Second Time Around

By Hilton Nugara

Generally, one in three marriages ends up in divorce, which is quite a lot of people when you think about it. Have you ever thought of the day when you married Dirty Harry and years later woke up next to Crazy Larry, wondering what the hell happened? If so, then this book is definitely for you.
It has 25 intriguing chapters of real life experiences accumulated from various people who have been in relationships during the course of their lives.
If you are single, already married, thinking of getting married or even on your Second Time Around, then hopefully this book will help you learn from other peoples experiences in their previous relationships.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Hilton Nugara
• Release date: Apr 10, 2013
• ISBN: 9781301835072

Hilton Nugara

I was born in Sri Lanka and later lived in West Africa for a few years with my parents. I then migrated to Australia in the early 70's with my family. After working for various companies over the following years, I then ventured into my first Business which was a Video Library, followed by a car importing business and finally into importing Noveltys, gifts and lighting affects from around the world where I was very successful. Over the years of doing business, I always wanted to write a book to show other people as well how easy it is to do their own business and be their own boss at the same time. My first book, titled" 25 Easy Ways To Easy Ca$h, is a book for people who would like to get out of the rat race and be their own boss, while improving their cash flow at the same time. In this book, it not only gives you a choice of businesses that you could do, but it also shows you how to go about starting up your own business and become successful. I have also just published my second book called "Second Time Around", this book shows you how a good relationship or marriage could sometimes go bad or turn ugly. It contains 25 real life experiences of various people who were once happily married and are now on their Second Time Around. Favorite Books Think and Grow Rich (Napolean Hill) Tycoons Alien Base (Timothy Good) Business Stripped Bare (Richard Branson)

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SECOND TIME AROUND

By Hilton E. Nugara

Author’s Note

This book is for people who are single, already married, thinking of getting married or even on their Second Time Around. It has twenty-five chapters of real life experiences, accumulated from people who have been in various kinds of relationships, during the course of their life.

Hopefully, this book might help you learn from other people’s mistakes and experiences in their previous relationships and you will see how a good relationship could sometimes go bad, due to a lack of finances, boring sex, breakdown in communications, interference from in-laws, being selfish and even when kids come into the picture. You will also see, how working long hours and even running your own business could have a price to pay in your personal life.

If you’re young, old or middle aged and have been in relationships in the past and you are now wondering: What the Hell went wrong? Then this book should be of some interest to you.

Generally, one in three marriages ends up in divorce, which is quite a large number when you really think about it. One day, while thinking of settling down myself, I noticed that many of my friends and other acquaintances, who at one time were happily married, were now on their Second Time Around. To my amazement, I also found that many of them were quite happy to tell me their story about what caused the breakdown of their marriage.

Talking to these people, encouraged me to write this book, of the most interesting and fascinating stories, so that you too could see the mistakes and temptations that are possible, in ruining a good relationship or marriage. I hope by reading this book, you will be more successful in your present or future relationships.

All the best,

Hilton E. Nugara.

About the Author

The author was born in Sri Lanka and later lived in West Africa for a few years, as his father was in the diplomatic service.

He then migrated to Australia in the early ‘70s, with his parents and family, where he then started working and a few years later he started his own business.

Over the years, he’s been in a few relationships, one even lasting eleven years. But, although there were plenty of good times while he was in them, he sometimes still wondered what went wrong.

As he was always involved in business, he never really took the time to settle down. Until one day, when he finally decided to do so, he found that most of his friends were already on their Second Time Around.

After talking to many of them, he decided to write this book on what sometimes could go wrong in a good marriage, so that others may know as well, how a perfect marriage can go from good, to bad and sometimes, even end up in murder.

Other Books by Hilton E. Nugara

25 Easy Ways to Easy Cash

C opyright c 2012 by Hilton E. Nugara

First published in USA by Hilton E. Nugara

The right of Hilton E. Nugara to be identified as the author of the Work has been asserted by him in accordance with Copyright, Designs and Patent Act 1988

All Rights Reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted, in any form or by any means without prior written permission of the author, nor be otherwise circulated in any form of binding or cover, other than that in which it is published and without a similar condition being imposed on the subsequent purchaser.

