alfred Lord Tennyson

WARRIOR TIP: Love is something that everyone needs to experience even if it doesn’t turn out the way you wanted or expected it to. Don’t be afraid to love again and don’t live in fear. The next time could be the best time or the last time. It is the giving; sharing and being able to be open to someone wholeheartedly that teaches us great lessons about ourselves. Love teaches you to not only care about yourself but to care for others too. So, even if your heart gets broken, the journey that you have taken of being in love and tapping into the joy and happiness is worth it. It’s a partnership that everyone should engage in even if it doesn’t end up the way you want it to. It was worth it.

WARRIOR CHALLENGE: I challenge you to be open to love. Do not judge and live in fear about loving and giving love. I challenge you to love again, again and again. If you are afraid of giving of yourself or being heart broken, cheated on, lied to or made a fool of, then this challenge is for you because it has happened to the best of us. The pathway we chose was to teach us, show us and guide us to what we want or don’t want. It just made us clear about our future. So, I challenge you to open your heart to find love again. If you have been in a relationship that didn’t work, take the time to heal but be open to something new. Tomorrow may bring something exciting and it’s called….LOVE!

WARRIOR 5

WARRIOR QUOTE: You can’t force love, push love, hurry love or rush love. Love happens when it happens and when it does, it’s electrifying. Just let love be. Bershan Shaw

WARRIOR TIP: It is human nature to want to rush love, force love and make it happen as quickly as possible because we crave and want it so badly. We want to have someone desire us, need us and want us and it’s a beautiful thing but where we fault ourselves is when we know it’s not right but we try to force it anyway. We have a gut feeling when the other person doesn’t have the same feelings as we do but we try to push it or rush it and stop it. That person was and is not the right person for you so don’t try to put a square in a circle. Let it be because around the corner is your true love.

WARRIOR CHALLENGE: I challenge you to not force love if you are in a new relationship or in a growing relationship. Let it be and see where it goes. You and your partner may not be at the same point in the relationship and that’s okay. Don’t force it. If he or she is the right one for you, it will show itself and if he or she is not the right one for you then you will learn from it and move on. Why waste your time over someone who doesn’t feel the same way about you? You will find love if you don’t force it.

WARRIOR 6

WARRIOR QUOTE: Sometimes you have to be quiet and just go with it. Bershan Shaw

WARRIOR TIP: We are always putting up so many boundaries and making demands on other people and ourselves that we forget to just live. We are too busy saying what we don’t want and what we don’t need instead of living and letting the things we need or don’t need happen. Our lives become so structured and anal because we have it all figured out but that’s not life at all. Life isn’t planned from the time we are born until the time we die. Life is uncertain and it is full of mystery. That’s the beauty of it. We never know what the future holds and, if you believe, it will hold exactly what you want. Just wait and see.

WARRIOR CHALLENGE: I challenge you to stop making everything so difficult. Stop with the excel sheets and the plans on life and start living. Be spontaneous. Take that trip. Eat that fancy dinner. Live life. This week do things that you have always wanted to do or you have put on the back burner. Do it this week.

WARRIOR 7

WARRIOR QUOTE: Every moment is a fresh beginning. T.S. Eliot

WARRIOR TIP: You don’t have to stay stuck or lost or let things linger without a solution. Sometimes you have to let it go. There may be no solution or you may have to agree to disagree but you can’t stay in the chaos of it. You have to move forward. Every moment we are awake, it’s a new beginning. We get stuck in the small stuff and let life pass us by when we focus on our past mistakes, issues and situations. A true relationship with someone is letting go of the past and living in the now. Whether you have an issue with a family member, a friend or a co-worker, the time spent now is worth more than the hang-ups in the past because tomorrow isn’t promised so let go of the past and focus on the future.

WARRIOR CHALLENGE: I challenge you to stay focused on the present. Let go of your past mistakes, failures or mishaps and focus on the now. Every day is a new beginning. Relationships help you grow and learn. Don’t run away from the lesson. You can’t change the past but you can change the now and the future.

WARRIOR 8

WARRIOR QUOTE: Don’t judge your friends or family unless you have looked through their eyes, experienced what they have, cried their tears and shared their pain. Bershan Shaw

WARRIOR TIP: Every time you point the finger at other people, three are pointing back at you. We have a habit of judging people and not looking at ourselves. Every person who is in your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime are in your life to share something, give something, take something or help you learn something. Stay open in your relationships and learn not to judge. Just let whoever they are be who they are and you do the same. You may learn a thing or two.

WARRIOR CHALLENGE: I challenge you to think only positive, affirming thoughts towards everyone you encounter for one week. Don’t judge anyone at all. Not your colleague, your friend, your family member, your children, anyone you see in the street or anyone you encounter this week. Let them be who they are. You will start to see people in a different light.

WARRIOR 9

WARRIOR QUOTE: Stop hating yourself for everything you aren’t, don’t like and can’t be and start loving yourself for everything you are. Love yourself. Bershan Shaw

WARRIOR TIP: You are who you are. You can’t change how tall or short you are, the color of your skin, your birthmark or who you are as a person so stop beating yourself up and start loving yourself for who you are. There are no duplicates and replicas of you. We spend all of our lives beating ourselves up and we get in our own way from finding our greatness. You