Dating For Real: Attract Him. Seduce Him. Make Him Yours...for Women

By Thom McFadden

How do celebrities create the hypnotic characters we fall in love with? It's learned behavior, based upon the secrets of the trade and now you can be That Woman...the one with charisma, sex appeal, compassion and infectious humor...the IT girl, no matter who you are or what you look like. Thom McFadden, Acting Coach to the Stars teaches you what actors know and how to do it.
There has never been a dating how-to book like Dating for Real. This is different. Actors spend years developing their craft and stepping into different roles. They learn the voice, mannerisms, body language and tempo required to portray a character, whether a smoldering vamp like Elizabeth Taylor plays in Cat on a Hot Tin Roof, the delightfully charming Zoe Hart of Hart of Dixie, or the endearingly quirky Blair Waldorf of Gossip Girl. Each of these wonderfully sexy women is character, and with the right training, you too could play her. But rather than that, how about playing the role of your life—the sexy woman who men are drawn to and women want to be friends with. The confident woman who walks into a room and looks like she owns it, even if inside she’s terrified. What about that woman who never lets other people get under her skin. Rather, she is the goddess of her life. How would your life be different if you could just change a few little things you do?
Dating for Real will give you the inside information you need to create the image you want to project as well as instill you with confidence to gracefully deal with any situation that comes up whether giving a presentation, networking at a party, nailing that job interview or getting that guy sitting in the corner to become enchanted with you. Learn the inside tricks that make good actors great and take a leading role in your life. Do you dare? If so, there is just one more question...
Are you ready to seriously ignite your dating and social life? Well, are you?

• Language: English
• Publisher: Thom McFadden
• Release date: May 14, 2012
• ISBN: 9781476280776

Thom McFadden

Author, Actor, Communication Coach. Thom McFadden has been featured in many movies.He has guest stared in over 100 television shows. Thom is called the “Coach to the stars.’ Thom has guided actors, writers, producers, directors and hundreds of other industry professionals to realize their full potentials. To learn more about Thom’s extensive career and credits visit the internet movie database at www.imdb.com. To see some video clips of some of the movies Thom has appeared in, click below:

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Dating For Real

Attract Him. Seduce Him. Make Him Yours…for Women

By Thom McFadden

Smashwords Edition

ISBN Digital: 9781476280776

www.lifestand.com

All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced {except for inclusion in reviews}, disseminated, transmitted, or utilized in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, or by any information storage and retrieval system, or the internet/worldwide web, without permission in writing from the author or publisher.

Cover Design by Laura Dawn Lewis

First American Edition 2012

Copyright © 2012 by Thom McFadden; Published by Lifestand

Woodland Hills, California

United States of America

Disclaimer: Material and advice in this book is presented for informational purposes only. It is not intended to substitute the judgment of a qualified professional who has examined or is treating any individual patient or client.

This book is dedicated to Nancy,

My lover,

my soul mate,

my life,

and the greatest date I ever had.

Foreword

Dating Success

How do some people develop instant rapport and others never get off the ground? How can you turn on your sexuality, reveal your humor or display your passion at the drop of a dime – when you need to? How can you regain control in the dating arena – and get what you need?

It’s not about what you look like, who you are or how much money you make. Dating success, like acting, relies on your ability to control your image and develop the right persona for each specific situation. You have these personas, or sides of your personality, already. You just have to understand ways to turn them on regardless of your actual mood.

If you're not a celebrity, you've probably never learned these skills. If you're tired, discouraged or frustrated, how can you shine the real you through? Now you can learn the secrets of Dating For Real from the acting coach to the stars. Learn and practice your new skills with exercises that boost your confidence and self-esteem. Bust out of your comfort zone.

Would you like to feel better about yourself or have the confidence to walk into a room full of strangers and meet the man of your dreams? Master the techniques and strategies stars use. Reveal the psychological gestures appropriate for each situation – and stay in control of your life and its outcome.

What's holding you back? What are you waiting for? Let's identify each role within you, and each role yet to be revealed. Learn easy and proven ways to rekindle your passion, reveal your sexuality and display your humor - on call.

Have you ever wondered how celebrities keep reinventing themselves? Have you noticed that many celebrities aren't physically attractive, but you find them attractive anyway? How do they do it? They do it by developing different roles. They rehearse and draw upon identities within their own personality to play in each character. Identify what characters you want to portray, and when. Then use them to display the best you possible.

Thom McFadden shares the acting (and dating) secrets of the stars. Your characters will empower you. Discover your funny zone, rekindle your passion and reveal your sexuality. Let’s Act.

TABLE OF CONTENTS

Foreword

Introduction

Chapter 1: Trust and Rapport

Chapter 2: Pacing

Chapter 3: Opinions & Beliefs

Chapter 4: The Dating Truth Meter

Chapter 5: Your I AM Role

Chapter 6: The Creative Wheel of Human Behavior

Chapter 7: Passion & Humanities Role

Chapter 8: Dating for Real Character

Chapter 9: Being Funny

Chapter 10: Your I AM—Sexuality/Desire Role

Chapter 11: Desire

Chapter 12: Flirting

Chapter 13: Creating Empowered Characters

Chapter 14: A Work in Progress

About the Author

EXERCISES

Exercise 1: Opinions & Beliefs

Exercise 2: Feelings & Meanings

Exercise 3: Building Rapport

Exercise 4: Getting to Your Goal

Exercise 5: Using What You’ve Learned

Exercise 6: Language Through Behavior

Exercise 7: Creating your Wheel of Human Behavior

Exercise 8: Projecting a Winning Attitude

Exercise 9: Awards

Exercise 10: Portraying the Real You

Exercise 11: Developing Humor

Exercise 12: Banish the Blues

Exercise 13: Mood Adjusters

INTRODUCTION

"Life is a stage and we are merely players."

-Shakespeare

Dating. It's fun. We can all agree, meeting the right person, listening, learning and opening up is a refreshing adventure. You meet new personalities, discover new viewpoints and understand new lifestyles. Sometimes it leads to romance, other times it leads to friendships or, at the least, an enjoyable evening. Dating can make you feel a plethora of emotions – from exhilarated to nervous and giddy.

Dating For Real is backed by extensive research and experience with linguistics and dramatic performance. Dating For Real explains how your personalities work, which aspects of these personalities are important in the dating realm, and how you can use this dynamic within your own life to control your outcomes and reach your dating goals.

Dating For Real is not another self-help program. Instead, it explains original techniques that, until now, were only available to actors and celebrities. You’ll walk through practical exercises that strengthen your confidence. You’ll discover original strategies used to coach actors and other entertainment professionals on character creation.

No other book or training course marries this winning combination. You'll create characters to reach your objectives the way actors do on stage and screen. You'll understand the body language and angles involved within each personality – from your Humanities to your Humor and Sexuality character. You'll find the power to succeed in the dating arena.

But before you begin, you need to commit to exploring the concepts and techniques you learn. You need to think seriously about your dating success and trust the outcome. You need to think carefully about the qualities you seek in a mate, and the qualities you have to offer. Be honest, open and optimistic.

What are your dating objectives? What's your ideal outcome? Would you like to find your soul mate? Would you like to play the field? Or do you just enjoy flirting? Facing new people and exposing yourself is always challenging. It’s a constant juggling act to know how much and how little to reveal. So learn how to control your image.

To get what you desire, you need to be in charge. Dating For Real gives you the skills and control to reach your dating objectives. Congratulations on your new journey into friendship, passion, love, sex and