All characters in this publication are fictitious and any resemblance to real persons, living or dead is purely coincidental

A CIP catalogue record for this title is available from the National Library of Australia, Canberra, ACT, Australia.

Trade Paperback ISBN-13 978-1477509500

Trade Paperback ISBN-10 147750950X

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This book is dedicated to

My parents, who have been married for almost 60 years.

My two sisters

and my Clouded cat, Slasher.

SECOND TIME AROUND

By Hilton E. Nugara

Tom, Jerry and Sue

Kelly’s Capers

Holiday to Remember

Taken for a Ride

Getting mad, Getting Even

Anna’s Escapades

Nights in Black Satin

You never can Tell

Used and Abused

Dancing to Disaster

Never say Ever

The Last Laugh

Deadlier than the Male

From Richie to Bitchie

Sweet Child in Time

One Night in Paris

A Story to Tell

I’ll Get You For This

Mary go Round

Taken by Surprise

You Get what you Give

A Lesson to be Learnt

Snake in a Suit

Highway to Nowhere

As Time went By

Chapter 1

TOM, JERRY AND SUE

I first met Jerry when I was going out with his sister Mary. He was a sixteen year old school boy who was quite happy growing up doing the usual schoolboy things.

I found him to be quite a nice guy and we got on very well as the years went by.

Then one night at a dance shortly after his eighteenth birthday, I introduced him to one of my friends called Sue.

Sue was almost seventeen and the two of them hit it off like a firecracker. I was happy for Jerry, as it was his first girlfriend and with him being Sri Lankan and Sue being Mauritian, there wasn’t much of a cultural difference. Both their parents seemed to like the match as well and they supported them as best they could. I also thought they were a good match, as they seemed very much in love.

I’ll now let Jerry tell you his story:

I just couldn’t wait to see Sue every day after work. I used to count down the hours until I was with her again. Knowing that I was the first guy she had ever been with, made me love her even more. Just over a year later, I asked my parents if she could move in with us and to my surprise they agreed. Sue moved in a short time later and we were both very happy.

The two of us then concentrated on working very hard, with the intention of buying our first home and starting up a family, which naturally meant working on Saturdays as well. I had a job at a factory and Sue was employed at a major manufacturing firm. It wasn’t the best employment at the time, but being young and energetic we took whatever we could get.

The two years spent living at my parent’s place was very crowded, as I also had three other sisters living under the same roof. But surprisingly, we all got on very well. Sue often helped my mom with the cooking and cleaning, which only made my parents love her even more. I took her to Sri Lanka on a two-week holiday to introduce her to my relations and we also visited Mauritius, where I met her side of the family as well. Over the following years, everything was great between the two of us and I reckon you couldn’t have found a happier couple.

I knew right from the start, that although Sue was my first girlfriend, I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. So one day, I hired a limousine without her knowledge and I booked a table at a revolving restaurant in town. After dinner and a bit of dancing with my sexy Sue, I pulled out a ring, which I had purchased two weeks earlier and then, I got down on my knees and I asked her if she would like to marry me.

We got married on a glorious Sunday afternoon, in a quaint little church in the hills, and enjoyed a reception that went on into the early hours of the morning. Except for a small argument, between my uncle and his wife over him dancing with the younger females, everything went very well. I will never forget how beautiful my Sue looked in her wedding dress that night and I felt like I was the luckiest man in the world. We then spent the first week in Bali and the second week in Fiji on our honeymoon. When we got back, we stayed at my parents place for another year, saving up as much money as we could.

We finally saved up enough cash to put a deposit on a medium sized house, which had three bedrooms and a kitchen that Sue liked. I also loved the garage and patio area, where I could work on my car or have a drink in the privacy of my own garden. It was no mansion, but we were very happy as it was our first home. Since it was a brand new house, we spent a lot of time in the garden, landscaping it to our liking.

Sue also loved making cocktails and naturally, we had a few friends drop in on the weekends. With my Hi-Fi blasting, we always had a lot of fun dancing. With our friends and family also visiting us most of the time, everything was good and exciting. Our sex life was also great and like most young couples, we used to have sex whenever we had the chance. We also went out with friends to dances and discos. But whenever we were out, we just couldn’t damn wait to get home again to have a good time. Sex with Sue was always great; we experimented with all kinds of vibrators and dildos. But one night, when she pulled out a huge strap on, I thought that she was pushing it a bit too far!

