Should I Divorce? 11 Questions To Answer Before You Decide to Stay or Go

By Jennifer Jessica

Victim of adultery, abuse, or just fed up with your present marriage and life ?

If you’re contemplating a divorce, then you’re already aware that you are considering making one of the most significant decisions of your life. There are so many issues to evaluate: finances, children, compatibility etc. You may feel like throwing in the towel one day, yet feel like you want to persevere in your marriage the next. There’s a good chance you’re losing sleep over this decision. You may even feel like you’re going crazy.

We’re surrounded by examples of marriage, both discouraging and inspirational. On the one hand, we have the example of the infamous 72-day marriage of Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries. On the other hand, we have the inspirational example of Dana and Christopher Reeve. Christopher (most famous for his role as Superman) married Dana in 1992, but was paralyzed in an equestrian accident in 1995. Dana cared for Christopher until he died in 2004, and Dana passed away soon after his death.

Was Kim right to give up on her marriage after 72 days? Was Dana robbed of a rich life with a fully functional partner, or did she make the right decision? The decision to remain married or to divorce is a highly personal, and subjective decision. No one but Kim knows if she should have left, and no one but Dana knows if she made the right decision when she chose to stay.

In a national survey divorced Americans were asked if they wished they had worked harder to save their marriage, and if they wished their ex had worked harder to save the marriage. A surprising 62% of the divorced Americans surveyed said they wished their ex had worked harder to save the marriage, and only 33% of the people surveyed answered no to both questions. Several other studies have come to similar conclusions: that the majority of divorced Americans wish that either they, or their ex, had worked harder at the marriage before deciding to divorce.

Eleven Questions to Ask Yourself Before You Get a Divorce

Your decision to work on your marriage or to get a divorce is an emotionally charged decision. The following eleven questions address the most important pillars of marriage and the issues couples consider the most important factors necessary for a successful union. As we address each topic, we encourage you to ask yourself the questions presented, and to evaluate your answers. Are there ways to constructively deal with the problem, or is the relationship beyond repair?

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• Language: English
• Publisher: LaurenzanaPress
• Release date: Mar 12, 2012
• ISBN: 9781937918187

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SHOULD I DIVORCE? 11 QUESTIONS TO

ANSWER BEFORE YOU DECIDE TO STAY OR GO

Jennifer Jessica

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Table of Contents

Introduction: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

1. Money: How Will a Divorce Affect Me Financially?

2. Sexual Fulfillment: How Will a Divorce Affect My Sexual Fulfillment?

3. Happiness: Will a Divorce Make Me Happier?

4. Division of Labor: Will a Divorce Make My Life Any Easier?

5. Lack of Respect: Will a Divorce Help Restore My Emotional Health?

6. Different Lifestyles and Goals: How Will a Divorce Affect My Life Goals?

7. Falling Out of Love: Will a New Love Satisfy Me?

8. It’s Not Just About Me: How Will a Divorce Affect the People I Love?

9. Addictions: Is My Partner’s Addiction Serious Enough to Warrant a Divorce?

10. Bad Behavior: Is My Partner’s Bad Behavior Too Much to Tolerate?

11. Issues of Morality: Is a Divorce Necessary to Protect My Sense of Morality?

Conclusion: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Introduction: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

If you’re contemplating a divorce, then you’re already aware that you are considering making one of the most significant decisions of your life. There are so many issues to evaluate: finances, children, compatibility etc. You may feel like throwing in the towel one day, yet feel like you want to persevere in your marriage the next. There’s a good chance you’re losing sleep over this decision. You may even feel like you’re going crazy.

We’re surrounded by examples of marriage, both discouraging and inspirational. On the one hand, we have the example of the infamous 72-day marriage of Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries. On the other hand, we have the inspirational example of Dana and Christopher Reeve. Christopher (most famous for his role as Superman) married Dana in 1992, but was paralyzed in an equestrian accident in 1995. Dana cared for Christopher until he died in 2004, and Dana passed away soon after his death.

Was Kim right to give up on her marriage after 72 days? Was Dana robbed of a rich life with a fully functional partner, or did she make the right decision? The decision to remain married or to divorce is a highly personal, and subjective decision. No one but Kim knows if she should have left, and no one but Dana knows if she made the right decision when she chose to stay.

A national survey of 1,503 adults conducted in 2003-2004 asked Americans several questions about marriage and divorce. As part of the survey, divorced Americans were asked if they wished they had worked harder to save the marriage, and if they wished their ex had worked harder to save the marriage. A surprising 62% of the divorced Americans surveyed said they wished their ex had worked harder to save the marriage, and only 33% of the people surveyed answered no to both questions. Several other studies have come to similar conclusions: that the majority of divorced Americans wish that either they, or their ex, had worked harder at the marriage before deciding to divorce.

What does this tell us? It tells us that a lot of Americans feel they have rushed into divorce. If you’re reading this, you’re obviously taking the time to evaluate your relationship before making a decision. It is our hope that we can help you with that process so