About a year later, we decided it was time to start a family and it was great when she told me one day that she was pregnant. We celebrated by having some of her cocktails that night and you could just imagine what happened

A month later, we picked out a room in the house as a nursery and went shopping for some baby items. Seeing that it was our first child, we were quite excited and spent every cent we had, preparing for the arrival of our baby. Both our families were ecstatic and my father was over the moon about getting his first grandchild as well. At this point, I thought nothing could go wrong for the two of us, but occasionally, I found that Sue was quite tired, when we went out on the weekends. I naturally, assumed it was due to her working that day.

Then one Saturday afternoon, I arrived a bit early to pick her up from work and I found her having a cosy chat with Tom, her factory foreman. I didn’t think too much of it at the time, until I turned up early on another day and found her sitting in his car enjoying a cigarette. Something she only did with me, occasionally after sex.

That night, I had a talk with her about a few things that were on my mind and I also asked her what the Hell she was doing in Tom’s car. She assured me that there was nothing going on and I had nothing to worry about. She said that they were only having a chat and a cigarette, because they had finished work a bit early. She then swore that she loved me and I took her word for it. With those big brown eyes and sexy lips, any man would have believed her.

As the days went by, I forgot all about it and started to focus on the excitement of us having our first baby. Then one afternoon, I tried calling her on her cell, but I got no answer. So after trying to call her a few more times, I decided to call her work number and to my amazement, I found that she hadn’t been into work that day. At first I thought she might have been involved in an accident and it made me even more worried when I couldn’t contact her. I then tried her a few more times and when I finally got through, she gave me an excuse of having a flat battery and assured me, that she had been at work all day.

She told me later, she had been working in a different part of the factory and whoever answered the phone, most probably thought she hadn’t come in. I naturally believed her again, as it seemed quite logical at the time.

A couple of months later, when the same thing happened again, I started to get a bit suspicious, as I remembered the encounter with Tom some weeks earlier. So, I questioned her again and once again she told me that she was working at a different part of the factory, but this time I wasn’t convinced at all. I then spent more time, parking around the corner and hiding in her company’s car park as well. Trying to see if I could get a better idea, of what the fuck was going on.

Then one afternoon, while I was parked around the corner, I saw them walking to his car at the rear of the parking lot. At that time, I thought I would play it cool and see what would happen next. About fifteen minutes and a couple of cigarettes later, I decided to quietly walk over to his car, to see what they were up to. Then to my horror, I found my sweet little Sue, stark naked in the back seat of Tom’s car in a very compromising position.

My first reaction was to drag her out and punch the living daylights out of her. They were so engrossed in the moment of passion, they didn’t even notice me. Although I was stark raving mad at that time, I decided the best thing to do was to walk away, rather than get involved in a physical confrontation, which might then lead to police involvement.

I then crawled back to my car and raced to the nearest pub and had a couple of stiff drinks to calm my nerves down. My mind was in a spin and I was trying bloody hard not to believe that my Sue, for whom I had great aspirations, had let me down this way. I then suddenly remembered, that she was also pregnant, but wait, was it my baby?

About an hour later, I went back and picked her up as usual and when she got into the car, I did my best to control myself from smashing her damn head into the dashboard. We then started talking about different things as we were driving home and she even commented on what a nice day she had. I bit my tongue as she spoke and we arrived home without my mentioning anything, about what I had seen. Looking at her then, I no longer saw her the way I used to, as I was quite disgusted with what I had seen. I also suspected that it had something to do with why she was so tired whenever we went out on the weekends.

But as soon as we entered the house, I had to say something. Once I started, I just couldn’t stop. I then told her how I had seen both of them in the car and I yelled at her calling her a bitch and a whore. She then burst out crying and she tried to tell me that nothing had happened. I then slapped her a couple of times and things really got worse, she finally ran into the room and locked the door behind her.

I knew I had to get out of the house, so I drove to the nearest bar and had a couple of stiff drinks. When I got back, it was just after eleven. The house was dark and eerily silent and I found her asleep in the bedroom. That night without any more drama, I slept in the spare room and I wondered if this was the end of our marriage.

The next morning when I got up, I found her in the kitchen preparing breakfast. But soon, one thing led to another and we ended up in a fully blown screaming match, which ended up with me smashing a few things in the kitchen. She just kept on bloody denying that she was unfaithful and I had got it all wrong. But, I knew what I had seen and in my book, she was unforgiven.

As the weeks went by, what I’d seen in Tom’s car just kept on eating my mind and although I knew what would happen, I finally decided to pull the plug, ending our once happy marriage. A short time later, Sue moved back in with her parents and I was home, alone.

Luckily for me, I had met my sister’s work mate Rosa at a family function a couple of months earlier and although Rosa was married with two kids, we still seemed to hit it off very well. She was unhappy in her marriage as well and she told me that she was thinking of leaving her husband very soon, she then asked me to call her whenever I was free.

My mind was in a mess, when I finally gave Rosa a call a few weeks later and asked her out for a drink, as I needed someone to talk to. I was glad when she agreed to meet me and we gave each other a big hug, when we first met.

We then spoke for almost two hours and I told her everything that had happened. With tears in her eyes, she told me she was also having a miserable life, as her husband was just a lazy bastard. She said all he wanted to do was work, then come home and sit down in front of the TV and drink beer. Later on, she mentioned that she was about to leave him and go her own way with her kids. She said that she had been considering making this move for a while and now it was time to do it.

As I had decided to end my marriage with Sue as well, I didn’t think I was doing anything wrong when I asked her out again. This time after dinner, I asked her if she would like to have some dessert and she said that she didn’t mind. Luckily we then managed to get the last room available at a nearby motel

That night, we were like little kids in a toy store. Within a few minutes, we had all our clothes off and then we had a great time. We spent that night together and went our separate ways the next day, promising to catch up very shortly. I then realised, that I might be falling for her and I was hoping that she really liked me as well.

We met one more time in the afternoon and naturally had good sex again. Sex with Rosa was quite something. As I hadn’t been with anyone else other than Sue and Rosa being more mature as well, she really knew how to turn me on. Whenever I thought of her naked, I had to see my five fingered friend. Meanwhile, Sue finally realised in horror, that she had been sprung and now, it was the end of the two of us. As the days turned into weeks, she ultimately realised, that there was no chance of any reconciliation with me.

I was surprised when two months later, I got a call from a solicitor representing her. He informed me, that he would be sending me her requirements regarding our separation. As time went on, I couldn’t believe how nasty my sweet little Sue became; she fought me like a tiger to have possession of everything, including my beloved Hi-fi system. I finally gave in and she took the only bloody thing that I wanted out of our marriage.

Meanwhile, she was almost eight months pregnant and as I wasn’t sure whose bloody kid it was, I didn’t spend much time thinking about it either. I was now more interested in selling the house and starting a new life with Rosa.

As she was already married with two kids, I sometimes wondered if I was doing the right damn thing, getting involved with a woman like her. So, I decided not to call her for a while, to see what would happen. During this time, I went out with a few other women and also met up with some old friends.

One day, I got a call from Rosa and she told me that she was definitely moving out with the kids. She then wanted to know, if I would be interested in starting up a new life with her. Seeing that our chemistry was great from the start, it didn’t come as a surprise to me. I then spent some time thinking about it over the next few days and then decided why not. Rosa and I finally found a house that we both liked and we signed up a lease. We then moved in a few weeks later and luckily it wasn’t too far from where we were living. So naturally, we didn’t have to change any schools for the kids.

Then about a month later, I got a call from Sue’s brother and he told me she was in hospital, about to deliver the baby. He also said that she would like to see me later if possible. That day, my first thought when I saw that little girl lying next to her mother, was just how much she looked like her. I then just couldn’t help the bloody tears that ran down my face. Sue looked very sad and depressed and we spoke about a few things. I finally left an hour later, promising to come back soon to see her and the baby. But, as I walked down to the car park, I knew I wouldn’t be in any damn hurry to see them again.

A short time later, when our house was sold, we had to meet up again to make final arrangements. Meanwhile I dropped in and saw Sue a few more times, for the kid’s sake, while she was at her mother’s place. She told me that she had named the baby Lauren and although it wasn’t one of my favourite names, I just left it at that.

Later Rosa also filed for divorce and after her house was sold, we brought a large house together. Luckily, her two kids liked me as well and we all settled down pretty soon into our new home.

I later heard that Sue almost had a nervous breakdown over our divorce, but she finally managed to pull herself together. A few years later, she met and married another guy and had two more kids together. We are now semi friends and I only see her whenever I have to pick up Lauren. Although I’m still not sure if she’s my little girl, I now treat her as if she’s my very own.

Two years after moving into our new home, Rosa and I were blessed with a baby boy we call Jason. He gets on very well, with his other brother and sister and we are all very happy at the present moment. But, sometimes I do wonder, what life would have been like, if Sue hadn’t been tempted and distracted like the way she was. But then again like they say, ‘Maybe sometimes things just happen for the damn best’.

Chapter 2

KELLY’S CAPERS

I was a bit of a wild child and I ended up leaving home when I was about sixteen, as I just wasn’t getting on too well with my stepfather. I then started doing numerous odd jobs, while living at my grandmother’s place. She was a sweet old soul who loved me with all her heart, as I was her only grand daughter. She naturally tried her best to advise me in many ways, but being young and foolish; it always went in one ear and out the other.

As time went by, I started drinking, smoking and partying quite hard. I also had a few boyfriends and even a couple of girlfriends at that time. When I was almost twenty, I met Geoff at a ‘Beach Boys’ concert. They were playing my favourite song: God only knows. I was high on smoke and alcohol, when I bumped into him and I sometimes wondered if it was the smoke and drinks that made Geoff look more appealing to me at that time. He then struck up a conversation with me, while forcing a can of beer into my hand at the same time. I naturally didn’t mind, as it saved me time from standing in a long fucking queue. He then kept hanging around me like a bad smell, trying to entice me into further conversation with him. As my boyfriend and I had parted ways more than two months earlier, I thought: What the Hell? I might as well let this fool buy me a few more drinks.

To cut a long story short, I then started seeing Geoff on a regular basis. We then went out to many more concerts together and had a ball. As time went on, I found Geoff to be a caring, honest and patient guy and finally we ended up in bed. A year later, I suddenly found myself pregnant. So we discussed it thoroughly and decided that we wanted to have the baby, which turned out to be a little boy we named Darren.

It made us both very happy and it drew us even closer; so much so, that when Geoff proposed to me a year later, I accepted and we got married nine months later. We were both working hard at that time and luckily for us, our next-door neighbour Rebecca, who was an unmarried mother with a little boy of her own, didn’t mind looking after Darren while we were at work. Over that time, Rebecca and I got to know each other more as well and I always thought that she was quite an attractive woman, who dedicated a lot of time to bringing up her only son.

Then one day, Geoff said that he was going fishing with his mates and would be staying out that night, as they were hoping to catch some fish first thing in the morning. That evening I decided to invite Rebecca over for a chat, as I knew her son would be at his father’s place, while my son Darren was at his grandma’s. While talking, we got stuck into some wine and then to my surprise, she pulled out a joint, which we both enjoyed. We talked and laughed and then turned on some music and started dancing. One thing soon led to another and before we both realised what was happening, the dancing got more erotic and sexual. I don’t remember who led whom to the bedroom, but we suddenly found ourselves in bed having some fun.

I suddenly got up in the early hours of the morning, aware of someone else’s presence in the bedroom and as I opened my eyes, I was shocked to see Geoff standing there! I then sprang out of bed, waking Rebecca up at the same time. We both stood there staring at him in horror, wondering what the hell the son of a gun was doing back so early from his goddamn fishing trip!

Geoff then starting screaming his head off, asking me what the Hell was going on, while accusing me of cheating on him and being unfaithful at the same time. I tried defending myself, by telling him this had never happened before and that we just had too much to drink. He just kept on ranting and raving and although I was with a woman and not a man, he still accused me of infidelity. I finally managed to calm him down, by reassuring him that it would never happen again.

After that, things weren’t the same and I knew that Geoff was keeping an eye on me and I felt like I was being watched all the time. Then one day, I rang him at his work and to my amazement; I found that he hadn’t gone in. He told me later, that he had left work early; to see a mechanic about a problem he was having with his car, which I already knew about, so naturally I believed what he said. That was until I rang him about two weeks later and found that he wasn’t at work again. This time, his excuse was that he had an emergency job he had to do on the road, regarding his work and naturally, as I had no proof, I had to believe him again.

Then one day, when he was out in the garage, his cell phone rang and when I picked it up, I saw the name Mandy flashing on the screen. I waited for it to stop ringing and then I went through all his text messages to see if I could find out anything. Then all of a sudden, I realised that Mandy was a girl who works with him and then it all made more sense.

I found more texts, not only from her, but from him as well and later when I questioned him about it again, he said that she was a work colleague and the calls and texts were all work related. I had no choice, but to believe the bastard again.

But from then on, I was quite suspicious and things started to change. We weren’t the happy-go-lucky couple we once were. As things got worse, I kept seeing Rebecca on the side more often. Then one day, Geoff came home early from work and sprung the two of us in bed again. I think that was the last straw, as I had promised him that this wouldn’t happen again.

Things really started going down the drain from then on. Geoff started going out at all odd times of the day and night, while making flimsy excuses and I realised that sooner or later, this relationship was going to end. It finally came to a head one day, when he told me that he didn’t love me anymore and he wanted to move on. He never told me with whom, but I always suspected that it was Mandy. Although I felt sad and disillusioned, I knew that things hadn’t been the same. The trust and loyalty we both had were gone and we had destroyed our relationship in our own way. Two weeks later, Geoff moved out after almost six years of being married and thank God, I had Darren to keep me from going insane. I just couldn’t believe how quickly it all went wrong and within a year, we were divorced. Isn’t it bloody funny, how time just slips away?

I finally got custody of Darren and Geoff had to pay me alimony, which he wasn’t too happy about. Although I was very disappointed in how things had turned out, I knew I had to start all over again. So I made up my mind, to go with the flow and deal with it. I then started going out to clubs and venues and I even dated again and that’s how I ran into Roger.

Roger told me that he had been in the Special Forces for many years and had just got out a few years ago. He said that he was now looking to settle down with someone special and start a family. Roger was a bit older than Geoff and he was more financially stable as well. He was into real estate, buying and selling houses when I first met him and he seemed to be quite a nice guy, who knew what he wanted in life. He also liked Darren as well, which was very important to me.

We got to know each other more as time went by and then two years later, we decided to get married. A short time later we were lucky enough to have a baby girl, which made us both very happy. During this time, we moved into a house which we purchased together and although, it was a bit of a derelict, we put our shoulders to the wheel and brought it up to a liveable standard. Darren got on well with his new sister and everything was fine for a while.

Then a couple of years later, the real estate market had a small crash. So to make ends meet, I got a part time job at a local cafe and that’s how I met Sarah. She was young and petite and I had an instant attraction to her. Sarah and I got to know each other better over time and I wasn’t surprised, when I found she was a Bi. We then started seeing each other for a little fun on the side and all was good for a while. That was until Roger came home and caught us in bed. Later, I just couldn’t believe that I had let myself get caught in the same way again.

As you could just imagine, Roger was totally disappointed to find me in bed with another woman and naturally we got into an argument. I lied through my teeth, trying my best to explain that this had never happened before, but I knew that he really didn’t believe me. I then tried to convince him that it would never happen again and I think he finally believed me. Things were then fine for a while and with the help of my parents looking after the kids, we managed to go on a few holidays by ourselves.

Things were slowly starting to get better between the two of us, but then one day at a party, I had a bit too much to drink. I also started feeling a bit horny and light headed, as there were many nice looking males and females over there.

As the night went on, Roger and I were drinking and dancing having a good time, when this really attractive girl, joined us on the dance floor. Although it was just a dance at the time, I knew she had a soft spot for me, as she had been eying me all night. We had a few more dances and later we exchanged phone numbers and a short time later, I started seeing Yvette on the side. It wasn’t that the sex with Roger wasn’t good; it was just that I occasionally missed that female touch.

This went on for almost a year, until one day when Roger sprung Yvette and me having fun in the spa together. As usual, he accused me